Thank you for your responses! MrsSlocombe, the problem with my girl was that she hardly got any sleep as a newborn, when the normal range is 14-18 hours of sleep per day, she got no more than 10! And not in one go of course! So that led me to trying anything that would make her sleep a bit more, and what worked for her was sleeping at the breast. And it's not that I encouraged that, but she would fall asleep anyway and I wouldn't dare wake her up! These days (she's one) she's a great sleeper, waking only once at night (usually right after she's fallen asleep) and she's had this pattern since she was 6 months old. Trying to put her in the crib these days isn't working that well, she wakes several times refusing to go back to sleep, she'll wake up, sit up, look around, gets startled that she's in a cage lol and then looks up and around to see where I am. I haven't given her enough time to see what she'll do, I usually just pick her up and put her back to sleep cuz I'm not in experiment mode in the middle of the night.
Thank you for your suggestion Katelove. I'm considering putting a second mattress on the floor even though we just got her the crib and it feels like such a waste. I was reluctant but my husband insisted we get it. I now feel we'll have a useless piece of furniture which will turn into one huge toy box, there, not useless anymore!
The problem me and my husband are having started when our baby was born. He needed to have his sleep and since our daughter didn't sleep much he slept in the guestroom for a good 4 months! At around that time the baby slept better and we shared our bed again and had the baby in a co-sleeper right next to me. We then moved and the baby outgrew her co-sleeper and since I didn't have anybody around me I would visit my parents a lot and would stay with them long periods of time. A week here and 2 weeks there, I realized we're just turning apart from one another and I want to stop that from happening! It's hard as it is with his long working hours and me taking care of the baby, there's little room for couple time. But I want to change that!
So our issue right now is that we don't sleep in the same bed, which is easily fixed with sleeping on a mattress on the floor. I'm also hoping the crib isn't going to just sit there and take up space and that we will eventually get her to sleep in it when she's older. Till when are you considering co-sleeping with your baby? Do you have a set time or are you going with the flow? : )
Thanks so much for your response. I wish you lovely ladies a wonderful holiday weekend!