I am 37 weeks pregnant with my first. She was conceived through IVF after two years of infertility treatments. I was tested for everything under the sun and ended up on blood thinners. My hematologist says my condition is mild, and the studies say that hemorrhage risks are no different whether you are on blood thinners or not. However 2 homebirth midwives turned me down for that. I tried to reconcile myself to a hospital birth and found some great OBs with an unbelievable 7.7% C-section rate.
Fast-forward--have had a dream pregnancy so far--thank G-d. Baby is head down and on the small side. But can't get used to the idea of being in the hospital. I have now found a wonderful, experienced midwife who is a friend of a friend who would be willing to catch my baby. BUT 1) she's licensed in NJ not NYC 2) I'd have to be under her care for 6 weeks for her to deliver me legally. So the only option, if we want to stay home, would be to file it as an unassisted birth. Logistics aside, I and DH am concerned about the unlikely event of transfer. We are essentially making my doctors unwitting backups. What do we tell them if we're coming in after 40 hours of labor? Or what if we're transferring because the baby's heart rate has slowed, but we're not supposed to know that?
IS there anyone who's been there, done that? Basically we're in a belt-and-suspenders situation, which I feel like is not a bad place to be, but also I have a strong intuition that this little girl, who was conceived at the hospital, wants to be born at home.