I think it's just a bad night but I need some reassurance.
So about a month ago I night-weaned 17 mo old DS and some nights it was going well and others - well he'd just be up fussing/crying for up to an hour before he could fall back to sleep. This continues. One night this week he went down (late) at 10 pm - slept till 4 am, did his "allowed," early AM nurse, slept till 7. Tonight he just won't settle in, he's been up 3 times already.
Meanwhile my DH and older DD are at a neighborhood party - our friends who did full on extinction CIO with both kids - took their 2 year old - gave him his bottle, dropped him in his crib and poof. That's it. No books, songs, back -rubbing, nursing, nothing. Sleeps 12 hours. I'm so freakin' jealous.
Here I am like a jerk, getting up every 2 hours, rubbing DS's back, not nursing, ok (which is good) - but I can't put him down and have him sleep for 12 hours. Sometimes the night routine is done in 15 minutes, sometimes I'm up and down 10 times.
I was hoping that eventually he'd settle in and if he did wake in the middle of the night, it would be enough for him to see- "ok, mom's here with me," and he'd go back to sleep. (Sometimes this does happen, I admit.) But a lot of nights he'll fuss or cry for up to an hour. I mean, what's the point of NOT doing CIO if he's going to be up crying anyway? I'm laying there with him and talking, rubbing his back, but he just can't settle down.
I look at my friends' kid - the one who got put in a crib with the door shut to cry for hours - and he seems fine - he's sweet and healthy and doesn't seem damaged or screwed up. He's not clingy or angry or anything. And my friends get to sleep all night, be up with their friends, watch movies, whatever.
Anyway ... I don't know ... *sigh*