Oh no, Stormy! I hope she heals quickly.
Did anyone else get unwanted parenting advice while spending time with family yesterday? Poor Anton needed a nap, and I tried to get him to sleep on my mom's bed, but the house was just SO noisy with people talking very loudly, and also it is a somewhat unfamiliar environment for him...anyway, he kept waking up and crying, and then my mom told my husband and I that she thought we should "just leave him for ten minutes" so that he could learn to calm himself. She even set her oven timer for ten minutes, ugh. DH thought it was a good idea, and encouraged me to give it a try.
The thing is, if I don't go to him right away, he just gets more and more worked up until he's so awake it's hard to calm him down. If I catch him early, he'll usually nurse for a minute then go right back to sleep.
So I went to him anyway, and she apologized later, but it was really annoying. I tried to very tactfully ask if everyone could be a bit quieter while he napped, but the consensus was basically no, because he needs to learn to sleep through noise. Now, when he naps at home I don't make a huge effort to be quiet, DH and I still talk or watch movies, I unload the dishwasher, etc., but my family is just LOUD.
In the end, he only got about 30 min of nap, and later fell asleep on my mom's lap for a bit.
Overall I think my mom was a great mom to us, but my one major issue is that she wouldn't comfort us when we cried. Because she somehow thought that was "encouraging" us to cry. She is a really nice person, I think this is the way she was raised and she wasn't trying to be mean or anything. But I think that actually caused a lot of long-term issues for me. I'm sure I'll probably make plenty of mistakes with Anton, but it's really important to me that he can come to me for comforting if he needs it.
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