My son is six years old. We started to notice there were problems with him when he was about 3 to 3 1/2. Then he was diagnosed at 4 and 1/2 with ASD.
Now he is in grade one, regular class. He has been very good at school and after school program. The teacher told me it would take a very experienced teacher a while to see he is bit different. He is very social, focused and relaxed at school. Knock on wood.
The only therapy is one and half hour social group on CAT with an ABA therapist. Even his therapist told us people can’t tell he is on the spectrum.
He enjoys team sport, like soccer, basket ball, but he is physically weaker compare to same age kids. He likes boardgames.
We tried different playdate with him. He does not like to play with kids on the spectrum and complains that they don't listen and follow the rules. He makes friends very easy but get upset by kids very easy as well.
The problem is he is so on the spectrum when he with us. He has very high anxiety, very controlling. Those anxieties will lead to meltdown time to time with us. When his team loss games, he would be OK, but he losses to us, he would be upset, and some tantrum. He is very competitive. All he talks about at home with us is who is the best play in tennis, best team in basketball, soccer, football.... biggest shopping mall, store…. He would not do these in school or with friends. But he would ask them which level of skating are they.
We felt like he knows what he should do and how he should react. He told us the social group which meaning focus on emotion and emotion control are not going to work with him. When I work with him on some of the activies chart on worries, he seems to know everything.
Time to time, I felt like I don’t know how to help him to better deal with anxiety. I felt exhausted and helpless when he has a meltdown, also embarrassed if it happen in public because he will hit and bad mouthing.
I am not sure if we keep him in the social group or looking for something elase.