I personally avoid medications even outside pregnancy WHEN POSSIBLE...there are times, when not taking them can cause more harm then taking them. This sounds like one of those cases. If this is keeping you from sleeping or causing serious risks/problems within you (or your family) then it is completely acceptable to take what a doctor who knows you're pregnant recommends. I really resisted my inhaler with my first pregnancy, and when my doctor asked why I explained that I didn't want to do anything to harm my daughter. She just looked at me for a second and then said "What do you think depriving her of oxygen is going to do...help her?". It was then that I realized we have to take care of ourselves, not just the baby. They are important, but when they are counting on you in a physical (or sometimes emotional...especially after they are born) way, we have to be at our peak too.
Weekly chat Nov 21-28 Gobble Gobble! - Page 2
I've been a bit MIA. DH was gone for a week, home less than 48 hours and then gone again for the weekend. He owes me big time :)
I hope that everyone is doing well. Tomorrow I have my ultrasound. I'm a slight ball of nerves while praying for a healthy baby. I think that I will really be able to breath easy once it is over.
My family was told the news over the weekend. Everyone is excited and they were all suprised at how far along I am. This weekend at our Thanksgiving dinner, we will tell DH's family. Or rather, I will walk in with an unhidden belly. I'm not really interested in telling them because in the past my MIL hasn't really cared. She isn't an overly kind person in private. Most people in our community know that, but there are some that I see her being so fakey fake with. Makes me gag. Anywho. We are excited and the kids ask questions all of the time! DS (6) has begun asking how the baby comes out. I'm not ready to give details.....
Remark- I don't really have advice, just hugs. I hope you can find a solution to help you soon, that sounds very stressful.
adoremybabe- hope the ultrasound goes well, tough having DH gone so often and long. I have inlaws visiting this week, probably not near what you experience but there is always a thread of what is actually being said versus what is really meant, it is exhausting.
We had our ultrasound today and it is a girl! She is lying transverse and I have an anterior placenta. This kid must be able to kick like crazy because I felt movement around 10 weeks! I thought an anterior placenta muffled movement for a while? It helped me connect to see her on the screen and I realized I had been worried that something might be wrong. Nothing showed up as wrong on the ultrasound and she is measuring exactly on for her due date. This is also a nice surprise, DS always measured 1.5-2 weeks ahead and his head was in the 90%, this little girl, is a nice normal size lol. Ok, Now I need to sleep, I am exhausted and spending a week with the inlaws is not how I want to recuperate! It is supposed to rain all day tomorrow too, now what am I supposed to do to entertain them?
Oh, and anyone that has ever cooked a turkey...I cannot find the giblets in my turkey?? I got out the neck but nothing else is inside that bird, trust me, is it possible they just forgot to put it in there? I don't need them to cook, I just wanted to make sure I was doing it right?
Remark-- I'm sorry that you're not sleeping well. As far as anti depressants, if you think you need them, then talk to your health professional. You know yourself better than anyone, do some research and keep your head up. :)
adoremybabe-- Good luck tomorrow!
Flavorfull-- Yay! I 'm loving that there are more girls lately, gives me hope for next week. As far as the turkey, they should be in there. I have never bought one where they weren't included and I always look for them since giblet gravy is a big deal at my house...
Update on the fleas, my uncle flea bombed the house today. I hope that it worked. I'm less stressed out than I was earlier in the week. The house is clean and all we have to do tomorrow is grocery shopping, make three dishes, and prep the ham and the turkey. DSS has some allergies that I thought were the croup. But he is on the mend, still not too happy about daycare but we never get a bad report. He is great there but I think he likes to take out his frustration on us when he gets home, which is ok. Change takes time. I'm not dreading Thursday like I was. I'm trying to look on to next Wednesday, when we find out the gender. I'm thankful for the wonderful life I have and I am thankful everyday so to me, Thursday is just like any other day. Except that the house is overrun with people and good food.
Flavorful, congrats on the wonderful U/S. Just ignore the IL's, some people just have to deal with family like that (I mean lets face it In-laws have a notoriously bad stereotype for some reason), and if you and your family are happy, just don't include anyone who's not...I know easier to say then to feel, but it's what I'm having to do. As for the giblets, did you check both ends??? Quite often they are hidden in the neck cavity as opposed to the back end (it makes the neck area look more rounded)!
flavorful, hooray for your little girl. glad the ultrasound calmed you.
csesky- so glad the fleas are taken care of. I think we are going to have to treat our house. I had like 3 jump on me when i walked into the girls room, and they often jump on me in my room. I am not looking forward to it either. Advantage didn't work on the dog at all, and the dollar store brand stuff we tried on the cats was weird and really liquidy. i wish we could just afford comfortis. we need to find a better flea stuff.
turkey, I don't know. I have cooked a chicken ad once I cooked a turkey but everything was inside.
we have to figure out what we are doing for thanksgiving, we are supposed to drive to georgia to be with my sisters boyfriends family. but we are really pretty sure it will devastate us financially BUT we already said we'd go and that would be pretty rude. It's just such a hard time of year. holidays, holidays, then birthdays we have two (three including my twin) in January, one in February, one in March, then the baby will come in April then my Hubs in May. This trip could upset the whole delicate balance of being able to afford bills for the next half a year. But not going would make my sisters family look bad to her future in laws. PLUS we have to fix my car before such a long trip. We can afford to fix it but not both. Uggh. My sisters going to be pissed and I feel like a heel.
my baby had a much calmer day yesterday after it's four hour awake circus show in the womb the day before yesterday. I still am not sure if it was the baby having muscle spasms or if it was my muscle but it really freaked me out. I should go hear the heartbeat to do to put my mind at ease since their was moment, just not much yesterday.
Popping up again! I'm mostly a lurker..LOL!
Remark, if you are feeling as bad as you said, there is nothing, and I mean NOTHING wrong with medication. If you're uncomfortable taking it for a long period of time maybe get a referral to a therapist as well so that way you are tackling the depression from both a medicated and non medicated point of view. Don't feel bad if you have to change the therapist before you find a good fit too, a good fit is really important when working with a therapist. You'll know if you don't agree with the therapist or don't feel comfortable enough to continue with them. You're health is important, it affects both you and your family and the baby. So take care of yourself in whatever way that means for you, just meds or therapy, or both.
Flavorfull, yay for a good ultrasound and the girl!!
I'm no help on the turkey part, I'm a vegetarian. Good luck cooking it! They always seemed like a challenge.
We have our ultrasound scheduled for the 9th and I'm suddenly so nervous! I swear the baby is a girl, I feel it and well the ring test has repeatedly said girl. I also dream I had a girl and it feels right. I'm afraid the baby won't reveal itself or that I'll be wrong or oddly enough, that I'll be right. We have a boy and I'd be thrilled with another boy too, but we want one of each...lol!
Otherwise, our Thanksgiving will be small. A friend was supposed to visit but I came down with DS's cold and she doesn't want to catch it or spread it to others in her PhD program. But I'm just so glad DH will be with us to celebrate it as a family, he was deployed last year. I made the sweet potatoes yesterday. Today I make the whip cream, pumpkin pie, and the buns. Tomorrow will be the easiest, just making the mashed potatoes and veggies while boiling a few eggs.
flavorful1, hooray for little girls! And I'm glad it was reassuring. I find early u/s aren't, but mid-pg ones are comforting because baby actually looks like a baby and has bones, etc. I think the giblets are probably in there somewhere. Usually they put them in an oven-safe papery type bag. If you can't find them and cook them (and the bag) inside the turkey, that's fine too--I've done that. I usually put them (and the neck) in the pan to flavor the juices. Definitely check all the way through the neck cavity and the butt. Either way, it will come out fine.
adoremybabe, anxious to hear how your u/s goes today. I'm sure everything will be fine, and hopefully it will give you some comfort while you deal with the family. Holidays are bad in that way, huh? I have trouble enjoying myself while trying to balance all of the obligation and competing interests.... Right now I (am blessed to) have three very old, unhealthy grandparents (75, 78, and 87), and its a PITA ensuring their participation in everything. They don't travel well, but they're all driving 3 hours tomorrow to have T-day here at my house. So DH and I, and my parents, will be sleeping on air mattresses while the old people sleep in the two beds. But it is good for them to do something different for a change I guess.
courtney, deep breaths. No matter what you decide to do, it will all be over shortly!
well my sister took it well and is going to take the two older girls with her. I am sad to not be going and sad I will miss the healthfully raised turkey. My sister met it last time she went up. Now I am trying to put together a menu for Hubs, Juniper and I. I will also check to see if my spunky 65 year old neighbor is celebrating and if not I will have him over too. I have a feeling he has nothing planned. I am also not looking forward to the grocery store, it was crazy 3 days ago, and I have seen the parking lot on the day before thanksgiving. Hubs is working but will try to get home before the girls leave and then I can at least go without kids. That will be a luxury unto itself.
Blueone, so happy your hubs will be home for thanksgiving! special days suck without Husbands.
Thursday, I'm really glad your sister took the situation well. I think my in-laws are just super duper laid back, as I've never had to deal with drama like this. So many people I know are really worried about stepping on their in-laws or parents' toes and will really bend over backwards to please them. It's just really alien to me. I certainly take mine into consideration, but for instance we're not doing Thanksgiving with them this year because we're sick of traveling so much and have two more trips planned before the baby comes. It's literally "eh, we'd rather stay home" and that's no big deal.
Then again, MY family is pretty intense about these things, but we don't deal with it at all because they're no longer in my life. To my knowledge my parents don't know I have a child already, and that's actually a good thing.
Congrats flavorfull on the girl!
AFM: DH is "working from home" today to start doing more Thanksgiving prep stuff, and OMG I'm making the turkey tomorrow! I've never made a turkey and I'm a bit nervous. My pelvis is also becoming increasingly unstable, but thankfully that just means i need to take it easy in the evenings. Earlier in the day it doesn't effect my mobility at all. By this point with Evie I was pretty much couch-ridden and had been since 14 weeks. I could do the occasional grocery shopping trip, but only if I rested for the entire rest of the day. This time around is SO much easier.
turkey's are actually pretty easy, you'll do great.
My family is laid back it's just we would be meeting her future in laws for the first time and I didn't want to come off badly. I am already missing my older girls and they are sitting in the house reading. it will not be very thanksgiving-ish without them. BUT they will have so much fun.
Hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving! Try to relax and enjoy what you have to be thankful for instead of thinking about the things that stress you out or annoy you. Good luck to those cooking for tomorrow!
We made it to Seattle last evening and I was seriously annoyed with my FIL. We are staying at his apartment while he is away for the next week and he left it dusty, with stuff everywhere that DS can get into and destroy if we are not careful. He also brought 1 safety gate for the full flight of stairs that is so crappy and cheap it doesn't work on the stairs. I went to bed really pissed off at him and DH for not making sure the apartment was ready for a toddler. When I woke up, I was clam enough to realize that I was a complete witch to DH the night before and took care of the junk lying around, rearranged some furniture to protect valuables and put the baby gate in the hall before the kitchen instead of the staircase (which is a better place for it anyways). I am just glad that DS was amazing on the trip out here (he only fussed a bit when the 2nd plane landed in Seattle) and that we have a free place to stay for the week. So much to be thankful for instead of being caught up in the little things!
I'm going into hiding. I'm apparently a target for my friends lately. Last Friday one made the comment, "I can't wait till she pops that baby out and her hormones level out." Mind you she has no children and is the one throwing a fit in the studio (literally yelling and throwing clay while I sit there and calmly throw a pitcher). I just had my other friend, mind you my best friend who is supposed to be here for the birth in April say to me, "Well you know what? You don't know him and you don't know the situation. And I don't need another mom right now." I just told her that I didn't want her hurt by a guy who is trying to pursue her while still being in a relationship with his girlfriend of five years.
Yeah. I am not answering my phone for the rest of the week. I am also coming down with a cold and didn't have the strength to go grocery shopping with my mother this morning. I really hate this though. After my miscarriage my hormones were crazy. I mean they literally made me crazy. This baby has made me calm, my DH even says, "What have you done with my wife? You know, the overbearing OCD one?" I just want to be done with today, enjoy tomorrow, buy the crib I found on sale at Babies R' Us on Friday and call it a week.
Sorry for venting, I just feel horrid. I do wish everyone a great Thanksgiving, carnivores and vegetarians!
cseky - :hugs: vent away! Should we have a weekly vent thread in addition to chat? In any case, I came here for a need to vent...so here goes!
- Sunday my mother ruined my brother's birthday dinner.
- Monday I spent the day ruminating on Mom's actions.
- Tuesday I had a research proposal torn to pieces and I have to start anew, but same deadline.
- Tuesday night I put my foot in my mouth to my cousin, who lost her 22week old baby two weeks ago, and her husband yelled at me for being insensitive.
- At the same time, my dog started chewing a leaf from my dining room table that was leaned up against a wall.
- Got to sleep eventually after much crying, realizing I'm having a hormonal surge.
- Wake up after many dreams of babydying. Wait for baby to move (s/he usually wakes up with me and gives me a couple rolls). No movement! I had to wait until late this afternoon to feel anything reassuring.
- Long day of class and work, culminating with a prof cancelling the 5pm meeting we had (and the only reason I stayed on campus).
- Walk 15 minutes to parking lot, get in car, starter breaks. Husband comes to the rescue, we push the car to get it rolling and pop the clutch.
- We get home to a totally destroyed doggie room. Chewed up stuff everywhere. The dogs haven't acted out in AGES.
Then, right before DH went to the store to get green beans ("before they run out!"), I asked him to put a hand on my belly because baby was dancing. He felt his first kick immediately. Kinda makes it all better.
Now that I've written it out, I wonder if dogs acted out because of my hormonal surge?
Good luck to all with thanksgiving festivities and trials. :)
SFMB - Turkeys are much like chicken 'cept for the timing! I'm sure you'll do wonderfully. Sometimes I wish we could have a small thanksgiving. Ours is the family catch-all: all sides of family that are in town and want to come, come. It's usually huge. This year only about 18 though, which is nice.
Courtney - You sister and girls will have a fun adventure! I think it's amazingly wonderful that she wants to take them to meet her in-laws for the holiday. It speaks to you guys being really close, I'd imagine?
Just got back from our ultrasound! Baby looks perfect! It did my heart wonders to see him/her. I guessed right that my placenta is anterior. I have felt harldy any movement because of that.
Flavorful, you are right. An anterior placenta will muffle the movements until baby gets bigger. You might just have a strong kicker! Congrats on your GIRL!!!
My OB already called to let me know that everything looks good but he did bother me a bit by his words......
My last baby was 10lbs 11oz. The whole pregnancy I had a feeling that I was going to haved a 10 pounder. This ultrasound etimates my due date to be pushed back a whole week to the 14th instead of the 7th. I am happy with that because I ovulated late. My OB warned me about the risks of nerve damage if I have another 10 pounder. I'ved also gone 16 days overdue in the past, having a 9 pounder. I would LOVE to give birth to a smaller baby but I am perfectly comfortable pushing out another big one. Am I wrong in assuming that even if I have a perfectly healthy diet, my baby will take the necessary amount of calories for growth and development?
I will not be pushed into induction if the baby is doing perfectly fine.
adoremybaby... as far as i know, baby will get what he/she needs, however much that may be. some mamas just make bigger babies. I personally dont know of any risk of nerve damage with another 10lb baby. my dd was 9lbs, and my friend had 2 10lb babies, and so far, no damage to either of us! as long as there is no gestational diabetes as a complication, i think you just make em big!
Chiromama - I talked things over with my mom and her take on it was that my doc is worried about nerve damage with the baby. I should ask him how he handles shoulder dystocia. During my last delivery (the big baby) there wasn't any worry as I was pushing him out..... at least my doc didn't say anything.
I'm going to try and not worry about it and just pray for a safe healthy delivery. For what it's worth I have a strong feeling about size again and I believe that this baby will be smaller. Time will tell.