I think my 10 y.o. is a preteen?? I'm wondering how other like-minded parents handle the dilemma of age-inappropriate video games your children are given access to when they're at a friend's house? This keeps coming up here, and I've talked to my son about how I feel, and why I feel the way I feel. The games that we have here are pretty much age-appropriate, although we have one that pushes the envelope a bit (a "T" rating). It seems, though, that all of his friends are playing Modern Warfare, and similar "not for kids" games. The last time DS was at one boy's place, they were playing a game where they had to steal cars and escape from police, which included shooting down a police helicopter, etc...glorifying deviant and criminal behavior. I wrote DS a letter, which enabled me to say everything I needed to say about it, and then we talked some more about it later.
The boys that he's playing with seem nice enough, and the parents do as well. I just don't agree with their choices. Forbidding DS to play at their houses is not the right thing to do, and I encourage him to invite them here as much as possible. DS says he won't play those games if I don't want him to, but that might be kidspeak for "I just won't tell mom about it." Not what I want either! How do other parents deal with this, and still keep the lines of communication open?