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post #21 of 44
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 I've had major insomnia lately, though.  I started Lost on Netflix and I can't stop watching!!!  So addicting!

OOohh Lost is good!!  We watched it when it was really on.  KILLER waiting for the next episode!!

 

We are going to my ILs for Thanksgiving.  I'm so looking fwd to the break from the day to day, good food, good family, and mostly GOOD WINE!

post #22 of 44
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Charlie just got out of that phase. It took about two weeks. Last night he really only nursed twice - he went to bed at midnight, up at four, up at eightish, awake for the day around 10. Back to "normal."

 

Having to actually sit up every feed? Ugh, Carrie. Sucked bad enough having to roll over t switch boobs every three or four feedings. (I just left him to sleep with the boob in his face and he'd eventually drain that one and then I'd move him to the other.)



Id never make it til midnight!!!!  It's funny how it's all our perspective on how well our lOs sleep.  im in bed by 9:30 if i can and feel like ill keel over if LO wont go down before then!!!!  I think it's because Im OLD- I get exhausted by 3 in the afternoon and need a lOT of sleep to function- and you know how often that happens as a mother!!!!

post #23 of 44

We normally go to sleep somewhere between 11 and 3, so he fits right in with us, luckily!

 

He slept 12 hours last night (no, no straight. He also always wakes up for that 4a feeding and many others!)

 

We're doing Thanksgiving here. I'm making lasagna. I might make some bread, might buy some bread. Depends on the monkey. And then pumpkin pie and mom's bringing salad. I've never liked turkey :)

post #24 of 44
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I'm making pumpkin baked ziti with crumbled sage topping.  I hope it's good!!  It sounds amazing, so here we go.  Also, a layered pumpkin pie/cheesecake, cranberries from scratch, and garlic and chive mashed potatoes.  And brownies.  I think that's it.. oh no, and sesame green beans!  I can't WAIT!! 

post #25 of 44

I wish today was Thanksgiving, all that food sounds amazing!

 

I love a traditional pumpkin pie from scratch, so I'll make that. Also a vegan chocolate silk pie, lemon tart and crescent rolls. Yum!

post #26 of 44

Last night I made two pumpkin pies (because DH's work is having a potluck today so one of them is for him to bring).  Today I'm going to make stuffing, green bean casserole, pumpkin cheesecake, and gravy.  Basically, anything that my mom can't figure out how to veganize, I have to make winky.gif

post #27 of 44

trying to be ok that the house will still be messy but at least the table is set and we will have food and al be together tomorrow :)

 

my husband has started asking about when im going back to work ....today was the first time he verbalized it - we had planned a year off and im so not ready for a huge conflict if i stand my ground- BUT Im more not ready to return to work.  My job is very demanding and i don't think i can manage with the stages of my children- our plan was in the fall when at least DD was in school 1/2 days....UGH

post #28 of 44
So those of you on FB probably saw this already, but Magnolia has staph. I'm so freakin mad about it. She developed a bump on her vagina at the end of last week- doing some googling I figured out it was more than likely staph. Wasn't able to take her to the Dr. in Texas before we left. Made an appt with a doctor here- couldn't get our tricare info to go through so ended up paying $100 for the doctor to tell me what I already knew- my baby has staph. He only recommended warm cloths and keeping an eye on it since it had already popped. Neither Mikey and I have staph- I think she must have gotten it at her last Drs visit. That's the only place she's been without a diaper in public.

Funny thing about the doctors appointment- he was telling me how often I should bathe her (she was clean so I"m not sure what he was implying) and that I should use dye free perfume free lotion. When I told him we use coconut oil he looked as if I had 8 heads. Then when he found out I went to 42 weeks he about fell over in the floor. Its fun getting reactions out of mainstreamers sometimes.
post #29 of 44

Oh no, Stormy!  I hope she heals quickly.

 

Did anyone else get unwanted parenting advice while spending time with family yesterday?  Poor Anton needed a nap, and I tried to get him to sleep on my mom's bed, but the house was just SO noisy with people talking very loudly, and also it is a somewhat unfamiliar environment for him...anyway, he kept waking up and crying, and then my mom told my husband and I that she thought we should "just leave him for ten minutes" so that he could learn to calm himself.  She even set her oven timer for ten minutes, ugh.  DH thought it was a good idea, and encouraged me to give it a try.

 

The thing is, if I don't go to him right away, he just gets more and more worked up until he's so awake it's hard to calm him down.  If I catch him early, he'll usually nurse for a minute then go right back to sleep.

 

So I went to him anyway, and she apologized later, but it was really annoying.  I tried to very tactfully ask if everyone could be a bit quieter while he napped, but the consensus was basically no, because he needs to learn to sleep through noise.  Now, when he naps at home I don't make a huge effort to be quiet, DH and I still talk or watch movies, I unload the dishwasher, etc., but my family is just LOUD. 

 

In the end, he only got about 30 min of nap, and later fell asleep on my mom's lap for a bit. 

 

Overall I think my mom was a great mom to us, but my one major issue is that she wouldn't comfort us when we cried.  Because she somehow thought that was "encouraging" us to cry.  She is a really nice person, I think this is the way she was raised and she wasn't trying to be mean or anything.  But I think that actually caused a lot of long-term issues for me.  I'm sure I'll probably make plenty of mistakes with Anton, but it's really important to me that he can come to me for comforting if he needs it.

post #30 of 44
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So I went to him anyway, and she apologized later, but it was really annoying.  

Good for you for going to him anyway!  That's so stupid, people telling you what to do.  No way, you're the mama.  You get to decide.  Besides, he's 3 MONTHS OLD!!  It's not like he's even 6 months, or a year old where I could see letting them crank for a few minutes.  All out crying at 3 months old is baby's way of saying, "I need my mommy!!"

 

Hugs.

 

No, I didn't get any advice, just got shit about how much of a stinker DD is.  She's a handful but she's MY handful.  I don't like anyone commenting on her behaviour, except for me. 

post #31 of 44
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So I went to him anyway, and she apologized later, but it was really annoying. 



Good for you.  Listen to your instincts no matter how well meaning other people are :-)   We did not have any comments over thanksgiving, but DD did have 2 meltdowns.  She was feeling left out after the meal and then she got really tired later in the night.  Also, I have been sick she she hasn't been getting the attention she normally does, but it can't be helped since I only have so much energy.

post #32 of 44

Thanks for the support, ladies.  I'm sure I'll get even more advice when he is old enough to have meltdowns on Thanksgiving in a couple of years winky.gif

post #33 of 44

River was surprisingly mellow all day at Thanksgiving yesterday. Everyone kept commenting on what a chill baby he is, I swear he acts like that in front of others so they don't believe how hard he is usually and how much he cries all the time. But at least since he was so calm, I didn't get unsolicited parenting advice... sorry for those of you who did. I did get asked multiple times if he's sleeping through the night, both from parents and non-parents. It's like, STTN is supposed to be some kind of guage of how great a baby is or how good of a parent you are. Ugh. 

 

Well, off to the best part of T-day: pumpkin pie and coffee with whipped cream for breakfast! 

post #34 of 44
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 I did get asked multiple times if he's sleeping through the night, both from parents and non-parents. 


I mentioned that Finn was waking up hourly the past few nights and my MIL was like horrified and asked, "Why!?"  I replied, "Um...b/c he's a baby?"  These old ppl seriously must completely forget what it's like to have infants.  I hope when I'm old I'm not like that.

 

Luckily Finn was super awesome yesterday around family and his uncles got to really hang out with him and make him laugh.  It was cool!  Finn is really chill compared to how Nora was as a baby so everyone commented on that.  LOL.

post #35 of 44

Chaika, I just wanted to share a link with you about the Cry it Out technique. Of course if your mom is suggesting it, it's a little easier to just blow it off, but I think this might help your DH get on board with the idea. Most people I know think of CIO as just another parenting tool, but don't realize that it's actually harmful for the child. It sounds like you already know this, but maybe this link can help your DH embrace it as well?  http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/07/05/no-cry-it-out/#.Ts_ogmMk6so

post #36 of 44

Last two nights Charlie has forgotten how to let his mama sleep.

And he's doing more verbal communication, so what used to be headbutting is now fussing. That wakes me up more and for some reason has him slower to take the boob and be happy. Tired :P

 

He was really good yesterday, though. Mom came over for enchiladas at lunch. She took a bunch of pictures with a *gasp* real camera. So yay! Going to update his blog today! :D And then Dusty's stepbrother came by for dinner - lasagna. Oh, health :D But yum.

 

Today I'm once again hoping to go to a meeting, but we'll see how it goes. I missed it Monday. It's a Coalition of Mothers and sounds very good. I will get there eventually.

post #37 of 44
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Chaika, I just wanted to share a link with you about the Cry it Out technique. Of course if your mom is suggesting it, it's a little easier to just blow it off, but I think this might help your DH get on board with the idea. Most people I know think of CIO as just another parenting tool, but don't realize that it's actually harmful for the child. It sounds like you already know this, but maybe this link can help your DH embrace it as well?  http://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/07/05/no-cry-it-out/#.Ts_ogmMk6so



Thank you thank you thank you!  I actually didn't know about that research.  I read that blog sometimes but hadn't seen that entry.  It is now bookmarked in case my mom brings it up again.  I also read parts of it aloud to DH.  He's not always into the touchy-feely stuff, but mentioning "IQ points" works wonders on him, ha.

post #38 of 44
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Thank you thank you thank you!  I actually didn't know about that research.  I read that blog sometimes but hadn't seen that entry.  It is now bookmarked in case my mom brings it up again.  I also read parts of it aloud to DH.  He's not always into the touchy-feely stuff, but mentioning "IQ points" works wonders on him, ha.

 

 

I can totally relate to this. Anytime I mention "doing xyz can make DS smarter," DH is always on board! 

 

post #39 of 44
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Last two nights Charlie has forgotten how to let his mama sleep.

And he's doing more verbal communication, so what used to be headbutting is now fussing. That wakes me up more and for some reason has him slower to take the boob and be happy. Tired :P

 

He was really good yesterday, though. Mom came over for enchiladas at lunch. She took a bunch of pictures with a *gasp* real camera. So yay! Going to update his blog today! :D And then Dusty's stepbrother came by for dinner - lasagna. Oh, health :D But yum.

 

Today I'm once again hoping to go to a meeting, but we'll see how it goes. I missed it Monday. It's a Coalition of Mothers and sounds very good. I will get there eventually.


I guess I have a lot to look forward to since we are in a big headbutting /kicking phase.  Ahhh- the pleasures of co-sleeping ;) - 

 

post #40 of 44

Hugs to all with sleep issues. Ada has actually been sleeping quite well this past week. And she's been all smiley! It's so cute!

 

My birthday was on Thanksgiving Day and thankfully it didn't suck! LOL I got a new pair of Vibrams. DH let the kids wrap the box, so they were so excited to watch me unwrap it. BIL is in town with the baby and didn't bring the psycho wife, so it's been a lovely weekend all around. ;-)

 

My foot is slowly healing. I can actually hobble around without crutches. Maybe by New Years I can wear those fancy heels I bought when I was pregnant. Sheepish.gif

 

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