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[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by Thebyr 

My mc was at 8 weeks (growth stopped at 4-5 weeks). So if I see or hear something at my 8 weeks appt (dec 27) - then we may tell our parents. Otherwise - we'll just be waiting until Jan 24th - it's 12 weeks and my grandmother's 99th birthday. Perfect day to share. I won't really be telling other people - they'll just have to see my tummy to figure it out. 

How sweet about your grandmother! I think I will be doing this, too: "they'll just have to see my tummy to figure it out." for most people. We have breakfast at my in laws every Sunday so I think it will be funny to see who and when someone will try to bring it up. So far just DH and DD's godparents know. They knew we were TTC.

[LilyTiger]

We told my parents and in-laws last night (at 7 weeks).  I usually drink a fair amount of microbrews during the holidays, so I wasn't going to be able to keep it a secret for much longer anyway.  They were super duper excited!  We'll probably tell the rest of our immediate family at Christmas and then wait until the end of the first tri for everyone else.  It's hard to know what to do, but I'm close with my family, including extended family, so I wouldn't mind them knowing if something went wrong.  In fact, it would make things easier.

My sister, of course, found out the day after my husband, and my best friend just a few days later.  So, I've had a lot of support so far, which is awesome! 

[Lisanne]

We plan to tell our families in January. We'll be traveling to visit them and I would love to tell everyone in person. We lived overseas when I got pregnant with our first two so I had to tell over the phone. I'll try to wait until 12 weeks to tell the world, but we'll see. My neighbors know since we are close friends, and some of my close friends that I chat online with, but no Facebook or coworkers yet. I work at WIC though so I won't be able to hide it from them long.

[Cannes11711]

I live about 4750 miles away from home, so no family in sight for me. my in-laws live here though and they're incredibly nosy and involved. My husband is VERY close with his sister and his parents and sometimes I swear they know more about us than I do (thanks to my language barrier and to their all working together and seeing each other all day every day). It can be really frustrating and annoying. Not to mention, difficult to keep any secrets whatsoever. Even before I was pregnant and even before I was married to him, if I opted to not have wine with lunch or dinner, immediately he and I get the questions and inquisitive looks of "are you/is she pregnant??" If I'm tired, same thing. If I'm not feeling well, again, same thing. If I'm sad because I miss my family, again, same thing! argh. I really want to wait to tell them until January and as late in the month as possible but here the custom for xmas dinner is seafood - raw shellfish at that! Mussels, clams, oysters....I think I can't eat any of that! So they're all going to be up my nose about why I'm not eating. I wish I could just tell them so they will get off my back but then they'll of course be even more in my business. why can't I go back to America and the home of cooked xmas dinner foods for this holiday?!?!

[lakeruby]

I haven't told ANYONE yet!  It's my delicious little secret :)  We just got married in October and have been TTC since then.  I found out 4 days ago and plan to tell DH on Christmas (okay, maybe Christmas Eve! I'm so excited!!) and then see if he wants to go ahead and tell our parents then too.  I am really close with my parents and can't imagine waiting much longer to share the news.  However, DH's older sister is also pregnant with her first, and due in March, and I really don't want her to feel like we're stealing her thunder or anything, so I'm a bit hesitant...

I probably won't mention anything on facebook until the 1st trimester is over, but I'll tell my friends when I see them after the holidays.

[Knitting Mama]

We told Facebook today after our ultrasound. Couldn't hold it in any longer!

[RedTree]

For my son I got a BFP on Christmas Eve 2010 and I told both sides of the family on Christmas Day.  It was such a shock and great surprise for everyone!  I really want to tell everyone again on Christmas but my husband wants to wait.  I guess my body just likes to get pregnant in early December. 

Maybe I'll wait until New Years day to tell the family if they haven't guessed already.  I'm starting to bloat and show and last time at 6 weeks (I'm 5w now) I was a walking zombie because of HG until about 23 weeks.  I really hope to avoid that this time around. Please body ... please?

[eleuthia]

I'm still trying to hold out til my birthday (a week after New Years)  to tell my family and it's really hard!!! 

[Willovia]

Originally Posted by lakeruby 

I haven't told ANYONE yet!  It's my delicious little secret :)  We just got married in October and have been TTC since then.

Oh fun! We just got married too in October - 10.7.11 - and were trying to conceive immediately thereafter.

[Tizzy]

With DD I took a photo of the boys staring at a hamburger bun in our oven, and spread it all over by e-mail and Facebook.  We've learned the best way is to tell everyone we know simultaneously. Unfortunately several people didn't "get" the photo. Including my SIL and BIL who have been TTC off and on for 8yrs.

So they didn't know I was pregnant until I was 6 months along!

FIL didn't get it either, but fortunately MIL also checked her e-mail and clued him in haha

For this baby, I really wanted to tell DH in a special way, so I hung new stockings and put our names on each, with a ? on the extra stocking.

It took him a little while to notice, then when he did he forgot to ask me about it. I was nearly bursting at the seams lol!

I really don't know when we'll announce this pregnancy.  The first was a 12 weeks, the second was 16 weeks, the third 17 weeks...I'd actually like to tell everyone at Christmas. But DH's one sister is not avoiding her family (except her mom) because she's not married with kids like she'd like to be, but we are. It's very childish, and it really bothers her mom that she is being such a brat.  None of us have ever made her feel out of place or unwelcome!  She actually hasn't even met DD (who is 19 months old). so I know this pregnancy news will not impress her.

And the other SIL...well it's a long drawn out story over the past 8 years, one time they'd tell people they have become accustomed to their lifestyle and don't really want kids, then the next time they've got a nursery set up in their spare bedroom! They've never really said anything one way or another. BIL will be a great dad, he just loves kids. He let a few things slip on Facebook, so they may or may not be doing fertility treatments right now. Which means the evil side of me wants to make a big announcement at Christmas, and the nice side wants to keep it under wraps.

Oh who knows, MIL is making this terrible breakfast casserole for Christmas instead of a turkey dinner, it's eggs, green peppers, breakfast sausage, fried onions and tater tots all thrown in a pan and baked and served with chili sauce.

I haven't thrown up from morning sickness yet, but I know I will if I have to eat that. So barfing will be a clue for everyone, not drinking wine will be another.

[monkeyscience]

You know, I never realized until spending so much time around here how much easier it is to keep a pregnancy secret if you don't drink alcohol/coffee to begin with! There are so many people here and in the other TTC threads I've been in talking about how people will notice if they skip having a drink during the TWW or something, and it just isn't a concern for me, since I never drink - nothing new for people to notice! Of course, at this point, there's the fact that I'm barely eating anything as a tip-off, since the nausea has been kind brutal for me. Luckily, I haven't been around anyone but family since that nonsense has started, and we've told all our immediate family at this point. I didn't get to do my big exciting Christmas Day reveal that I wanted, but everyone was still excited for us.

[BaileyB]

Originally Posted by Tizzy 

Which means the evil side of me wants to make a big announcement at Christmas, and the nice side wants to keep it under wraps.

Tell! Tell! Tell!

[Tizzy]

LOL Thanks for the encouragement :p

Without any background info, it does sound really terrible of me to think like that, but I have put up with a LOT from her over the past 8 years without ever saying a word.

Although I am getting much more passive aggressive with our Christmas gift exchange which gives me just a teeny tiny bit of satisfaction :)

[IntuitiveJamie]

To all of you sharing the exciting news today, may it be received with love and joy!

(and come back and report! )

[Lisanne]

Originally Posted by IntuitiveJamie 

To all of you sharing the exciting news today, may it be received with love and joy!

(and come back and report! )

I second this :)

[Knitting Mama]

Even though we shared with Facebook/ALL OF THE CIVILISED WORLD this past week, some of my husband's relatives aren't online, so we shared with them tonight at Christmas Eve dinner. They were so excited! It's nice to be surrounded by happy family.

[DesertSunsets]

So far we have only told each of our sets of parents and my brother, DW's siblings don't know yet, but we are so fortunate to have supportive and excited families.  We told DW's parents the day after we got the positive, and told my parents on Friday night (we're all spending Christmas together at a cabin in the mountains!).  I think we're waiting until 12 or 13 weeks to put it on Facebook, but  we'll tell close friends whenever we see them.  

Merry Christmas to all who celebrate! 

[Veritas Vitae]

So far my bf and I have not revealed it to anyone. With the idea that his family will be disappointed, even if supportive, because we're not married, we've been hesitant to share it at all. I'm surprised.my sisters don't suspect, because I just out of the blue decided.to quit drinking...not even a Christmas morning mimosa, not that I drank a lot before this. But I'm really tempted to say something. It is so weird keeping things from my sisters. I guess ideally I'd like to tell my twin on our birthday. I couldn't give her anything better.

[lakeruby]

On Christmas Eve I suggested that we go ahead and each open one of our presents early, and I gave him a card that said "Happy Father's Day!" on the front, and on the inside it said "Get ready to welcome Baby (lastname) in late August 2012!"  And I also taped a poppyseed in there to show the current size of the baby.  He said he already knew :), which I figured he did, but then later he told me it was the best present of all time :)

He wanted to go ahead and tell our families on Christmas, so that's what we did. We wrapped up an empty picture frame for my mom with a note that said basically the same thing as the card, minus the Father's Day part.  She cried! 

[IntuitiveJamie]

lakeruby- how sweet and fun.