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post #101 of 170
We all go to bed at 10 pm ish. He gets up three times between 10pm and 9 am. Otherwise he sleeps. Usually he has one good 4 hour stretch in there.

During the day it's awake for 45, asleep for 60 minutes or more, then eating for an hour or so, then awake...
post #102 of 170

Re:  baby's schedule

 

She wakes up every 2 hours or so to eat and snuggle a bit, then usually sleeps again.  in the late afternoon/evening she will have longer awake times and then is asleep by 10 or 11 pm.  she has been waking up just once during the night, around 4am, just long enough to eat, and then right back to sleep until 7 or 8am.

 

It's pretty great lol.gif

 

 

post #103 of 170

On her good days:

Awake between 5:30-6:30

Nap in carrier while we walk 12:30-2:30 (varies)

Sleep by 11

 

On NOT good days:

Awake whenever she feels like it.

Stays awake all day, nursing pretty much constantly.

Sleeps before 11-12

Nurses 12-1

Sleeps until 2

Awake and nursing 2-2:30

Sleeps until 4

Nurses from 4-5:30 (very passionate with this feed for some reason)

 

Child will not nap during the day, no matter how long she is awake during the day.  Now, I usually have good days, with one or two bad ones during the week.  The bad days are rough, but the good days spoil me!

post #104 of 170

This baby seems to be on an every-other day schedule.  One day she'll be up almost the whole day, the next she sleeps most of the day.  Typically I get my biggest chunk from 11pm-4pm, or 1am-5am.  I haven't noticed many patterns yet.  It just depends on what we're doing that day.  For sure days we're on the go doing stuff she sleeps more than when we're hanging at home most of the day.

 

DD is having a massive gas attack whenever I eat beans.  I would hate to have to cut them from my diet since they're so cheap and nutritious...  Maybe Beano would help?  Does that stuff even work?

 

She is 5 weeks old and it's really only been in the last week that I'm having crazy PP hormonal moods.  Last time it happened right away, so I'm not sure what's up with that.  Maybe it's because this time was a c-section? 

 

I got all teary today thinking that this is my last baby.  mecry.gifDH is all for getting snipped, which is awesome, but it's so... FINAL. I know there's a long list of reasons we shouldn't have another kid. In fact, I wasn't even 100% for a while about having a 2nd baby, but now that she's here part of me wants another.  Is that weird?

post #105 of 170

dollyanna, hugs. I am in a similar family planning state, and I know what you mean.

 

sleep: DS will be 2 months on Wednesday. His routine is fairly predictably:

 

Nights (10pm-7am): He is usually down from 10pm until about 7am, waking once or twice in there. It is glorious. My first did not sleep anywhere near this well.

 

Days (7am-5pm): During the day, he has an early morning nap, usually from about 8 until 9 or 10am (I often join him for this), a midday nap (from 11am or noon until about 1pm), and then a longer afternoon nap (usually 2-4:30pm or so, sometimes with a waking in there when I have to go collect DS1 from school.)

 

Early Evenings (5-7pm): About half to one hour of this time period involves sleeping. The rest is fussy, "No, don't put me down! Wah! I'm sleepy but I don't know what to do about that!" I have become reasonably good at cooking with him in the sling.

 

Later Evenings (7-10pm): Fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss micronap fuss fuss fuss micronap fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss exhausted micronap fuss fuss (cluster-feeding the whole time.)

post #106 of 170
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Originally Posted by dollyanna View Post

I got all teary today thinking that this is my last baby.  mecry.gifDH is all for getting snipped, which is awesome, but it's so... FINAL. I know there's a long list of reasons we shouldn't have another kid. In fact, I wasn't even 100% for a while about having a 2nd baby, but now that she's here part of me wants another.  Is that weird?


IME that is not weird, since that is how I felt. Now I have #3 (totally by accident, a birth control failure) and I am all for him getting the snip so we don't have to think about it and he seems to be seriously dragging his feet. Argh. I haven't been hit much yet with the last baby blues but I expect it will come. There is no way we could have 4 and support them in a life that we'd want to give our kids, let alone send them to college or help them out later in life. But still. There is always that excitement and potential of a new baby. And I definitely do feel like I am getting much better and more relaxed about my mothering with each baby. Well, I guess it seems a bit final to him now that I want it to happen (when it was his idea and I was resistant, I guess it was a different story). Even my mom keeps asking, "its reversible, right?". Sheesh. (I know. Why is it my mom's business?!? We live downstairs from my parents and sometimes it leads to less boundaries than I would have imagined I'd have...)

 

post #107 of 170
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Originally Posted by ~pi View Post

 

Early Evenings (5-7pm): About half to one hour of this time period involves sleeping. The rest is fussy, "No, don't put me down! Wah! I'm sleepy but I don't know what to do about that!" I have become reasonably good at cooking with him in the sling.

 

Later Evenings (7-10pm): Fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss micronap fuss fuss fuss micronap fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss fuss exhausted micronap fuss fuss (cluster-feeding the whole time.)


lol ~pi, very good description of this girl. though she has a little alert awake in there too. And my second, come to think of it, though she was fussier.

 

post #108 of 170

katico - your update had me smiling throughout - you sound so happy!

 

theboysmama - I must admit I struggle with structure through the day. Bedtime itself is very structured with timing & routine but through the day I find it harder - especially in the afternoons. Yours sounds so nice though.

 

cloth diapers - not_telling we have the same problem! I cannot for the life of me figure out what the trouble is.

 

livacreature - that's great news about your work.

 

leiahs - we called the sling the magic sleep maker with ds. I do find the comments funny. For the most part I've only ever had positive comments.

 

sleep - this is not the best part of our lives right now. Dd does sleep longer chunks than ds ever did at this stage, sometimes even 4 hours but the nights aare rough. Generally 2:30am-8:30am with short wake-ups to bf. She would probably continue to sleep until 11 or so but ds waking up can be eventful so it wakes her for an hour or so. Then she is mostly awake with short 10 minute naps until early afternoon when she has a big nap, today was 2:30-6:30. The evenings are full of short naps (30 min or less) & wakeful periods that are progressively more fussy. Probably a total of around 18 hours of sleep in 24.

 

Where does everyone settle in for the long nursing sessions? We have an old armchair that is ok but not fabulous. Then a friend gave us a glider rocker with footstool which is turning out not to be better. The armchair is sort of more comfy but I like the rocking of the other, neither is great. I'm curious what others are finding works well.

post #109 of 170
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Originally Posted by MN BabyDust View Post


My DD would never make it. It's not so much nap versus night - it's all kind of the same, though she sleeps shorter times during the day and transitions to more like 3 hours after 11 pm and is more willing to go right back to sleep after nursing during the night. She pretty much only stays up for an hour at a time up until 11ish, maybe two  hours if she naps for two. I would say she probably sleeps about 16-18 hours a day.

How many hours are other people's babies sleeping? And what kind of patterns?

 


sorry about the confusion. dd2 is still sleeping a lot. and sometimes even takes evening naps but she still falls asleep for the night about 9:30ish and wakes 2x between then and around 8am (unfortunately the others are up at 6ish) My comment about not napping in the evening (preferably after 4) was directed at Lifeguard as her dd is staying up until 2am every night before they get to sleep and since she has to get up early with her ds it really isn't practical and I was just giving some suggestions that I know help with getting the baby down at a more reasonable time.

 

dd doesn't really have a schedule yet but seems to sleep a lot in the morning and a little in the afternoon with a fussy period in the evening and then wide awake from 8-9:30ish. then up 2x in the night and heading right back to bed.

 

Comments- As far as comments people don't really say them to me but when they do I usually have a rude retort. I just don't care anymore about hurting people feelings when tehy are being rude. I really hate "is she a good baby?"  (I think I will keep her:)), "does she sleep well" (Umm she's a newborn) Oh and my all time favorite (doesn't really have to do with the baby BUT) "are you guys done having kids", "you are done now, right?", "So this is it for you?", etc. Umm lame it is none of their business and we are probably done and I know it wouldn't be healthy to have another out of spite :).

 


 

 

post #110 of 170

pi - your later evenings sound just like ours only ours is more 9-2. I do not enjoy it.

 

 

post #111 of 170

PP Hormonal moods:  Oh lord, I nearly murdered my husband on Sunday.  I mean, yes - he was being a clueless man but nothing that warranted the sheer rage I felt.  Oh my.  And then it was just gone as quickly as it came.  I hate those moods so much - you feel so helpless and overcome by it, you know you're being irrational but you can't get rid of the feeling.  I wanted to break things....a lot of things.....awful.  And I was so grumpy with DD, she was just so happy and chattering away all day and I thought I would lose my mind.

 

Comfortable chairs:  I'm not nursing, obviously, but I do wonder if I should get a rocker.  People seem shocked that we don't have one....but we've managed fine so far.....there is something appealing about a nice cushy chair for long fussy nights though.  I hate chairs with hard arms though - there is nothing comfortable about that.  It would need to be a pretty cushy chair to convince me.  It would be nice for those nights when baby insists on being held, especially when they're newborn.

 

 

post #112 of 170

I have the most comfortable chair ever.  It was a gift from my mom and it has been my favorite baby item I have recieved yet.  It is a rocker/recliner from babies r us.  I really needed something since our bed is so high up off the ground, I can't just sit down on it for a minute, I have to climb up a step ladder to get up there.  We also only have a futon which is not comfortable for nursing but now that we got the hang of it we can nurse there alright.  Nothing beats the chair though.  It was expensive, like $500 but well worth it seeing as most semi decent rockers are like $300-400 anyway plus since it is a recliner as well we didn't need a footstool.

 

You guys my 3 week old baby is sleeping through the night.  I don't want to jinx it but the past few nights have been bliss.  I even woke up earlier than him this morning and tried to stick a boob in his sleeping mouth and he sucked for a few minutes and fell back asleep until 10!  We went to bed pretty late but still!  Even if this doesn't last I am really grateful for these past couple of nights especially since DP has a mancold and hasn't so much as said hi to the baby in 2 days nevermind holding him for a second so I can heat up some dinner or go to the bathroom.  Seriously I was sick for 2 weeks starting when I had him and I still did 90% of the work. Men are such babies.

post #113 of 170

emmaegbert, grr. that sounds frustrating.

 

lifeguard, hugs. 9-2 is just not reasonable.

 

Katico, I very rarely nurse in our rocker, but I do love having it. It's very comfortable and is especially nice for family when they visit because they can rock the baby to sleep. Ours was a wedding gift to my ILs, who got married because DH was on the way. The rocker was apparently FIL's family's way of saying, well, we aren't thrilled about the circumstances, but you have a baby on the way, so you need a rocking chair. (By the way, you sound do happy! I'm so happy for you.)

 

tank, hooray for some rest!

post #114 of 170
Thread Starter 

PP Hormones - I wonder if I'm having some of this and not even realizing it. Last night DH's football team was losing miserably and he threw his team hat across the room (startled DS awake), then got in bed all grumpy and threw my pillow (with the team logo on it) on the floor... I left the room and came back and his team t-shirt was in the trash. Yeah, he was being childish, but I got all grumpy and told him how silly it was, it was just a game, he needed to not take it so seriously... normally I wouldn't have said something because it just made him more mad.  I wonder if my mood/hormones are messing with my better judgment.

 

Sleep - This kid seems to have no discernible patterns at all. I usually get a 3-4 hour stretch from midnight-3 or 4 AM, but after that it could be 4 hours or 45 minutes. During the day he's mostly happily awake or sleeping... then about 5 pm the fussiness hits. Some nights it's just a little fussy, some nights it's completely inconsolable, some nights it's fitful sleep... Then anywhere from 10 pm to 1 am he'll finally give up and sleep for real.

 

AFM - My cat and my parents' dogs have fleas. We got the treatment but hadn't done it yet... and this morning while nursing Eli I found 2 of the nasty little creatures ON him. Needless to say I freaked. The animals have been drenched in spray and drops, the bedding has been sprayed and is being put through the wash, and Dr. Google is no doubt sick of me asking "how to get rid of fleas? flea bite pictures? are fleas dangerous to newborns?" and a hundred other questions. I have an army of techniques to deploy and I'm grateful that it doesn't look like any of us--especially Eli--have been bitten. These tiny disgusting nightmares have no idea the hell that's about to be unleashed upon them. No one messes with my baby boy!

post #115 of 170

Schedule: Emma's and my babies are the same age, and mine still sleeps pretty much 18-20 hours also. I feel like I ought to wake her up in the middle of the night to nurse because I can't figure out how she's getting enough. She is NOT that crazy about nursing, much preferring my pinkie to comfort suck. She nurses for food and then she's all done. I only give her one side at a time because that is all she will take. But she's got lots of diapers, so I'm going with it. As far as schedule, she sleeps most of the morning and most of the afternoon and most of the night. :P

 

The rocker is so much more comfortable for my back than the yoga ball, so I've been using that more, though it's "Dh's chair." It was seeming like dd was all done sleeping anywhere but in my arms, but she's taking a big long nap in the bassinet right now, which feels good to my poor back.

 

pp hormones: my dh had made a habit out of sleeping in the guest room, which I'm not crazy about because my parents sleep in separate rooms, and we already dtd very infrequently, and I was afraid we were headed for a loveless marriage (I know, the drama.) But then ds was still coming into my room to sleep on the mattress at night and was making all kinds of noise and requests of me, and I lost it at dh telling him he needed to take part in the nighttime parenting and stop getting his beauty sleep by himself, etc. Anyway, he's back in my bed...and I'm not sleeping as well because I'm worried about waking him up 2whistle.gif

post #116 of 170
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Originally Posted by Katico View Post I hate chairs with hard arms though - there is nothing comfortable about that.  It would need to be a pretty cushy chair to convince me.  It would be nice for those nights when baby insists on being held, especially when they're newborn.

 

 

that is so funny. I LOVE the arms on the rocker we have on loan from a friend. It keeps my arms from getting tired holding the baby (nursing or asleep). I do think they are actually wide enough so that I don't feel hemmed in by them. A footstool would really complete the comfort for me but I just use one of the kids' mini chairs. our home is *very* small and there is literally no room for a footstool anyway. The downside of a rocker is that once you have a crawling baby, its horrible for them. My son rocked over my older daughter's little fingers when she was crawling (totally, utterly by accident) and believe me a vision of her crushed/severed fingers flashed through my mind. (she was fine, but I got rid of the rocker from the living room!). Anyway, ours will be returning to its owner when her baby is born, in March.
 

 



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Originally Posted by tank View Post

You guys my 3 week old baby is sleeping through the night.  I don't want to jinx it but the past few nights have been bliss.  I even woke up earlier than him this morning and tried to stick a boob in his sleeping mouth and he sucked for a few minutes and fell back asleep until 10!  We went to bed pretty late but still!  Even if this doesn't last I am really grateful for these past couple of nights

that is awesome and I hope it keeps up.
 

 



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Originally Posted by RosemaryS-F View Post

 

The rocker is so much more comfortable for my back than the yoga ball, so I've been using that more, though it's "Dh's chair." It was seeming like dd was all done sleeping anywhere but in my arms, but she's taking a big long nap in the bassinet right now, which feels good to my poor back.

lol my husband has totally appropriated the rocker that my bestie loaned us until her baby is born. Sometimes I'll be nursing on the floor and he's sitting in the rocker and I'll think, WAIT! That was supposed to be for me! He loves having it. Apparently it was my friend's grandfather's designated chair. Its very comfortable.
 

 

post #117 of 170

I'm going to duck in here and say 8 HOURS..... yes, 8 full hours of sleep last night with no waking! Holy moly, I hit the jackpot! Then he woke up, ate, looked around for about an hour and then fell back to sleep (and slept for another 3 hours!). faint.gif Please don't hate me lol.gif

 

 

post #118 of 170

We have a rocker/recliner that I've basically been living in since DD was born. In fact, I even slept there for the first 2 weeks since it was hard to get up and down to position & nurse in bed after the c-section.  I can't remember the brand... it's the big one that's not a Lazyboy or Barcalounger.  Anyway, I use it a lot.  Usually I sit normally or use the recliner part but I rock occasionally.

 

DD definitely has evening/nightime fussiness.  Sigh.

 

post #119 of 170

Not a happy time around here. I got to go to sleep just after 5 this morning, which means I got just about 3 hours of sleep. Now dd has slept the ENTIRE day - I'm not even joking. She has now been sleeping close to 20 hours - she was awake for about 45 minutes this afternoon. She wakes up, nurses & goes right back to sleep. I'm going to go & lie down again in a bit but it seems incredibly unlikely she will sleep much longer. This is just exhausting.

 

Ds is just being awful to be around. I'm not sure if it's just 'cause I'm so tired & that is skewing my perception but I am having such a hard time being around him. I keep crying 'cause I feel so darn awful about how I feel towards him. Today I brought him to the first gymnastics lesson & it was a fiasco. Ended up leaving with him screaming & me almost in tears. It's over an hour drive & he basically screamed the whole way home.

 

Dh is grumpy - I think it is because I'm so darn grumpy but I want to just slap him & tell him to snap out of it - one of us needs to be pulled together!

 

Sigh - I'm going to go lie down & keep my fingers crossed I get a little more sleep.

 

Dd is 7.5 weeks now & this is harder than the first couple of weeks.

post #120 of 170

Trinket, ugh. Best of luck getting rid of them quickly!

 

Steph, that's great!

 

lifeguard, hugs. Do you have any possibility to put your DS in part-time preschool? I know you don't like to have him with your MIL too much. I swear, daycare made me a way better parent to DS than I would have been otherwise when he was going through tough stages. Getting a regular break from him was such a great chance to recharge my patience, and he really enjoyed it.

 

We are dealing with baby's first fever. greensad.gif He's been a little sniffly for the past couple of days, started coughing today, then late this afternoon started to become very slightly out of sorts, couldn't settle into his nap, and then tonight he spiked a fever and has been definitely out of sorts. He is finally asleep now, whew. We talked to the on call doc at our clinic tonight and are taking him in tomorrow.

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