When will you share the news? - Page 3 « Back to Group Discussions

[~Demeter~]

I told my husband by throwing the test at (to?) him. I had taken it while I was out and was pretty freaked out, he was sleeping so I told him he needed to WAKE UP for a minute... he was like so...? that's positive? You are?! We've done this together 4 times now, you'd think he'd know what a positive stick looks like haha. Not telling anyone else for awhile... I'm not sure how I'm going to go about announcing because for my family it's not going to be a happy thing. They'll all be disappointed that I'm having another and I just can't deal with that right now.

[DandelionWine]

My mom was visiting from out of town when I began to suspect, so I told her I might be. And of course my husband straight-up asked about it, knowing this month our timing was pretty good for a pregnancy. I also told my younger sister and good friend. So, yea, I guess I'm telling close friends and family as I want to talk about it; I'm not spreading the news, just bringing it up when I want to chat about it.

[major_mama11]

My husband has known since Day One (he was convinced that I was, even before the first BFP, while I was sure I wasn't). I told my SIL because I dropped my kids off with her when I went to get my blood drawn, and I'm a really bad liar. And I told two coworkers, who then proceeded to tell everyone at work which is mostly OK, since I need to tell work earlier than family anyway, due to possible teratogens there that I need to avoid.

As for the bulk of my family and friends, I am waiting until after the first OB appt, because I want to know everything is OK before I tell everyone else. I'm not looking forward to telling my sister as she's been trying for a year now and I don't want to be a jerk.

[Mama Chickadee]

My family is visiting from out of state tomorrow, so I will tell them tomorrow. I would have maybe held off a little bit, but our in-laws are living with us for a month or so, and DH told them this morning, and I don't trust that they will be able to keep their mouths shut and not blurt the news to my parents! I just want to be able to tell them myself.

I had a cute way to tell them about DS ( a framed ultrasound pic at Christmas) but no ideas on telling them tomorrow.

I told my DH last night just after testing as it was our last few quiet moments together before he left for Australia, and I was giving him a hard time saying "great, you are leaving your pregnant wife and 2 kids home with the in-laws, and flying to the other side of the world"! It was kind of funny, because I had left the test on the table, and he sat directly in front of it eating a sandwich, looking at it, but totally did not put 2 and 2 together. 

[IntuitiveJamie]

Your dh and mine could be friends MC! Mine is so good at tuning things out and concentrating on what he wants to be concentrating on..reading, eating his meal, etc etc. I can totally see mine doing the same thing and not even seeing the test or asking about it!

Have fun telling your parents today. That's exciting.

[ainh]

I really don't think my family will be excited either.  I could be wrong, but doubt it.  They might get more excited if I had a girl (I have two boys)...my mom is the third and has two older brothers, so she might feel some excitement about that.  I might wait to tell family until the end of January...or even later (I never see them, so it will be easy to hide).  I'm more tempted to tell friends...and did tell one.

[iixivboots]

As someone who tried for 17 months, and went through, omg I don't even know like 20 or more people announcing their pregnancy, all I can beg you is please don't let the person who is TTC find out via facebook and have see everyone else congratulating you. That is the WORST. I would have so appreciated an email or call from someone saying "hey, heads up before I make the big announcement."

[Mama Chickadee]

It turned out to be harder than I thought to tell my parents today, because they came down to see a Christmas musical with me, and there were always strangers or people I don't want to know yet about my pregnancy (such as 4 year old DD)

We ended up going out to the mall (ick! but my parents really wanted to get Santa pictures!) and I figured I would drop some hints. My mom has been on pregnancy watch for months now as she's dying for another grandbaby, so I thought it was going to be easy.

We looked in a children's shoe store, and I saw some cute little Robeez leather shoe/slipper things for 6 month olds that had snowmen on them, and I said to both my parents "Awwww... cute! These would fit Baby (Last Name) just perfectly next Christmas!" My mom replied, "oh..... yeah...." and then turned to listen to something DD was saying.

Next, as we were leaving the mall, my Mom wanted to get a coffee since they have a 2ish hour drive home. She asked if I wanted anything, and I said "no, I'm cutting back on the caffeine" which I was sure would be the equivalent of saying "I'm pregnant!" but.... mom just asked DD if she wanted anything to eat.

Finally, as we were walking back to the cars to say goodbye and part ways, I said "So, we need to talk about plans for going to Disney next year. We talked earlier about going over Labor Day, but that is going to be kind of hard with a newborn." My mom stopped dead in her tracks and said "WHAAAAA????? What did you say? Did you say a newborn??? No way. No WAY!" And my poor Dad is like "What? What did she say? I didn't hear her. What?" Then my mom kind of started shrieking and jumping around, and hugging me. DD is trying to figure out what is going on, and starts repeating my mom yelling, "No WAY, no WAY!!!"  

It was really quite cute after they got over the shock of it. I had no idea I would have to try so hard to get the message through though!

[Willovia]

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mama Chickadee 

Finally, as we were walking back to the cars to say goodbye and part ways, I said "So, we need to talk about plans for going to Disney next year. We talked earlier about going over Labor Day, but that is going to be kind of hard with a newborn." My mom stopped dead in her tracks and said "WHAAAAA????? What did you say? Did you say a newborn??? No way. No WAY!" And my poor Dad is like "What? What did she say? I didn't hear her. What?" Then my mom kind of started shrieking and jumping around, and hugging me. DD is trying to figure out what is going on, and starts repeating my mom yelling, "No WAY, no WAY!!!"  

It was really quite cute after they got over the shock of it. I had no idea I would have to try so hard to get the message through though!

 LOL - I hope my family has that same type of reaction!
 

[Ninetales]

We told our parents today.  I met up with my mom and sister to take Christmas card pictures of the girls and told them all then.  I couldn't hold off anymore.  My mom was completely surprised, my sister had suspected.  Then we ate lunch with my in-laws, and my MIL had suspected as well, as I'd thought.  FIL had no idea, though.  We sent a picture of Elsa in her new Big Sis shirt to my SILs but they haven't said anything yet.  I just called my dad and he was surprised and tickled. 

We're keeping it to just the immediate family for now.  I'll go public in late January or so, at 12 weeks.

[1stTimeMama4-4-10]

We just found out tonight that I am about a month along, and we are still processing it.  My mom passed away suddenly, unexpectedly, and without explanation three months ago. DH and I are happy about the impending arrival, but I am somewhat concerned about what others will say about the timing. I don't want to be judged for doing this now. I think maybe we will just keep the news private a while.

[IntuitiveJamie]

I'm really sorry to hear about your Mom, that's very sad. My father in law died almost three months ago, so we are all in a state of grieving as well. We've decided to hold off telling mil until the end of Dec. to make sure I'm a good bit along (will be 9 weeks), b/c she's so fragile right now. I'm hoping it will be taken as a blessing, but unsure if it will encourage her depression in the sense that fil won't be around to know this grandchild. May I ask what your concern is with your family (if you want to talk about it)? Do you think people will be mad that you are experiencing something joyous in the midst of grieving?  For us, I feel that this baby is a blessing and demonstrates the beautiful cycle of life...death and birth.  And I actually wonder if there won't be a little bit of fil in this child, or if he will be a part of helping a safe, healthy nine months and birth. Interestingly enough, this babe was conceived on fil's birthday. I really don't think that's a coincidence.

I honor what you are going through 1stTimeMama. Feel free to share here, with us, your journey as you grieve the loss of your Mom and also honor the amazing process of pregnancy and birth.

[1stTimeMama4-4-10]

Quote:

Originally Posted by IntuitiveJamie 

May I ask what your concern is with your family (if you want to talk about it)? Do you think people will be mad that you are experiencing something joyous in the midst of grieving?  For us, I feel that this baby is a blessing and demonstrates the beautiful cycle of life...death and birth.  And I actually wonder if there won't be a little bit of fil in this child, or if he will be a part of helping a safe, healthy nine months and birth. Interestingly enough, this babe was conceived on fil's birthday. I really don't think that's a coincidence.

I honor what you are going through 1stTimeMama. Feel free to share here, with us, your journey as you grieve the loss of your Mom and also honor the amazing process of pregnancy and birth.

My concern is that people will think that I am in a fragile state right now and that I am entering into a huge life changing experience when I am not 100% emotionally stable. This was not "planned" in the sense that we were temping and timing, but I know my body, and I knew I was ovulating when DH and I DTD (without um pulling out or any other protection lol - and I told DH, so he knew too, so we weren't exactly avoiding either.   Perhaps it's all my own projections.  The last few months have been such a tornado of emotions for me that I feel like my feet haven't totally hit the ground yet, and now I am jumping into this.  We had planned the timing to be around now since DD was born, and it feels amazing that our kids are going to be spaced EXACTLY the amount of time we wanted. I also feel like this could be tremendously healing for me.  But I am afraid of disapproval. I should clarify that I am not clinically depressed or emotionally unstable - I am mostly ok, but if I WASN'T having a hard time right now, I think there would be something wrong with me!

[joy2grow]

Hi Jamie!  I'm so excited to find you here in the August ddc!  I just got my BFP a few hours ago.  I took a picture of my positive test and texted it to DH who is out of town for work.  About an hour after that I forwarded the picture to my sister, my two MILS, and one FIL.  My FIL is having pretty serious surgery today and I'm sure it will elevate his energy & mood to know before going under.  Our desire to conceive has been very public in the extended family, and after 8 months of trying I am just too happy to hold the news in!  I will tell my SILS and a few close friends later today,  Facebook will wait till I'm in the second trimester.  My last pregnancy I told too many casual acquaintances too early.  When I lost the baby at 12 wks it was super hard to have to let so many people know.  That was over two years ago, and I'm not feeling any fear now -- just so happy to have another chance!  I'm 40

~ Heather

Edited by joy2grow - 12/14/11 at 6:03am

[IntuitiveJamie]

Hi Joy!! Congratulations. How exciting!

[LittleBirdy]

Well I told a bunch of people yesterday.  My colleague came into my office, which is currently littered with empty cans/bottles of ginger ale and she said, "I've never known you to drink soda, are you not feeling well?" and I sort of mumbled something about just really having a ginger ale craving lately and she gasped and said, "You're pregnant!"

We had an office lunch yesterday that I knew would be hard to get through, because we always go to the same place and get burgers and I knew people would notice when I changed my standard order to "nothing on the burger but extra pickles, please."  When I ordered the guy sitting across from me made the most disgusted face, so in that instant I just figured oh what the hell and told them all, "Oh by the way, I'm pregnant."  They were shocked!  It was fun.

And this morning another coworker came in and told me that her sister (who works with my MIL) told her that I was pregnant.  Thanks MIL!!

So I guess I should probably tell my mom huh?

[marinak1977]

I told a few people so far, our parents, siblings, and a few friends. I sadly know from experience that anything can happen this early, but I decided to celebrate every moment of this pregnancy and take it one day at a time. I do feel a lot less anxious about this pregnancy.
I will tell my boss after we have our first ultrasound to check on my occupant.

[Sol_y_Paz]

First time mama, I am sorry for you loss of your mom.  I lost my wonderful mom this year too.  She would have been over the top the most excited ever about this pregnancy, she was my best friend.  It is just hard. ((hugs))   I feel she is right there with me still every step of the way.  I understand your comment about healing - I have had a lot of death around me of family members lately (and a family pet) so this new life is something I consider the highest blessing of all and a very welcomed change in my life.  

[monkeyscience]

I am having a hard time not telling now! I think some of the shock is wearing off, and as it becomes more real to me, I want to share it! I keep telling myself that a week and a half isn't that long to wait, but I am such a blabbermouth I want to tell now.

[mmswife]

We told at 4 weeks! I was already feeling sick and getting a bump. Family knew too so I was afraid news would travel. Both m/cs have happened early and I'm on progesterone this time so I felt pretty confident. Beyond that, we're believers and wanted prayers for a healthy baby and support if something happened to our sweet one.