Do you ever feel like you need a spreadsheet to keep track of all the arguments you (or your husband) are having with the other parent? I think there are at least 5 distinct arguments or discussions going on right now, all simultaneously. It will be a miracle if something doesn't slip through the cracks.
It's a fairly high-conflict/low-contact relationship, so they go the vast majority of the time with very little contact at all, aside from travel arrangements, occasional required notice about extra-curriculars and medical care, etc. In general it is just an email and a response, maybe a second response, and then it is done.
For some reason my husband's ex has brought up, simultaneously, several discussions about changes she wants to make to the custody agreement and major decisions that require explicit consent of both parents. Then there are a couple relatively normal discussions-- a major medical expense not covered by insurance, some school concerns. Then, just in case it wasn't already enough, for some reason she got mad about a web-chat and spelled out the restrictions she is placing on phone and internet contact (it's not new that she is restricting contact, she's just never come out and said it before).
I feel like we could use a personal assistant and a couple spreadsheets to track all the various discussions, arguments, disagreements, and conflicts right now. My husband's normal tendency is to feel stressed and overwhelmed by it all and back off on the non-essentials. I'm impressed he hasn't done it so far, though he has taken the last couple days off from it for some family time. In some ways it feel like when a toddler has a tantrum and you react differently than usual, so they crank things up a notch, waiting for the reaction they are used to. Sometimes it seems like it's just a waiting game to see who is going to crack first and just give up and give in.
I hope it can all come to a reasonable resolution soon... Mom's got some mental health issues, and I know the holidays tend to bring those to the surface for her... hopefully if we can make it to January we can go back to the relative peace from before. This is exhausting.