mamarhu- I really appreciate your post. I kind of feel the same about some things with my son. I'll never really know whether the feeding tube saved his life, or whether he would have just started eating on his own. I don't know for sure if it was the speech therapy that caused his speaking to improve, or again if that would have happened on its own. I think all we can do as parents is make the choices that seem best to us, love our kids, and believe in them. With a sample size of one, there is just no way to know for sure what causes what. We're going in for an eval soon and hopefully getting some help in supporting him with some of his sensory stuff. I'm not doing this because I'm sure it's THE ANSWER, but because I've had to become reconciled to the fact that in parenting there is often not a clear path, I have to live with ambiguity, and do my best. I can't predict the outcomes, like you said, but reading the testamonies of teens with ASD helps me to accept my kid as he is, in this moment.
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Hi there your head must be wrecked. Look there are so many things you can try as you can see from the suggestions above-i know i did! Some will help, some won't and there is the time involved in allowing something to work too! Personally nutrition had the biggest impact on my son who is 7 now. We went to a nutritionist and she ordered urine biochem-there is stool biochem also but he wasn't having problems with bowels so we postponed this. Anyway the urnine biochemistry described what was happening inside him and it represented everything he was going through in terms of meltowns, fatigue, overloads etc. Specific supplements (not meds) were ordered and my little boy has made massive improvements. I couldnt leave the house as I couldnt carry him home with his meltdowns and was so embarrassed. People would stop and stare now we blend in! Have a think. Thinking of you and best of luck x