Don't know why but I am getting kind of scared.

[hoping4just1more]

Well we just decided to TTC on a whim. We are finally both on board and he has even let me print out a schedule of when he must take time to BD! I have been temping, charting, and watching. Even looking at old charts from 2.5 years ago when I got pg with DD2 so that I can try to make sense of exactly what day I Oed and got pregnant since this is my first cycle off birth control. I see some patterns that for some odd reason I either forgot about or didn't understand at the time. IDK. All of this is just making me so nervous! I feel a tremendous ammount of pressure to conceive this month.  I feel like I will let DH down if I don't get to suprise him with a bfp on Christmas morning and even more so that I am going to be really really really upset at myself if it doesn't happen. I am so scared it is not going to happen for us. I can conceive pretty easily (or so I think) but I am just so nervous this time around. I can't seem to calm myself down!

Does anyone do anything while waiting to O or on the 2WW to calm the nerves?

[Jaimee]

I think that's why a lot of women are on these boards, joining in the chit chat on the various TTC threads.  It can really help ease the tension when you know you're not alone in your feelings and you have people to share all the little ups, downs, and possible symptoms with.  It's also good to keep in mind that TTC each child is different and special and try not to put so much pressure on either of you to make things happen right away.  As we get older TTC can take longer, though other women find they become more fertile with each pregnancy.  So it can go either way.  My advice would be to just take it as it comes and enjoy the process... the intimate time with dh, the fun of charting, the excitement of waiting to test, etc.  And of course anything you can do for yourself to relax is only helpful like meditation, massage, yoga, acupuncture, exercise, journalling, etc. Good luck!

[anyalily]

It helps me to look at the calendar and think about when the due date would be for each month I could conceive and think about why it would be fun to have a baby that month. It may sound silly...

Also, I read the posts on this board and know that I am not alone. I also put a lot of pressure on myself to conceive quickly, but seeing how many of these women have been patiently (or not so patiently) charting and trying for a few or several months or more, puts things in perspective. We get what we need, not what we want. Sometimes I think if I am calmly patient, it will happen faster. If I am chomping at the bit and freaking out, the universe will see that I need a lesson in patience.