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Please don't (touch the baby)!

post #1 of 6
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I posted this in Life with a Babe too... but as a rule, I like you ladies better than the general public. love.gif

 

 

DS is now just over 8 weeks old, but he's a bit of a bruiser (i.e. huge for his age - he was a month overdue, after all) so I take him out fairly often and now that he holds his head up easily and can see further than a few feet out, I face him forward in the Moby as he seems to enjoy looking around. I took him to the grocery store with me today (a relatively vacant place on Black Friday) to buy a few essentials. I naturally received and returned lots of smiles because of him, some people more than others.

 

Then a woman approached us in passing and appeared to want to pinch or touch his face. Instinctively, I brushed her hand away, still smiling though, and said simply, "please don't" and kept passing her. At this point the woman started cursing at me, shouting that if I didn't want her to touch him that I should have covered him up!! Ummm... what??!! I was a tad freaked out, and just kept going.

 

On my way out I saw her sitting on a bench outside next to a more obviously homeless person, and made up a quick story in my head about how she was likely more crazy than just rude, but even so... I forget that just because my city is particularly wonderful that it IS a city and as such harbors a wide variety of people, including crazies, rude people and a whole bunch of great people...

 

Anyone else encounter this type of situation? How did you deal with it? I mean, I'm not germ-phobic or anything. I don't actually mind people touching him most of the time, but only if they ask, and only if I say yes. Boundaries, people! Come on!

post #2 of 6

Yikes. Why do people think they're entitled to touch other people's children? I haven't had this happen with my son yet, but I do fear it. I live in Chicago and the crazies abound... 

 

post #3 of 6

Wow, that woman was just nuts!  I haven't had anyone try to touch him so fortunately haven't had to deal with that. My boss did ask me to bring him in to work and I have purposely ignored that request because it would just be a bunch of people passing him around, no way am I ready for that. Plus the people at work didn't even support me in my pregnancy but I won't get started on that.

 

I have noticed that more people feel entitled to not necessarily touch, but crowd in to fawn over Luke. Especially when I'm holding him against my chest facing out, like at church.  I think people are used to babies being tucked away in car seat carriers and not so accessible, at least that is what occurred to me the other day when we were waiting in the line at the coffee shop and EVERY person had to get right in his face. Even if they don't touch him, breathing on him is enough to give me the willies! :)

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Originally Posted by Gracecody View Post

My boss did ask me to bring him in to work and I have purposely ignored that request because it would just be a bunch of people passing him around, no way am I ready for that. Plus the people at work didn't even support me in my pregnancy but I won't get started on that.


Same here! You don't like me but you want to fawn over my baby? Don't think so...

 

post #5 of 6

totally know what you mamas mean... On my daily walk sometimes we pass a sign spinning woman... two times now she has touched Cassidy... Im not down with it.  Luckily its just on Cassidy's hand, and I douse her hand with anti bacterial spray after. But, still, its not cool, and if it happens again, Im pushing her hand away before it reaches Cass... so annoying. 

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Originally Posted by mamareba View Post

totally know what you mamas mean... On my daily walk sometimes we pass a sign spinning woman... two times now she has touched Cassidy... Im not down with it.  Luckily its just on Cassidy's hand, and I douse her hand with anti bacterial spray after. But, still, its not cool, and if it happens again, Im pushing her hand away before it reaches Cass... so annoying. 



Yeah... I'm not sure why people think it's okay to touch a stranger at all... it reminds me of people touching my belly when I was pregnant, but worse!! My kid is not a puppy!

 

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