My 3rd c/s is scheduled for Monday and will hopefully be on Sunday if I can get my prodromal labor contractions to pick up before my pre-op appointment on Sunday (my OB is on call and can do it then, Monday is with the attending on the floor).
We planned a VBAC, but a transverse baby left us no other choice. My DH knows there is no other way, but is reacting very badly. My first c/s was truly an emergency due to fetal distress (caused by too much intervention beforehand, but once we got there it was an emergency) and the epidural didn't work quickly enough. When he was brought into the OR, the first thing he heard was me yelling that I could feel them cutting, so needless to say, he didn't deal with that one well at all.
With our second, we planned an HBAC, but ended up transferring. The c/s was necessary, but not emergent, so the whole process went much better and more respectfully from my perspective and I felt ok with the outcome and much more at peace with my son's birth because we had done everything there was to avoid a c/s and made a choice to save either of us serious injury or our lives. I knew DH had been really upset that the HBAC had not worked out, once we transferred, he was more upset than I was (granted, I had been in active labor for 30+ hours at that point), but until today, never knew how unpleasant he found the whole process.
He's now become morose over the scheduling of this birth. He knows with a transverse baby there is no other option, but he's just really not dealing with it well. I suggested he not be in the OR (not what I want, but I don't need the negativity if he can't get it together) and he said he wants to be there. Does anyone have any suggestions on ways to make this easier on a partner?