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post #41 of 64

adoremybabe, glad you got some reassurance.  I don't know anything about nerve damage from shoulder dystocia, but if your last was large I can't see how another could be any more of a risk.  One of my SILs had 3 babies over 10 lbs.  Just how she makes 'em, like chiromama said.  You're not finding out the sex, right?

 

cseky, Rosie, and bela, aren't families something?  And yet we keep making more.  The world is a crazy place.  love.gif

post #42 of 64

Adoremybabe, I can't speak to issues of nerve damage (I'm not overly familiar with that as a concern, especially if you've already had a large baby). I can say that all 3 of my youngest were large (1st DD was only 7lb 7oz, but she was a month early), and I've never had any trouble. My midwife seems to be of a mind that say my body is capable to carrying and delivering them, I'd guess when you're concerned about large babies a lot has to do with pelvic structure, etc. Since you've already managed once I would think you could again.

post #43 of 64

adoremybabe--everything i have ever heard is that baby takes what it needs even at the expense of you. as for baby size, some people just grow them big, i think the threat of nerve damage is purely a scare tactic.

 

rosie- yes, I am very close to my sisters. more so than to anyone else in my family

 

 

 

post #44 of 64

Adoremybabe: Yes, baby will get what he/she needs. I had severe morning sickness/mild HG with my last pregnancy, and pretty much didn't actually digest more than 1/2 a meal a day until the 3rd trimester, at which point I was able to get up to 2 small meals a day. My DD was 9lbs12oz and perfectly healthy.

 

I'm personally worried this one will be bigger since it's a later kid, I'm actually eating food, and it's a boy, but we'll see.


As for nerve damage, that's one of the risks of shoulder dystocia, but large babies are actually not much more likely to get stuck than medium babies. My husband was 10lbs 2oz (kid #4) and had shoulder dystocia, which was easily resolved during my MIL's homebirth. He still has wide shoulders, so I think it's more a genetic thing than a size thing. That said, one is more likely to have shoulder dystocia if they have are in the lithotomy or semi-sitting position, as it immobilizes the sacrum. If you're upright, or on all 4s, you're far less likely to have shoulder dystocia.

post #45 of 64
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Adoremybabe: Yes, baby will get what he/she needs. I had severe morning sickness/mild HG with my last pregnancy, and pretty much didn't actually digest more than 1/2 a meal a day until the 3rd trimester, at which point I was able to get up to 2 small meals a day. My DD was 9lbs12oz and perfectly healthy.

 

I'm personally worried this one will be bigger since it's a later kid, I'm actually eating food, and it's a boy, but we'll see.


As for nerve damage, that's one of the risks of shoulder dystocia, but large babies are actually not much more likely to get stuck than medium babies. My husband was 10lbs 2oz (kid #4) and had shoulder dystocia, which was easily resolved during my MIL's homebirth. He still has wide shoulders, so I think it's more a genetic thing than a size thing. That said, one is more likely to have shoulder dystocia if they have are in the lithotomy or semi-sitting position, as it immobilizes the sacrum. If you're upright, or on all 4s, you're far less likely to have shoulder dystocia.



I've read up on Shoulder Dystocia in the past and the different positions that make delivery safer. At my OB appt. next week I will talk to my doc to see what he does if this becomes a problem during delivery. My doc is more laid back than most but it seems that the thought of a large baby scares him.

 

Even though these thoughts are rolling through my head I will enjoy that fact that I have a squirmy little baby that looks perfectly healthy. I'm loving it!!!!

 

post #46 of 64
Coffee....? I know there are mixed feelings about it, but I can't give up my 1-2 cups a day! What do you gals think? Should I cut back? Cut it out? My MW is sooo hands off and non bossy that she would never tell me to stop....but I get the feeling she doesn't 100% approve wink1.gif I'll have to ask her point blank next time.
post #47 of 64
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Coffee....? I know there are mixed feelings about it, but I can't give up my 1-2 cups a day! What do you gals think? Should I cut back? Cut it out? My MW is sooo hands off and non bossy that she would never tell me to stop....but I get the feeling she doesn't 100% approve wink1.gif I'll have to ask her point blank next time.


I'm not a coffee drinker, but I love my hot tea. I've had to cut back quite a bit. I notice I feel more jittery if I have too much. I believe there is a certain amount recommended for caffeine but I can't think of it off the top of my head. I don't think 1-2 cups a day is too much unless they are like rocket fuel. 

 

Also ladies, I kinda freaked last night. I had some friends over, one of my best friends finally got pregnant after her and her DH had been trying for two years. We were talking about baby names and I said, "If it's a girl, her name will be Eleanor Rose..." My friend's brother, who I adore, great kid, says "Evelt." "What?" "Eleanor Roosevelt."

 

Bah!!!!!   duh.gif    How could I not think of that!?!?! I'm not freaking out too bad but I really thought I had went over the names and decided which ones I liked the most. But now I just don't know. I love Eleanor and it is after DH's aunt, who has passed. But I LOVE Rose soooo much. I've always seen myself singing "Goodnight Rose" by Ryan Adams to my daughter as I held her.... But now... I don't want to change it, just frustrated. 

 

I do see the comedy in this, though. DH said, "You know God laughs at people who plan," while smiling and handing me a cheese omelet this morning. And I only have to wait till Wednesday to find out what sex the baby is, but gah! 

post #48 of 64

That is hilarious!  I do think eleanor rose is a beautiful name, though and it does have a really nice ring to it.  I think you should keep it even though there is a bit of an association there.  It really is a wonderful name, after all.

 

post #49 of 64

daylicious, at this point of pregnancy, I wouldn't worry about 1-2 cups of coffee each day unless your doctor has told you otherwise (for example, if it contributes to high blood pressure for you) or if you worry about it too much. I cut out caffeine for the 1st trimester just to play it safe even though I don't normally consume the amount that is believed to contribute to early miscarriage, but I'm back to drinking a pop almost daily at work since reaching 2nd trimester.

 

As for Eleanor, it's a family name (and my middle name) and I wanted to have it for a daughter someday with a nickname Ella but my DSD's name is too similar so it's out. greensad.gif

post #50 of 64

Daylicious, what I've read about caffeine is that there was one study that showed large amounts of caffeine in the first trimester slightly increased the miscarriage risk. Of course every other study on caffeine has shown no harm. Otherwise, there's no problem. Another thing to keep in mind is that they will give caffeine directly to premies to help them maintain a steady heartbeat, etc.

 

I have 2-5 cups of a caffeinated beverage a day and am totally unconcerned.

post #51 of 64

caffeine- go right ahead. That's my non medical opinion. I drank coffe through all my pregnancies. This pregnancy I have only been able to tolerate 1/2-1 cup, but in my other pregnancies it was 1-2 cups. If you don;t seem to have a problem with it :shrug

 

Eleanor Rose---evelt. so so funny. I love her though. I also wanted to name a boy Roosevelt and call him Rosie. Hubs was not on board before I mentioned calling  a potential son Rosie and I was already pushing it because while I like FDR he thinks he;s a horribel socialist. lol.  Eleanor is such a great name. and the combo is indeed beautiful.

 

 

post #52 of 64
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I'm not a big caffeine person just because it makes me feel weird, totally think a normal amount- 1-2 cups- per day is fine.  I miss caffeine, I feel like it would be really awesome to help me have some energy or a brain but throughout the pg it has made me either have issues with insomnia, heartburn, or feeling dizzy.  Have a latte for me!

 

Eleanor Rose- beautiful name and Eleanor Rosevelt pretty cool lady herself.  Are you going to be calling her Eleanor Rose or just one bc even with both I didn't even think about it until you said something. I'd go with it, there is a lot to be said for really liking your child's name.

 

So, I think DD has moved in her positioning some because I cannot stop peeing and had super bad heartburn.  I wouldn't mind if she got more head down.  DS was head down by this point and it feels weird to have a transverse baby.  I am a little bummed because I really cant feel her position as well because of the anterior placenta.  It just makes feeling her body a little harder and that bums me out.  I know when she is bigger it will be easier.  this will be ironic if you read my other post in the position thread but-  I am having to keep myself from getting too anxious about position because for some reason, I really keep thinking about how much I do not want a breech baby this pg.  Happy head down vibes to people in the next couple months!

post #53 of 64

daylicious, I definitely wouldn't worry about 1-2 cups/day.  I cut it out during the 1st Tri because it was nauseating, but I'm back to a cup of half-caff a day now.  I really don't think its a big deal, and I find sugar is more stressful on my body (and seems to make baby more active) than caffeine.  IF you DO want to cut back, try making half-caff instead.  Or even 3/4 caff or whatever.

post #54 of 64
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Coffee....? I know there are mixed feelings about it, but I can't give up my 1-2 cups a day! What do you gals think? Should I cut back? Cut it out? My MW is sooo hands off and non bossy that she would never tell me to stop....but I get the feeling she doesn't 100% approve wink1.gif I'll have to ask her point blank next time.



1 to 2 cups a day????   I have been limiting myself to just one because I am nervous but if there are mamas out there drinking more than one I'm on that!!!  Sometimes I NEED the pick me up and at other times the thought of a nice hot cup sounds so wonderful. I think that I drink it half strength anyway. Daylicious I think that you are completely fine drinking that much.

 

post #55 of 64
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I'm not a coffee drinker, but I love my hot tea. I've had to cut back quite a bit. I notice I feel more jittery if I have too much. I believe there is a certain amount recommended for caffeine but I can't think of it off the top of my head. I don't think 1-2 cups a day is too much unless they are like rocket fuel. 

 

Also ladies, I kinda freaked last night. I had some friends over, one of my best friends finally got pregnant after her and her DH had been trying for two years. We were talking about baby names and I said, "If it's a girl, her name will be Eleanor Rose..." My friend's brother, who I adore, great kid, says "Evelt." "What?" "Eleanor Roosevelt."

 

Bah!!!!!   duh.gif    How could I not think of that!?!?! I'm not freaking out too bad but I really thought I had went over the names and decided which ones I liked the most. But now I just don't know. I love Eleanor and it is after DH's aunt, who has passed. But I LOVE Rose soooo much. I've always seen myself singing "Goodnight Rose" by Ryan Adams to my daughter as I held her.... But now... I don't want to change it, just frustrated. 

 

I do see the comedy in this, though. DH said, "You know God laughs at people who plan," while smiling and handing me a cheese omelet this morning. And I only have to wait till Wednesday to find out what sex the baby is, but gah! 



Please use your name pick if it's what you love. After our first was born one of DH's coworkers made a name association. DS's name is William Robert. It comes from my grandfather and father. We never in a million years imagined "Billy Bob" coming out of someone's mouth. I think that I almost shrieked in horror! We call William, Will though so of course we rarely think of the name association.

 

post #56 of 64
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I'm not a big caffeine person just because it makes me feel weird, totally think a normal amount- 1-2 cups- per day is fine.  I miss caffeine, I feel like it would be really awesome to help me have some energy or a brain but throughout the pg it has made me either have issues with insomnia, heartburn, or feeling dizzy.  Have a latte for me!

 

Eleanor Rose- beautiful name and Eleanor Rosevelt pretty cool lady herself.  Are you going to be calling her Eleanor Rose or just one bc even with both I didn't even think about it until you said something. I'd go with it, there is a lot to be said for really liking your child's name.

 

So, I think DD has moved in her positioning some because I cannot stop peeing and had super bad heartburn.  I wouldn't mind if she got more head down.  DS was head down by this point and it feels weird to have a transverse baby.  I am a little bummed because I really cant feel her position as well because of the anterior placenta.  It just makes feeling her body a little harder and that bums me out.  I know when she is bigger it will be easier.  this will be ironic if you read my other post in the position thread but-  I am having to keep myself from getting too anxious about position because for some reason, I really keep thinking about how much I do not want a breech baby this pg.  Happy head down vibes to people in the next couple months!



I actually have thought about changing the spelling to Elinor and our last name is a variation of Ferrars. For any of you Jane Austen fans, "Elinor Ferrars" would be the character Elinor Dashwood after she marries Edward Ferrars. She is my favorite Austen character and that is my favorite Austen novel, I have read it probably 30 times in my life. I also love the names Linor, Nora, and I think Nora Rose is such a gorgeous name. 


I am amazed that some of you ladies can tell what position the baby is in. I guess I am just happy to feel movement throughout the day and I haven't really noticed where the head is. I need to get on that! 

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Please use your name pick if it's what you love. After our first was born one of DH's coworkers made a name association. DS's name is William Robert. It comes from my grandfather and father. We never in a million years imagined "Billy Bob" coming out of someone's mouth. I think that I almost shrieked in horror! We call William, Will though so of course we rarely think of the name association.

 


Exactly. I have always thought about my children's names for years. I'm one of those kids who dreamed of being a mom and couldn't wait till I was "all grown up" to do so. So with the various names that she could be called, I doubt I will change it at this point.

 

post #57 of 64
Cseky: I also love Eleanor Rose. I say use it if you love it. It's really pretty.

Thanks for all your feedback on the coffee, I'm feeling less guilty wink1.gif I needy coffee!

Random note: did anyone see the finale of Sister Wives last night? They showed Robyn's home birth, and it was beautiful!!! I was bawling. Wow! I commend them for showing the midwives and the prenatal appointments in a really positive way, but how they showed the birth scene was even better! They had the husband narrating to explain why they weren't cutting the cord tight away, Robyn explaining why she chose home birth, the birth itself was really calm and beautiful, and initiating bf'ing right after birth! It was so cool! I don't know how I feel about the whole plural marriage thing...but I really like this show.
post #58 of 64

Last night I was feeling lots of punches or kicks at my belly button, but then a bunch at my hip! What can I look out for in trying to determine positioning? It would be fun to try to work out where my LO is before out US Friday.

post #59 of 64

I was sore yesterday I couldn't believe it...this morning I know why. Since yesterday morning I morning when I did my weekly measure my fundal height grew 3cm!!! I checked this morning because the pants I was wearing yesterday were tight today.

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So, how many are getting ready for Christmas (I'm almost amazed how soon people seem to be doing that around here...like before Thanksgiving for a lot of people)? I started looking at trees yesterday, but for some reason just can't seem to get to the purchasing stage yet...maybe it's because I don't really want a fake tree, but oh well LOL

post #60 of 64

zuzu I feel your pain!! I feel like all of a sudden, I'm PREGNANT... the belly has popped, all at once! NOTHING fits!  The non mat tops I've been wearing are a thing of the past now.  Baby boy seems to be growing by the minute!!

 

I hope you all have a happy monday!

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