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post #21 of 37

Tear:  Cycles can be very irregular while breastfeeding, so it is quite possible for a delay especially if the little one goes on an eating spree.  Are you charting your cycles?  It might be helpful for you, so you know when you are ovulating and then you will know how long that cycle will be.  How long were your cycle prior to pregnancy?  Were they consistent?   Good luck.  I hope you are the 1st!!

 

post #22 of 37

My MIL was worried that I haven't gotten my period back yet. (I explained that BFing can delay it.)

 

I definitely want another one or two. But with the way things are right now we definitely need to wait a few years. (DH lost his job, and I don't have one at all. Looking for an apartment closer to town and new jobs for both of us greensad.gif)

 

I have a paraguard, and I'm paranoid about being prego to the point of wanting to take a test. I've been cramping lightly (like pre-menstrual) and I've thought I would have gotten my period because of the way Liam has been sleeping, but no dice so far. 

 

What happens if an IUD fails and you get pregnant with it in, anyways?

post #23 of 37
That's what I figured, and no I'm not charting. I don't want to go there, for my own sanity. I don't want to be that aware of things after being so tuned into it for so long. I just hope if I do get pregnant I'll have some way of knowing so I don't have a beer or wine or something. But given the nausea I had with this pregnancy, I guess I'd know soon enough. My cycles were pretty much clockwork before this pregnancy. Thanks for the good wishes! loveeyes.gif

Is anybody else crazy enough to be thinking about this already too?

eta - kylaskye, we x-posted. I'm sorry you're both looking for work. That sounds super stressful. hug.gif About being pregnant, FWIW, I've had cramping on and off even before the last period. I think it's normal as your body gears up for fertility. I don't know about pregnancy with an IUD. Why don't you just take a dollar tree test to set your mind at ease? (Coming from me, who hates HPT so much by now I didn't even take one with this pregnancy).
post #24 of 37
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Tear, my first couple of cycles post partum were very long, and had very very short luteal phases.  I think it's totally normal for them not to go back to regular right away.  DS was 15 months old when I got my period, but was 21 months or so before I was ovulating consistently and had a luteal phase of at least 10 days.

 

Skye, I had a paragard for 2 years after my son was born and cramped off and on long before I got a period.  If you get pregnant with a paragard, there is increased risk of m/c, but some people carry to term no problem.  Depending on how far along you are when you find out, they either take it out, or sometimes just leave it in for the pregnancy.

post #25 of 37
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Originally Posted by Tear78 View Post

I just hope if I do get pregnant I'll have some way of knowing so I don't have a beer or wine or something.


The nice thing about breastfeeding, is that you would most likely not do anything while breastfeeding that would be bad to do whilst pregnant.  For example, you're probably not going to go out and get hammered.  You might have a beer or two, but that occasional beer or two, even in the early stages of pregnancy, wouldn't hurt a thing.  You're also probably more aware of any drugs you're taking because of your breastfeeding relationship.

 

Not to hound on you, but I wouldn't stress the occasional couple glasses of anything orngbiggrin.gif

 

post #26 of 37
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The nice thing about breastfeeding, is that you would most likely not do anything while breastfeeding that would be bad to do whilst pregnant.  For example, you're probably not going to go out and get hammered.  You might have a beer or two, but that occasional beer or two, even in the early stages of pregnancy, wouldn't hurt a thing.  You're also probably more aware of any drugs you're taking because of your breastfeeding relationship.

Not to hound on you, but I wouldn't stress the occasional couple glasses of anything orngbiggrin.gif

lol...you're right. love.gif I'm going to try to settle calmly back into my blissful ignoring of this whole thing: seriously, we both need it emotionally. It just would be so NICE to get pregnant without having to "go there."

Copper.kettle, thanks for that perspective. I'm going to embrace that as a reason why I don't need to worry about this whole thing. smile.gif
post #27 of 37
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lol...you're right. love.gif I'm going to try to settle calmly back into my blissful ignoring of this whole thing: seriously, we both need it emotionally. It just would be so NICE to get pregnant without having to "go there."
Copper.kettle, thanks for that perspective. I'm going to embrace that as a reason why I don't need to worry about this whole thing. smile.gif


Hugs sweetie.  Yes, PLEASE blissfully ignore for now!  Can you do that?  I know it's hard to not pay attention to what your body is doing...  I agree with others--my period's irregular now (I think), and you aren't going to do anything while breastfeeding that would be really dangerous to a pregnancy.  Love to you.  Now turn that ttc part of your brain back off (if at all humanly possible)!

post #28 of 37
Tear, I am sooooo with you on the ttc thing. I never want to chart again! But since I have such a hard time ovulating, I probably won't have to worry about it. DH and I may try the old fashioned way but i doubt we will be very lucky. Good thing we have three little guys/girls in frozen storage! We think we will start trying again when DS is a year old.
post #29 of 37
Maurine, I ALMOST posted "I wonder if maurine feels the same way I do" but then I couldn't remember how open you were here about the ivf. lol... We don't have any frosties, so we're really hoping the old fashioned way works for us. A girl can dream, right? Good to see you! love.gif

Carlyle, it's not that I'm thinking about TTC, persay, it's more that I wanted to know if it was normal to miss my period while breastfeeding so I don't HAVE to think about TTC: it's easier to turn off the "i wonder if..." part of my brain if I know that this is all part of the game. Thanks for looking out for me! blowkiss.giflove.gif

Thanks everybody for supporting my neurosis! blush.gif
post #30 of 37

I'm finally back online and wanted to jump on this discussion.

 

I actually thought I might be this past weekend and took a hpt, but it came back negative. Part of me was soooo happy and part of me was sad about it.

 

For those who had ivf last time I have a friend who is now 15 weeks with #2 when #1 was ivf. #2 was a surprise pregnancy too, so it might happen for you sometime.

 

Got to go and feed the baby.

post #31 of 37
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I'm finally back online and wanted to jump on this discussion.

 

I actually thought I might be this past weekend and took a hpt, but it came back negative. Part of me was soooo happy and part of me was sad about it.

 

For those who had ivf last time I have a friend who is now 15 weeks with #2 when #1 was ivf. #2 was a surprise pregnancy too, so it might happen for you sometime.

 

Got to go and feed the baby.



I have been wondering about you! :) I know you had yours so close, I've wondered if you want to keep that up or have some longer breaks.

post #32 of 37
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Ugh.  Will was so fussy today, I thought to myself "I can't believe I'd even think of doing this again!"  Some moments I just feel so /spent/.  And then other moments I snuggle his face and he giggles and I think "oh, there is NO WAY you are my last baby!"  I wish I had a bigger house.  and more money.  and a mother's helper.  Then I'd have more in a heartbeat!!! winky.gif

post #33 of 37
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I have been wondering about you! :) I know you had yours so close, I've wondered if you want to keep that up or have some longer breaks.



Part of me wants to keep the gap small, but these first few months have had a lot of challenges because of how young DS1 is, and how little he understands about playing with his baby brother. I would also like to get into better shape before getting pregnant again.

 

That said if I do end up pregnant again quickly I won't be disappointed. We would both love as many as possible before we time out, so we won't be doing anything to prevent. Last time I didn't get my cycle back until I stopped nursing, then it was the third cycle before we conceived. With DS1 we conceived just one cycle after our miscarriage. This time nursing is going much better so I should be successful in nursing past Seth's first birthday, so that may delay my return to fertility. However Seth will only nurse during the night about once a week, so nursing may not delay fertility for long. I did have some bleeding at 7 weeks, but I don't think it was a period now as there has been nothing else since and it was 5 weeks ago.

 

Ideally I would love about 18 months between Seth and the next baby, but I'm content to just wait and see what happens.

post #34 of 37
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Part of me wants to keep the gap small, but these first few months have had a lot of challenges because of how young DS1 is, and how little he understands about playing with his baby brother. I would also like to get into better shape before getting pregnant again.

 

That said if I do end up pregnant again quickly I won't be disappointed. We would both love as many as possible before we time out, so we won't be doing anything to prevent. Last time I didn't get my cycle back until I stopped nursing, then it was the third cycle before we conceived. With DS1 we conceived just one cycle after our miscarriage. This time nursing is going much better so I should be successful in nursing past Seth's first birthday, so that may delay my return to fertility. However Seth will only nurse during the night about once a week, so nursing may not delay fertility for long. I did have some bleeding at 7 weeks, but I don't think it was a period now as there has been nothing else since and it was 5 weeks ago.

 

Ideally I would love about 18 months between Seth and the next baby, but I'm content to just wait and see what happens.


Very reasonable. All my training says you need 2 years between pregnancies to fully recover. They like that for VBACing as well (though most VBACers I know had a harder recovery with the vaginal births - I wonder if it's an age thing? Or a multiple-baby thing? Or?)

 

I wish you luck :) I always imagine happiness when I think of your home - loving mama, sweet boys, bread baking :)

 

post #35 of 37

Ok  -- so our eyes are on Tear, Lyn, and Maurine!  How fun!  I'm content to sit back and watch and cheer on!! 

 

One of my good friends got pg with paraguard (not to scare anyone who has it, but it does happen)!  

post #36 of 37

you go ladies! sending you fertile thoughts! 

 

we would love a second babe, but need to wait until DH gets his degree. besides that, I am still healing so noo baby making activity until I am cleared for exercise...wool.gif

 

I love the idea of keeping the gap close between LOs but will need this first year to be over before I can even wrap my brain around it all.

 

Lynn - I made bread, thanks to you! I love cooking but not baking things w yeast. tried your recipe and we have not purchased bread for 4 weeks. First thing I thought when I saw your post here was "she will need to double the recipe now" 

post #37 of 37

You ladies are so sweet. I'll be baking bread later this week for the first time since we moved a month ago. Then next week I'll be starting on the Christmas Cookies. We're not big on buying lots of gifts at Christmas but we certainly are big on food and edible treats. Fortunately most of the treats I only do for Christmas so we enjoy without feeling too guilty.

 

I do think our home is a happy one Beckily. We make a deliberate effort to make it that way. Plus we have been blessed with happy boys, which I know doesn't happen to everyone.

 

I am excited about the thought of another baby, but probably not just yet. I was sorting the clothes into boxes by size, and we already have 3 boxes of clothes that Seth has outgrown and I was thinking how good it would be to use them again with another baby, especially as most of the contents of those boxes are neutral.

 

I was the first to get pregnant from my previous DDC, so I guess only time will tell if I'm first again, or if another mama beats me.

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