How did your widowed parent tell you of their new relationship? What was your reaction? Did you meet- or even know of- the person before the relationship got serious? How did you handle it with your kids?
My mom died in January and my father announced via a brief e-mail and letter to my siblings and myself the day before Thanksgiving that he has a girlfriend. We didn't even know he was interested in dating and now he suddenly announces he has been seeing this person and she is his girlfriend. It was pretty surprising and not what I wanted to hear the day before a holiday where I was thinking about and missing my mom already. I'm not sure what his expectation is for the future. I don't know how long they have been dating or if he wants us to meet her.
I guess it is good that my dad can find someone he is happy being with but I am still upset. I wish he would have said "I'm lonely without your mom. I'm going to try dating." instead of always saying he was fine and only talking about other things. He has been clearing out and storing my mom's things lately and I suppose this new relationship plays a role in spurring him to do that even though before he always said there was no rush.
ETA- My Dad is 77. This woman is not someone we have known.
I don't begrudge him having a relationship and being happy but do feel shut out of his life when I've asked if he was lonely and he said he was not lonely. He told me about work, going out with my uncle, meeting old high school friends for lunch, what he bought at the store, cleaning the house, his problems with his car or neighbor but couldn't bring up the important stuff. I feel like we are even farther away from each other.
Edited by onlyzombiecat - 11/27/11 at 8:13am