Quick! Fill in the blanks! Real sleep feedback, please!

[Taos Mountain Mama]

My baby is ________ months old. S/he sleeps in __________. S/he goes to be around _____ and wakes up around ______. S/he wakes up about _____ times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I ____________ to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this ___________.

I'll go first:
My baby is 10 months old. She sleeps in her crib for part of the night and then our bed. She goes to bed around 8 and wakes up around 5. She wakes up about 4 times a night (on a good night;). I breastfeed her to get her back down, and my partner never helps with this!

[tank]

This may not be helpful to you since my babe is just under 3 weeks old but I'll give you feedback.

Originally Posted by Taos Mountain Mama 

My baby is 3 weeks old. S/he sleeps in our bed. S/he goes to bed around 11 when I do and wakes up around 4/4:30. S/he wakes up about various times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I feed him and change him if needed to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this if he is awake or if I ask him to. I mostly take care of the night time parenting because I haven't started pumping and he is exclusivly on the breast.  My partner did mention that he can't wait for me to pump so he can soothe him better if he needs to help when he wakes up to eat in the middle of the night.  Even when that happens I will probably do most of the work at night because he is a heavy sleeper or relutant to wake up.


 

Oh I just realized I said that my baby only sleeps from 11-4 and wakes up during the night.  I meant he wakes at 4 for his first wake up then we nurse on and off the rest of the night but I usually am half alseep during it and he gets up when I feel like it or when we have to drive my partner to work at 8 and sometimes after that we go back to bed for a nap.

Edited by tank - 11/27/11 at 11:48am

[RosemaryS-F]

Hi tank! Okay, here's me

My baby is 1 months old. S/he sleeps in ____my bed______. S/he goes to be around __8___ and wakes up around ___7.30___. S/he wakes up about ___2-3__ times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I ___nurse_________ to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this ___he helps with our older child and I take care of the baby________.

[Baby_Cakes]

Here is mine!!

Originally Posted by Taos Mountain Mama 

My baby is ___3_____ months old. S/he sleeps in _____his swing_____. S/he goes to be around ___9__ and wakes up around ___730___. S/he wakes up about __4___ times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I ____nurse________ to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner doesn't help with this .

[Blanca78]

Here's mine...
 

Originally Posted by Taos Mountain Mama 

My baby is ____7____ months old. S/he sleeps in ____her crib in our room______. S/he goes to be around __8 or 8:30___ and wakes up around __7:30____. S/he wakes up about _1-3____ times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I ___nurse_________ to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this ___not at all________.
 

[gumshoegirl007]

Here's mine (note, with all the teething going on, the only consistent thing about sleep of late has been inconsistency).

My baby is 8 months old. She sleeps in our bed with the two of us and our dog. She goes to be around 7:00 pm and wakes up around 7:00 am. She wakes up 2-5 times during the night. When she wakes up (she doesn't actually fully wake up, she fusses), I nurse her because she is hungry and then she goes back to sleep. My partner cannot help with this.

[justrose13]

My baby is ~8months old. He sleeps in our bed with me (DP sleeps on the couch). He goes to be around 6:30p and wakes up around 5:30-7a. He wakes up about 2-6 times during the night. When he wakes up, I nurse him to calm him down and get him back to sleep because that's what works. My partner helps does not with this because her boobs don't make milk.

[mamapigeon]

My baby is 7 months old. He sleeps in bed with DH and I. He goes to bed around 7:30 and wakes up around 7:00. He wakes up about 4 times during the night. When he wakes up, I nurse him back to sleep or pick him up and rock him (this only happens a couple times a week when he won't nurse back down). My partner helps with this very rarely. Most of the time DH doesn't even wake up when DS does.

[Hymanroth]

My baby is 3 months months old. he sleeps in our family bed_. S/he goes to be around __9 or 10 pm___ and wakes up around ___7:30 or 8:30 am___. he wakes up about 0 times during the night. When he wakes up, I nurse____ to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this __he is there for emotional support :O__.

[Hannahkatiebell]

My baby is ___1 and 1/2_____ months old. S/he sleeps in ____a crib in his own room bc I can't sleep through all his noises______. S/he goes to be around ___11__ and wakes up around __7 or 8____. S/he wakes up about __4___ times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I ______nurse bc he he's hungry______ to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this ___by bringing him to me or changing a diaper sometimes he holds him if wakes up right after I've nursed him early on in the night.

[gemasita]

My baby is 10 months old. He sleeps in bed with me. He goes to be around 9 and wakes up around 9. He wakes up about 3-4 times during the night. When he wakes up, I nurse him to calm him down and get him back to sleep. My partner helps with this when he goes down for the night (which is sometimes tricky) but not in the middle of the night - DS always goes back to sleep right away.

[angireid]

My baby is 10 months old. he sleeps on a mattress on his bedroom floor until I go to bed then he come to bed with us and our dog and cat. he goes to be around 7-9pm and wakes up around 7:00-8:30 am. S/he wakes up about 4 times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I nurse to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this never though he goes back to sleep right away so no help is needed.

[Shaki]

My baby is 7 months old. he sleeps in our bed (or in arms/sling/mei tai) He goes to bed around 8ish and wakes up around 7ish. He wakes up about 3ish (this a guess more accurate would be to say less than my DD did) times during the night. When he wakes up, I nurse and sometime cuddle him on my chest while jiggling him to calm him down and get him back to sleep. My partner helps with this ___________.... Hmmm...Generally my DH does not help with nighttime parenting, and when he does it's in the context of helping our older dd. He puts her to bed every night and then resettles her in the night sometimes. He's a heavy sleeper and to be frank waking him up to deal with night time issues is more of a pain in the a$$ than dealing with them myself. An exception is when the kids are sick. Then I need him to step it up and he does.

[Taos Mountain Mama]

Awesome! Thanks, all you mamas. I originally posted this bc I was fooling myself into thinking that my girl should be sleeping through the night. I needed some real time stats from those of us in the sleep-trenches. It's super reassuring to hear that night waking is still very normal! Hope one day WE can all sleep through the night again!

[aeterna]

It's also... well, not reassuring I guess  but... a realistic reminder to those of us still looking towards that, that nighttime parenting is probably gonna be 90% my job.

I've kind of always assumed that's the way it would go, at least while BFing, but some have tried to convince me that it can be tag-teamed. I remain unconvinced, and will simply acclimate myself to the idea of being a single mom during sleeping hours. ;)

[Ola_]

My baby is 8.5 months old. She sleeps in her crib for part of the night and then my bed (DH is a very light sleeper and has been sleeping downstairs on the pullout). She goes to bed around 9 and wakes up around 7-8. She wakes up about 2-3 times a night. I rock and give her a pacifier to get her back down, and when that doesn't work I feed her (she is FF and takes 1 bottle/night usually).  My partner does not help with this.

[Shaki]

Originally Posted by aeterna 

It's also... well, not reassuring I guess  but... a realistic reminder to those of us still looking towards that, that nighttime parenting is probably gonna be 90% my job.

I've kind of always assumed that's the way it would go, at least while BFing, but some have tried to convince me that it can be tag-teamed. I remain unconvinced, and will simply acclimate myself to the idea of being a single mom during sleeping hours. ;)

Wait hold on a minute there :) it CAN be tag teamed and it's ok to ask your parenting partner to help out. I generally follow the nighttime rule of  "do what gets me the most sleep" which is why (as I stated above) I deal with the nighttime parenting of my babe--a) all he needs is a quick nurse in bed and b) waking DH is a pita--so generally there is no need to wake my DH. But you'd better believe if DS needed to be rocked multiple times in the night or required more vigorous nighttime parenting than simply rolling over and sticking my boob in his mouth, I'd be waking my heavy sleeping DH up for help! When my DH complains about our DD climbing into bed with us at night, I tell him if he wants to wake up and move her to her own bed...great, he has my support. BUT I'm not doing it! And I'm not waking him up to do it, cause I'm too busy attending to DS and my own sleep needs. I hope this makes sense. Basically I'm trying to say that a mama's got to do what a mama's got to do to get as much sleep as possible but that doesn't mean that daddys (aka parenting partners) are off the hook at night. You have a right to ask them for help and they should give it when asked!!

[Danielle283]

My baby is 4 months old. S/he sleeps in our bed. S/he goes to bed around 9-10 and wakes up around  7. S/he wakes up about 2-4 times during the night. When s/he wakes up, I stick a boob in his mouth to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep. My partner helps with this at bedtime, but isn't needed for the night wakings.

[LivingSky]

My baby is 4.5 months old. He sleeps in his crib until his first nighttime wakeup, then in bed with me. He goes to bed around 8pm and wakes up around 9-10am. He wakes up about 3-5 times during the night, all between 3am and when he gets up in the morning. When he wakes up, I nurse to calm him down and get him back to sleep. He usually doesn't actually wake up, just fusses in his sleep.

My partner helps with this by brining baby into bed after his first wake up, then going to sleep downstairs for the rest of the night That is at MY request - he would help more at night but he snores and that keeps me awake, so I would rather him sleep downstairs once babe starts waking up more frequently. That helps me get more sleep!

[blackbird2]

My baby is 2.5 months old. S/he sleeps in our bed. S/he goes to bed around 9 or 10 and wakes up around 7. S/he wakes up about 3 times during the night. When s/he squirms, (i poke) my partner (who) takes her to pee and changes her diaper as needed and I nurse her to calm him/her down and get him/ her back to sleep.

great format for gathering info!  :)