I am in a bit of a strange situation. My mother who lives with me and my husband(always has due to her being unable to work) recently had some health problems resulting in a two week hospital stay. Long story short she unknowningly had horribly uncontrolled diabetes and ended up getting a huge infected wound and both issues made the other issue worse. Since she doesn't have a job(other than taking care of my kids which we dont pay her directly for but gift her in taking care of all of her expenses which we would do either way) she qualifies for the county "general assistance" program which will pay her hospital bills where she (or us) couldnt. the trick is that she must apply for/recieve all other benefits including food stamps in order for them to pay her hospital bills and her followup care which she desperately needs. So now we have $200/mo in food stamps for however long they deem her unable to work. My ethicial issue with this is that we consider her just part of our family and we are not hungry. However, we do need help with her medical care and managing her diabetes and getting her healthy again. We bought her a treadmill and are doing a low-carb paleolithic type diet which has resulted in excellent blood sugar control and weight loss for her and thats not exactly cheap. But still, we would not have applied for food stamps if we didn't have to to get her the medical care.
so in my situation, would you let the money just sit out there unused? use them to support local co-op type businesses we normally cant afford to really support? use them to contribute to the food bank/salvation army? use them for our family with no guilt and spend all the money we can afford to ensure she gets all the health support she can? spend them on candy and soda? last one was a joke :)
I know I'm probably overthinking this but thats just how i operate.