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post #21 of 151

About $100 per kid. But I would be surprised if it is that much considering we have either gotten used, upcycled or clearance deals. Right now, the most expensive item is dd's American Girl doll, she really, really wants it.

 

 

post #22 of 151
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You all must have little kids.  Once they get older (tweens and teens) things seem to get $$.  Plus not having family is a problem at times like this.(means I'm the only one to buy stuff for DS)

 

 


Yes, my kids are still fairly young: 10, 7 and 4. So that does save us a lot! Plus, we are fortunate that there are a lot of grandparents who like to spoil our kids with gifts. My mother spends at least $100 per kid, so that is a huge help! (Of course, she doesn't always get them gifts on the  list... but that's a whole other issue.)

 

post #23 of 151

I'm aiming for ~$80 each.  I'm figuring $30 for the gift from us, $20 for a joint gift from their sibs, $15 from the pajama fairy (yeah, started that when we only had one...now we have 6!) and $15 for stockings.  I'm working on making a number of gifts (some for the kids, many for extended family.)  We really try to emphasize activities: sledding day with family, going out to cut the Christmas tree, caroling, etc... 

post #24 of 151

I would think closer to $150-200 per kid.  We usually get one big gift for each child, plus books, art supplies, a small toy for the stocking, new pj's, maybe a warm fleece or hat.  It doesn't seem extravagant Christmas morning, everything under the tree gets worn or used all year long.  

 

 

We don't buy a lot during the year and the grandparents do not give gifts at all.  Not for birthdays or holidays.  We seem to come from a long line of Scrooges.  greensad.gif  So it all falls to us.  In some ways, it makes it easier on me.  I don't have to deal with an influx of plastic crap.  But then, I do spend more since I am the only one buying.  

post #25 of 151

Well, both daughters (ages 5 and 8) want American Girl dolls (dolls plus "starter set" accessories) and each are $180. I am thinking this is crazy, but also thinking this is all they will get from DH and me. Well, plus Christmas Eve pj's and a few small stocking items. So maybe $200 per child? Does anyone know if AG does free shipping on Black Friday? Oh, and we do not buy toys/presents for the girls except at Christmas and birthdays. Plus...they play dolls ALL THE TIME together - school, hospital, etc. Still, DH is not completely on board, and it feels very extravagant.

post #26 of 151

my DD wanted the american girl doll but I just can't support such a greedy company! What business    do they have charging that much money for a DOLL? I got her two madam alexander dolls and extra outfits instead and she was sooooo happy!

post #27 of 151

probably $250--$300 each.  But I have older children. 

post #28 of 151

We will be keeping it under $50. DS isn't quite 2 yet and doesn't expect anything anyway. He loves cars, so we are planning on getting him a few hotwheels cars and a track, a stuffed kitty, and a couple of board books. 

post #29 of 151

American Girl- The first one that entered our home was purchased by a Grandmother who always wanted to have a daughter, so, the money was never an issue. I do agree that American Girl is greedy, and the quality isn't what it was when it was owned by Pleasent. However, since her sister's now have dolls, my youngest sees them and how much fun they are, and wants one. In my kids defense, they do play with them a lot and they aren't particular about having all the stuff that you can buy for the dolls. They also have knock off brand dolls and they love them just as much.

 

 

I am also making several homemade gifts, which is why I imagine their Christmas gifts will be much less- dd9 is getting a pirate outfit for her AG doll, a pirate map, and flag that I made. DD7 is getting a child sized dog house, she loves animals. SHe is also getting a pillow with pictures of her dogs on it. DD4- still unsure about

 

I am making my hubby a knit tie, which I know he will love and a t-shirt.

 

The grandparents are getting clay plaques for their front door. We made these for very cheap at our local pottery place.

 

 

post #30 of 151

FYI:  My dd's grandma buys American Girl dolls/clothes on ebay for her for less than half than it would be new.  Usually good condition things, and my 5 yo dd doesn't know the difference.  :)

post #31 of 151

sidenote-My girls have 5 american girl dolls between them all bought when american girl was owned by pleasant company, they belonged to my sisters and I. 2 of the dolls had limbs reattached and the service was very good, however the new clothes I ordered from them were of much poorer quality then the original clothes from my childhood. Plus I can not wrap my brain around the plethora of outfits some of the historical dolls have. It's just not realistic.  I have bought some clothes on etsy that were of much better quality then the american girl company doll clothes.

 

 

Also- regarding amount spent, I think there are a lot of factors that go into this.  My friend thinks I spend a lot on my girls but they do not get toys throughout the year. They get a present at Christmas, at Easter and at their birthday. She spends less on her sons holiday presents but she also buys him a toy pretty much every single time they walk  into a store. And as people have said if they have family who buy the kids presents (they want) then the parents don't have to buy as much.

 

The amount per kid will vary. they have each requested one item that we will get them.  Oldest's request will be about $50-60, middlest will be about $50 and Littlest will be about $40. Then all together they will get  the "big present" that they share. I will spend about $80.00 on lalaloopsy and accesories. $10-15 on stocking stuff per kid. and I will probably make them some toys as well.   so about $300 for all the kids.

post #32 of 151
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I'm aiming for ~$80 each.  I'm figuring $30 for the gift from us, $20 for a joint gift from their sibs, $15 from the pajama fairy (yeah, started that when we only had one...now we have 6!) and $15 for stockings.  I'm working on making a number of gifts (some for the kids, many for extended family.)  We really try to emphasize activities: sledding day with family, going out to cut the Christmas tree, caroling, etc... 


$15? Yeah -that's what I figured. I'm sick - like actually mentally ill - where stockings are concerned. I'm trying hard not to go so crazy this year, but my stockings usually come in at somewhere around $100 each.

 

We do PJs on Christmas Eve (got that idea here at MDC), and I think I may have forgotten to figure them into my total. They're somewhere around $20-$25 per child.

 

post #33 of 151

I have never, ever spent more than about $50 per child.  I never had it to spend.  As a single mom with 3 kids not getting child support, we just made it month to month as it was.  My kids got a few things every Christmas but it really wasn't that much.  I taught them from the time they were old enough to get it that gifts were because I loved them and not because they had been good or bad.  I also never taught them about Santa.  I was very, very disallusioned as a child when I was the best I could be and I didn't get much of anything as a gift - my parents weren't all that well off either - so I promised myself then that I would never do that to my kids.  They knew if they didn't get a lot that it was because we couldn't afford a lot.

 

I start shopping right after Christmas.  I pick up things on sale all year long.  I also make every member of the family (3 kids and spouses and 11 grandkids) pajamas.  They usually get the jammies and the adults get one other gift while the grandkids get one or two others depending on what we have to work with.

 

If you take into account the real reason we celebrate Christmas, and don't get caught up in the greed and materialism, your kids can have a great holiday with very little in the way of presents under the tree.  We took time to make cookies and decorate them and gave most of them away; we made fudge and gave it to the postal carrier as well as many other people; we made caramel corn and gave it as gifts; we did a lot of inexpensive creative things.  We went out and cut a tree each year until one of the girls developed an allergy to pine sap.  We took a day or two to decorate the tree and the house with everyone participating.  We went on rides to see the lights. 

 

I asked my 9 year old grandson last year if he would rather have me buy him something ready-made, send him money, or make him the traditional jammies and other clothes I make for the kids.  He didn't even hesitate before he said, "No.  I want my pajamas.  Please make my gifts.  I love it when you take the time to make things for me." 

 

My kids feel the same way even now.  They know we don't have a lot of extra money and as they need things through the year (none of us are particularly well off) we help when we have the means to do so.  At Christmas, for our family, it's more about love and spending time with each other than it is about how much we spend.  It's always been that way.  My kids never even made a list for me with what they wanted on it.  They were happy with whatever they got, they loved the clothes I made them, and it make me feel good that my children were growing up knowing that love and caring was more important than how much someone spends on a gift or a bunch of gifts. 

 

Of course, our family was different than a lot of families around us.  It still is.

post #34 of 151

Adaline's mama... those links are awesome, thanks for sharing! I definitely want to make that little wooden set for my daughter such a great idea!

post #35 of 151

My goal is really $50 each- well less for DS3 because he is just turning 1.  Not sure if I am going to be able to convince DH to stick with that.  It is really the extended family that gets us in the budgeting.  Everyone is so generous with our children that I feel like we need to be just as generous...  I know I don't really need to go overboard- but otherwise I feel really really cheap.  I am trying to talk DH into making our moms each a gift and I will make them each a gift- both would be practically free and would both be a big big hit (if he does what I am thinking...).  Also- to save money we do drawings...  Which saves you money if you are single- not when you are a family of 6...  but we agreed to it...  and you can't take little kids there and not....  

 

 

post #36 of 151
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$15? Yeah -that's what I figured. I'm sick - like actually mentally ill - where stockings are concerned. I'm trying hard not to go so crazy this year, but my stockings usually come in at somewhere around $100 each.

 

 

 



I love this.  Not that I should be happy that someone else has a weird sort of mental illness, but it makes me feel better.  :)

post #37 of 151

I normally spend between $50-$100 on each kid, and a lot of that is for practical things (clothes and such. They don't often get new clothes.) This year, I will be spending a bit more, because I'm going to get my son a (used) Nintendo DS. My daughter is getting a Leapster 2 that a friend is giving me for free, all I have to do is pay shipping. So the costs won't be equal (obviously my sons is going to cost much more) but neither of the kids are old enough to recognize this.

 

I am seriously, seriously excited about giving them these awesome gifts, because I have never gotten them a big thing for Christmas before. They will also get a few small things (art supplies and such for my daughter, board games and puzzles for my son) and clothes that they need.

 

The very smallest year we ever had was when I had $50 total to spend on all of Christmas. I made almost all of their Christmas presents that year. The only store bought presents were a Wii game for my son, and a wooden birthday cake for my daughter. (To pay for these two presents, I made and sold Christmas gifts for an online friend.)

post #38 of 151
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I love this.  Not that I should be happy that someone else has a weird sort of mental illness, but it makes me feel better.  :)



It's always nice to know we're not alone in our particular oddities.

 

The first time dh saw a stocking I'd stuffed, I think his jaw hit the floor...and bounced. :o

post #39 of 151

This is where my buy local mentality really hurts me. I cannot resist the local toy store and the nice people who own it. They do send out a holiday catalog with coupons but I still spent a little over $50 there yesterday buying Ds's gift from Santa and a nice quality toy for our 1yearold niece. It is so much more fun to shop there than the toy aisle at Target. One of Ds's presents is going to be a game and I love the games they have (starting at $19.99 and go up from there). Or I could just get him Battleship at a Target sale.

post #40 of 151

I have older kids, don't do Santa. I have spent $300 for a big family gift and then will spend an additional $30-50 total for some individual items for the older boys and don't think the baby (5 mos) will get anything other than stuff I make for him. Grandparents usually send the boys some money, and said they were sending something for the baby instead of money since babies are fun to shop for. :)

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