chiro- I totally get both of your questions! I am already realizing that I will miss DS when he moves to his own bed. I am not postponing it because of it but I realized that I draw comfort and connection through having him there at night just like he does. He isn't ready yet and we are just making very small steps toward it but while one part of me wants it to hurry so I can get a couple of months in my own bed, the other part is already aware that I will miss him and that it is such a short time that they need us in the really intense needy way!
As far as the vaginal swelling/aching, I have what I think you are describing. I never did with DS but this time it usually seems to correspond with a lot of walking or really prolonged standing. I wasn't sure if it was my pelvic floor? What I do know is that I don't have throbbing, more of an aching. My mw suggested maybe it was vericose veins but I don't have any throbbing. I feel a lot better if I just sit down for about 10 min. Makes me feel better to know someone else feels it! It is annoying but not all the time for me.
sunflower- super interesting! I am also on a very slow track to becoming an IBCLC. My concentration in my master's was lactation and it paid off too bc DS is tongue tied, but not posterior. We didn't get it clipped and I worked a lot to help it stretch and ensure proper nursing. I am not sure how I feel about clipping it this time if this one has tongue tie. We'll see. DH seems to be the tongue tie person, his mom had a lot of trouble breastfeeding both him and his sister and quit really early. Unfortunately, no one was able to help her or knew to look for it.
bela- hope your flight goes well! I am already thinking about our december flight. Justkate suggested some really good ones. For us, it is always about having enough in case you need it and rotating through options of what to do. The stickers though, that will definitely go a long way now, looking forward to that one in december!