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Chat November 28th -December 4th!

post #1 of 105
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ugh i have an anxious pit in my stomach, i had a crazy weekend with job drama between my bossa nd the owner of the company, and somehow got pulled up in  between it, long story short i thankfully still have my job, and my boss is fired, yeesh, Im anxious because i have no diapers.  haha okay a few sposies, but my dp seems to think that diapers or cloth diapers or whatever crazy land he is in isnt necessary, im l ike do you want to spend the same amount on disposables in a month or cloth in 6 and up urgh!  all i want are some prefolds that are thick and cotton and some one size snap covers!  i dont even have any baby soap or wipes or calendula, oh boy.  i feel like he doesnt understand the reality of baby care also he says that an ergo isnt necessary.  hes like YOU HAVE HANDS!  im like i have hands that need to do laundry and pack and help move and cook and keep things clean and keep myself sane!  i just want a used one i can find one for at the most 60 bucks on ebay!  its not like we are that poor arghhhhhhh, the ring sling is nice ad all but not nearly as secure as i would feel with the ergo.  ugh! how can he not understand!  i havent gotten anything expensive/anything out of pocket yet and all i need is diapers and a carrier UGHHanxious

post #2 of 105

Sorry rustydaisies :(  That can be frustrating for sure.  Hope he comes around.  I love my Ergo!  

Well, last night was the 5th night in a row I have slept really poorly.  No real reason either. None of us are sick, and I'm not terribly uncomfortable.  I do get distracted by regular Braxton Hicks, and pee 1-2x a night...but it takes HOURS to get back to sleep.  WTH?   39 weeks yesterday...

post #3 of 105

Aww...its hard for them to understand...he may understand more once the baby comes... is there anyone else you can inlist to help you purchase those items? I do think my hubby became more understanding after seeing me struggle a bit. Now with out 3rd he is pretty much letting me get whatever I "need," which is funny because this might be our last and I feel wierd spending money on stuff...at the same time we have a lot already, so I guess there is more to spare for things that were "wants" with the last 2...and I can sort of put in the "need" catigory this time (because our actual needs are already covered).

 

That said, I love my Ergo to death and can still carry my 4yo in it (though I generally stick to the 2yo - none right now lol) I do not use it much for infants...I like slings/wraps for infants, holds them more securely and also easier to nurse in...in my opinion. ring slings can be purchased pretty inexpensively used, wraps tend to hold their value, though its literaly a large cloth so you could probably get some fabric on sale and make your own (tons of websites have instructions, I am too lazy even to do a no sew one though lol)

 

post #4 of 105
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i have a ring sling thatw as my moms with my sister thats pretty awesome for the little baby stage, also a pouch sling, i made that we will see how much it actually works, but once baby gets their heads up and wanting to be more upright i feel like the ergo is what fits best with my build and life, everything else seems like a huge hassle, too much fabric plus im moving to south carolina where its gonna be hott!  my SIL gave me two really awful crappy ssc but they didnt get used for a reason cause they suck! they look uncomfortable ive seen pictures of babies in them and it just seems awful and unsupportive and like instant backache.  im going to sell them on craigslist, hopefully before DP realizes that i have "two perfectly good carriers" and use that money for an ergo.  Im having my baby shower this weekend so ill see whats left after that, but i have a feeling its just going to be a bunch of stuff i dont need and nothing i really do need, like diapers and a wet bag haha i am sure i will be making lots and lots of returns.  Why cant Target carry the ergo?  i have gift cards up the wazoo!  WHY!

post #5 of 105

Rustydaisies: have you showed him the cost of a pack of sposies and a dozen prefolds? They are pretty much the same, besides being able to use the PFs over and over and over again. Since you have a shower coming up, can you ask for covers and PFs as gifts?

 

I agree with the others about the Ergo and wraps/slings. Wraps and slings are great for the first few months, after that an Ergo is AWESOME. I would get both, personally. I've got a great Ergo connection with my LLL group and am getting one for super discounted when I have the money. I am not going to worry about it until Jan, though, and I won't need it until Feb-March anyway.

post #6 of 105
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Originally Posted by rustydaisies View Post

 i am sure i will be making lots and lots of returns.  Why cant Target carry the ergo?  i have gift cards up the wazoo!  WHY!


Oh! I would save those gift cards and returns for CD covers. Target Online has some really great covers!

 

post #7 of 105
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i feel like ive showed him and he understood but maybe has forgoten?  ha  im really struggling with anxiety today, im not doing anything but sitting here feeling panicky and shutting down.  im totally unafraid about the birth not anxious at all, its the after part im starting to feel like eeeeekk about

post #8 of 105
Rusty, men are so clueless sometimes! But don't stress, it'll all have time to work itself out. Once baby comes, he'll see the reality of it all.

I should take my own don't stress message to heart, though, because I am stressing. Why? Mice....or at least a mouse, who we discovered in the middle of the night to have taken up residence in my craft closet. Of course, the closet is the perfect place for a happy little mouse family, as it's filled with unspun wool, yarn, fabric and other nesting goodies, and even better, there are numerous holes in the wall for secure sleeping. Great. Yeah, just great. Fantastic timing, you awful rodents. See, in this stupid basement apartment we live in, with it's sloping floors, there are dozens of places where the floor and wall don't quite meet, or where there are actual hidden holes in the walls, so now I have to tear apart the whole damn house, every closet and cabinet, find a different place for all the stuff stashed away, and figure out a way to patch those holes. I'll also have to walk to the stupid hardware store for supplies, because they're only open while DH is working. 37.5 weeks pregnant is EXACTLY when I want to tear the house apart looking for mice. Exactly. Ooooooooo, I'm so flaming frustrated!

I want to scream at my DH, also, because though he's really being wonderful overall, in three weekends of asking him to scrub the shower and bathroom ceiling, he STILL hasn't managed to get it done, yet if he sees me standing on a chair, he'll freak out. That, and I've asked him for SIX MONTHS to read a few sections of a midwifery book, and now baby could come anytime, and he's still only a few pages in. I'll be in the bedroom pushing and he'll be hurrying to read the last bit! I mean, come on, I didn't make you go to classes or talk to anyone or think about anything, and, hey, thanks for the foot rub, but read the damn book!
post #9 of 105
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steel wool and caulk for the mice holes, its a nyc trick

post #10 of 105

Rusty-- not sure how big your Target is, but, maybe if you don't get enough from selling your other carriers you can convince your DH to use some of the Target cards for regular stuff like groceries and free up money for the Ergo?? I did that after DS2 was born with my Target cards... this time I am spending them on pumping supplies (including a couple hands free pumping bras)..which is fitting since the card came from my co-workers...though I may not specifically tell them what they bought for me lol. Target online has some cloth diapers, not sure about the quality though.

 

So I got a nap in and my 4yo has been in heaven watching movies lol and my 2yo is still asleep...hopefully feeling better when he wakes up, I can't get him to eat or drink anything (I think he is afraid to throw up)...I really wish he still nursed so I could just get something into him...I think I may run out and get some popsicles later since I didn't think to make any this morning...and hopefully he will at least stay hydrated...or maybe he will be better once he wakes. He doesn't have a fever so its kind of wierd...I think he is just really congested and the mucus is making him throw up but he is afraid to eat because the one time it happened right after he ate.

 

We had mice once in our old house it was awful....I hope you get it under control quickly! We actually had to hire an exterminator and poisen them which really made me unhappy - but we had tried everything. I think though that we had 100s come in at once (long story lol), so hopefully if it is just a couple you can get it taken care of quickly...

post #11 of 105

Freezer stashed today, now soooo tired!!

post #12 of 105
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Originally Posted by AshleeS View Post

Sorry rustydaisies :(  That can be frustrating for sure.  Hope he comes around.  I love my Ergo!  

Well, last night was the 5th night in a row I have slept really poorly.  No real reason either. None of us are sick, and I'm not terribly uncomfortable.  I do get distracted by regular Braxton Hicks, and pee 1-2x a night...but it takes HOURS to get back to sleep.  WTH?   39 weeks yesterday...


I switched over now to that insomnia thing people were talking about. I'm fine for the rest of the night, but it's taking around 2 hours plus to fall asleep at the beginning of the night, regardless of what time I try to sleep. And then of course getting up once every hour or so right now. I started out last night on the couch though, and I slept really really deeply, so I think I'm going to try that tonight again. I slept for about 2 hours, but it felt like 5. It was glorious. I felt like once I woke up from that stretch, my body was enough into sleepy land that I was able to fall asleep better in the real bed. 

 

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Originally Posted by rustydaisies View Post

i feel like ive showed him and he understood but maybe has forgoten?  ha  im really struggling with anxiety today, im not doing anything but sitting here feeling panicky and shutting down.  im totally unafraid about the birth not anxious at all, its the after part im starting to feel like eeeeekk about


DH was a bit the same with diapers. He was going along with it, but didn't really get why I was so adamant about wanting cloth. Let me tell you though, the first time we stood in a diaper aisle at the store, and I picked up this massive box, and said "Ok, this will last us almost a week...." his eyes bugged out, and now I think he's wondering why we didn't get more newborn sizes in cloth. lol. When you put it to them like that-- oh yes, this box of 84 diapers, that cost $25, will be in the GARBAGE BIN in less than a week... somehow that hits home more than saying "this stash that cost $400 tops, will last for 2-3 kids entire diaper days..."

 

So excited-- we're waiting for someone to show up to potentially buy our old freezer. It's really good timing because I wanted to go shopping and stock up on a bunch of the freeze things that I don't have to make (pot pies, frozen pizzas, veggies, etc), but DH has been hesitant to spend the money until we sold the freezer. If he takes it now- we can go shopping tonight, which is perfect, because I have some other running around I wanted to do, and we'll be at that store already. 

post #13 of 105

I'm SO glad...baby shifted position I guess, probably became more fully engaged because my bladder capacity dropped dramatically, but my hip pain is gone!!! (Still hurts when I'm standing because of the pressure in my pelvis, but it's much more doable.)

 

Also, finally getting a dr's appointment tomorrow!!! I hope it goes well... :S

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We've been lucky with donations and with our general lack of need to accumulate things.  We've spent money on some storage shelves for the closet and that's it.  All clothes, diapers, toys, car seat, furniture... everything... are from friends and family.  It makes it easier to go with cloth diapers when they just show up on your front porch!

 

36 week update: I'm pregnant!  lol.  In the last discussion thread someone mentioned their midwife saying she looked too happy to be going into labor anytime soon.  My doctor said the same thing today.  Baby's head down and comfortable.  I'm comfortable enough.  No signs of anything happening.  I did gain a little weight for this appointment (24 lbs total; all that eggnog paid off!!) so I'm not paranoid anymore.

 

Making a big pot of bean soup tonight and off to take the dog for a jaunt, then to class!  It's a good Monday.  Ooh, and tomorrow is massage day!  It's a good week!

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We've been lucky with donations and with our general lack of need to accumulate things.  We've spent money on some storage shelves for the closet and that's it.  All clothes, diapers, toys, car seat, furniture... everything... are from friends and family.  It makes it easier to go with cloth diapers when they just show up on your front porch!

 


Same here. I've only purchaced a few outfits, 2 new, 2 from the thrift store. We have been lucky enough to get gifted and donated cloth diapers.

 

It was never even an item up for discussion whether or not I would be using cloth on this baby. I typically only like CDing in the BF poo stage, and can't handle it much when their poop changes. But it saves so much those first 6-8 months of not buying sposies. Cloth is so easy and cheap.. I will have to teach DF how to put on a PF, but he's a smart guy- he can handle it!

 

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So my little guy is better...he ate some mac and cheese and a popsicle after nothing the entire day and now he is running around like crazy....might be a late night lol.

 

I am busy "enjoying" my nightly contractions...I don't even begin to think its labor anymore its such a regular occurance lol. So uncomfortable though, I'm really tired of it! I'm really starting to think this baby is coming on or after her due date (Dec 15-ish)...I had sort of just expected her to be early since my last one was...I guess they are all different though!

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so I know I just posted...but, I'm a little excited because I went to apply my EPO, and baby's head was WAY lower than this morning when I applied it, AND my cervix was closer and I don't *really* know how to tell...but, I am pretty sure I'm more dilated than when my midwife check me a week and a half ago...I was 1cm then and I am guessing I am somewhere between 2-3 now...though like I said I really do not know what I am doing haha....anyway, that certainly makes me feel better about these nightly contractions...they are clearly doing something; now my hopes are high for a shorter labor...especially if I stay pregnant until my due date or after...who knows if that will be the case, but, it can't hurt to hope lol...anyway, just had to share.... now I am off to bed and really hoping the kids do the same - I've got a headache...ugh...took some tylenol PM though I am hoping that will do double duty of taking away my headache and other pains and help me sleep....it would be great not to wake every hour...

 

 

post #18 of 105
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I'll be in the bedroom pushing and he'll be hurrying to read the last bit! I mean, come on, I didn't make you go to classes or talk to anyone or think about anything, and, hey, thanks for the foot rub, but read the damn book!

 

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My DH is similarly ignoring his study guide, so I recently summarized it for him thusly: "Tell me I'm doing a good job. Get me water or rub my back if it seems to be helping. Be calm and keep the damned doctors away from our son if they have any sharp objects in their hands."

 

Also, ((hugs)) for having to deal with the mouse issue right now! =(


 

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im really struggling with anxiety today, im not doing anything but sitting here feeling panicky and shutting down.  im totally unafraid about the birth not anxious at all, its the after part im starting to feel like eeeeekk about


I feel ya! Though I waffle between anxiety and impatience. ;) Mostly my anxiety has to do with the fact that I totally am not done with my Christmas stuff and I know there is NO way I'm gonna want to do it once baby is here!


 

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We've been lucky with donations and with our general lack of need to accumulate things.  We've spent money on some storage shelves for the closet and that's it.  All clothes, diapers, toys, car seat, furniture... everything... are from friends and family.

 

Same here, for the most part. I do have a decent little stash of things I want to get - hello, diaper genie - but I'm waiting (not so patiently) for my Target registry completion coupon to come in the mail. Apparently I was supposed to get it ages ago, and didn't. Called their customer service and was told they'd send me another one. Still within the "10 business day" range for that one, but I'm 39 weeks pregnant people, I'm getting kinda antsy here, I just wanna give you my money!! (Well... 90% of my money, lol!)

 

...I sense a general theme of impatience with me, lately. =P

 

Also, I wish it was massage day for me tomorrow. So jealous! ;)

 

Just gonna heave a huge sigh of relief here: I just turned in my last paper for the semester! Still need to get through 2 presentations, a final exam, and an "in-class participation activity" on Thurs+Fri, but at least the homework is done!

 

And in completely random pregnancy news,  I have very strange nightmares lately... like, I get that anxious nightmare feeling, but it's about stupid stuff. Like last night I had a nightmare that my garage had too much stuff in it and there was only room for 1 car. No joke. WTF?? ROTFLMAO.gif

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Last night I had a zombie nightmare! Usually if I have a nightmare I'll wake up, then figure out how to "fix" the dream so it's not scary. I couldn't figure out how to fix it so it took me a long time to get back to sleep!


 

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And in completely random pregnancy news,  I have very strange nightmares lately... like, I get that anxious nightmare feeling, but it's about stupid stuff. Like last night I had a nightmare that my garage had too much stuff in it and there was only room for 1 car. No joke. WTF?? ROTFLMAO.gif

 

I finished making my Birth Beads necklace...going to wear it to my first appointment with a new dr tomorrow. Hopefully this will be a good dr and I won't have to try to find another AGAIN!
 

 

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My DH is similarly ignoring his study guide, so I recently summarized it for him thusly: "Tell me I'm doing a good job. Get me water or rub my back if it seems to be helping. Be calm and keep the damned doctors away from our son if they have any sharp objects in their hands."

Also, ((hugs)) for having to deal with the mouse issue right now! =(


 


I feel ya! Though I waffle between anxiety and impatience. wink1.gif Mostly my anxiety has to do with the fact that I totally am not done with my Christmas stuff and I know there is NO way I'm gonna want to do it once baby is here!


 

Same here, for the most part. I do have a decent little stash of things I want to get - hello, diaper genie - but I'm waiting (not so patiently) for my Target registry completion coupon to come in the mail. Apparently I was supposed to get it ages ago, and didn't. Called their customer service and was told they'd send me another one. Still within the "10 business day" range for that one, but I'm 39 weeks pregnant people, I'm getting kinda antsy here, I just wanna give you my money!! (Well... 90% of my money, lol!)

...I sense a general theme of impatience with me, lately. =P

Also, I wish it was massage day for me tomorrow. So jealous! wink1.gif

Just gonna heave a huge sigh of relief here: I just turned in my last paper for the semester! Still need to get through 2 presentations, a final exam, and an "in-class participation activity" on Thurs+Fri, but at least the homework is done!

And in completely random pregnancy news,  I have very strange nightmares lately... like, I get that anxious nightmare feeling, but it's about stupid stuff. Like last night I had a nightmare that my garage had too much stuff in it and there was only room for 1 car. No joke. WTF?? ROTFLMAO.gif

I've been getting anxiety about finishing xmas shopping too. Some things I'm getting online but I do need to go inside a store. Its on my to do list for tomorrow. Along with doing an exam and writing my last paper.
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