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Is the hospital really gonna hold me for two days?

post #1 of 11
Thread Starter 

This is my first pregnancy, and we're birthing in a hospital with a wonderful midwife who does mostly homebirth. I'm a supporter of homebirth but it's not for us this time around.

 

I just read somewhere that most people stay in the hospital for two days after giving birth vaginally. Really?! Why? That seems really long. Are you just so physically exhausted you can't get up and go home? Are there laws that they have to keep the baby for... something?

 

I like hospitals OK, but have no interest in sitting around in one for two days after giving birth. We're planning on laboring at home and only heading to the hospital once things get serious, and I was hoping we could just get in, have the baby, and get out.

 

A lot of the posts I've seen seem to be about staying as long as insurance will allow you... do people really like hanging out in hospitals that much?

post #2 of 11
This is one of the many reasons that we are going with homebirth this time. I felt great after I had DS2 and wanted to go home a couple of hours after the birth. The hospital refused to discharge me, stating that if I chose to leave it would be "against medical advice" in which case insurance wouldn't pay the bill. So I felt trapped there! I had to spend the night & the whole time I just wished that I was at home with my baby. Is a birth center an option for you?
post #3 of 11
Thread Starter 

We're definitely going to birth at this particular hospital, a birth center isn't really an option. The midwife actually likes the hospital pretty well, she said they're good about letting her just do her thing.

 

I was wondering what the consequences of just bailing were - I mean it's not like I'm under arrest or anything. But not having insurance cover things would definitely be a problem. Sigh.

 

I was sort of on the fence about hiring a doula, but I think if I'm going to be stuck in the hospital for two damned days I'd like someone who knows the "system" who can help me navigate some of that stuff.

 

God help them if they try to insist on keeping my baby in the nursery or something (though the midwife says they're generally good about that). And if I'm too tired to go raise hell myself, I'll recruit my father-in-law to do it. Raising hell is a favorite pasttime of his whole side of the family, and after working as a cop for 20 years I don't think he's scared of anything. Except maybe his mother. But I'll only play that card if it's *really* bad, I'd rather fight a grizzly bear than cross that woman.

post #4 of 11

I think it depends. I don't know anything about where you live, but HERE if you birth with a midwife they release you as soon as the midwife says you're good to go. I know one couple who were released 4 hours after their baby was born, and another who begged to stay a bit later because it was the middle of the night. I know someone who was kept a bit later because the pediatrician needed to sign off on the baby because he was breathing a bit fast and they wanted him to be observed for a while.

If you have someone who is responsible for baby's care outside of the hospital, who will be checking you out at home and making sure baby is nursing/peeing/pooping normally and you're bleeding is in check (etc etc) then they're happy to let you go earlier.

 

But again, that's here. Your hospital might have different policies.

post #5 of 11
Thread Starter 

Thanks Grace, I guess it's not at all surprising that each hospital has its own policies. But I'm glad to hear that not *every* hospital is totally draconian. That will calm my nerves about it until I can ask the midwife about our particular hospital.

 

My husband said to me "now you're just making up things to worry about because you ran out of actual problems." Yeah maybe a bit.

post #6 of 11

I'm with Astraia- I think that we are both Canadian. After a natural hospital birth in my province (Ontario), you are free to leave after you are up and walking around and you have gone to the bathroom. If all that is in order, usually the Midwife or OB discharges you. I have a couple of good friends who are nurses and they said that the minute that you are admitted, they are already planning for your discharge. Our hospitals are free and packed! Also, your baby room's in with you (unless it's in the NICU). We don't do the whole nursery thing anymore. Sadly I will be having my third c-section this time. With my first, I stayed the whole three days. With my second, I left during day two- I missed my older child at home. With this one... I think that I am going to look at the three days as a holiday and bonding time with my new baby. I am totally going to stay the three days and watch tv and read magazine's in peace and just nurse and cuddle my baby as much as I want. When I return home, there will be a three year old and a five year old wanting me too! I tend to need the help nursing at the beginning and without having a midwife this time (to help me at home after- sooooo sad), I will really need the help of the nurses during that time.

post #7 of 11
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Originally Posted by KM84 View Post

Thanks Grace, I guess it's not at all surprising that each hospital has its own policies. But I'm glad to hear that not *every* hospital is totally draconian. That will calm my nerves about it until I can ask the midwife about our particular hospital.

 

My husband said to me "now you're just making up things to worry about because you ran out of actual problems." Yeah maybe a bit.



It's also the midwife thing. The midwife makes a BIG difference. If you have an OB or the on-call doctor then a lot of that is just following hospital policy, but midwives seem to have their own umbrella of policies that can often be quite different from how the hospital does things.

Definitely worth asking your MW about, but try really hard not to worry about it because a lot of it probably won't apply!

post #8 of 11

I have a son who is 2 and I stayed for the 2 days. I went in on 1.7.10 at 6ish in the morning and he was born at 7:45 PM They were wonderful in the hospital. I stayed that evening and rested and the nurses helped with my baby and woke me up for feedings. (i absolutely wanted to breast feed) Then we stayed the next day for the full day and got my sons PCP figured out, as well as birth certificate, and other appointments and concerns taken care of (also they like to moniter a boy if he has a circumcision) Then we left the following afternoon. I know that 2 days seems like a long time, but its nice to have help and have someone there to answer questions or show you tricks on breast feeding because you can take every class in the world offered to you and that still will not completely prepare you when you have your bundle of joy in your arms that day.

 

I hope everything goes well for you. BTW when is your due date? Mine is 5.12.12 (day before mothers day!!)

post #9 of 11

With 6 kids at home, I am forsure staying at the hospital for the full 2 days to get some peace and quiet. LOL.My hospital is great and they even have post natel massage and aromatherapy, so its not all that bad.

post #10 of 11

I gave birth with a very natural midwife in the hospital on Sunday 1am. They still came up with all kinds of reasons (baby related, which was doing fine, but because of the weekend a lot of procedures didn't happen before Monday) why I should stay longer and longer, prolonging my stay to Monday night (they wanted Tuesday night). Yes, I could have insisted on leaving, but they just might not be as happy to release you. Best to ask what their standarts are ahead of time if you plan to go home after 4hrs.

post #11 of 11

Check with your hospital and your midwife. Here, the standard stay is two nights after the baby is born, I think it's three nights for c-section moms. I think that's a combination of both hospital and insurance policy. But, it seems pretty easy to get an early discharge. You just need to have your OB/midwife sign off on you, and your pediatrician sign off on the baby. We'll probably do that this time, and I don't see it being a problem, because our midwives are based in the hospital and our pediatricians round there every morning.

 

I didn't mind the two-night stay with DS. I was exhausted after laboring all night and couldn't do much other than hobble back and forth to the bathroom. It was nice to order food and have the nurse there to help us. My hospital is great about rooming-in and breastfeeding support, so that's a factor I guess. We also had a private room - I've had friends in other cities that had shared rooms post-partum, which I would have trouble with. Hopefully the birth will be a bit smoother this time around and I'll be ready to get back into my home life.

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