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post #101 of 133

WOW, Beckily- sometimes I feel so OLD- I could NEVER keep myself awake that late anymore- LO was still nursing at 9:15 last night and i was trying to stay patient because I was SOOOOO tired.  Im a wimp!!!!

post #102 of 133
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Originally Posted by nald1 View Post

WOW, Beckily- sometimes I feel so OLD- I could NEVER keep myself awake that late anymore- LO was still nursing at 9:15 last night and i was trying to stay patient because I was SOOOOO tired.  Im a wimp!!!!

Haha! That's just our schedule. Dusty has to work nights because he can't do so much of his job until everyone is done working for the day. If we tried to be awake in the mornings, he'd never sleep. He comes to be at 5-7a. That wouldn't work for me, but 11-1 does and then we're up at, you know... 11-12. :D
 

 

post #103 of 133
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Haha! That's just our schedule. Dusty has to work nights because he can't do so much of his job until everyone is done working for the day. If we tried to be awake in the mornings, he'd never sleep. He comes to be at 5-7a. That wouldn't work for me, but 11-1 does and then we're up at, you know... 11-12. :D
 

 



I guess it ends up that you sleep the same amount of hours- or are in bed the same amount.

 

Last night was NOT GOOD!  LO only stayed in the cosleeper til 11:30 (in at 9)- then up at 1:20, 3 something, 5:40, 6:30, 7:20........up  now at 9.  Is at least some sleep- even broken, better than none?  Im hoping!

post #104 of 133

I feel like I'm cheating b/c for basically the last month, in the morning I put Finn in the swing and basically tell DH it's his turn from 5 am.  I go back to sleep and then wake up 3-4 hours later.  What am I going to do when he's out of town next week!?

 

And why is it that Finn sleeps for the majority of those hours with DH??  No fair.

post #105 of 133

Carrie, you are definitely NOT cheating! Finn has 2 parents afterall, and if he's not going to fuss about which parent helps him sleep like Nora is right now, then I'd say you should enjoy it!

 

Nald, sorry about the hectic night!

 

AFM, I feel lucky that River is staying in bed until 6am which is when I wake up for work anyway. And he hasn't needed to get out of bed at night this week either, just nursing. This is definitely helping me get back in the groove of going to work.

post #106 of 133
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I feel like I'm cheating b/c for basically the last month, in the morning I put Finn in the swing and basically tell DH it's his turn from 5 am.  I go back to sleep and then wake up 3-4 hours later.  What am I going to do when he's out of town next week!?

 

And why is it that Finn sleeps for the majority of those hours with DH??  No fair.



I had thoughts of trying the swing after the 4th time LO woke up last night- AND and have thoughts of bringing him to DH, who sleeps blissfully every night alone, MANY times!!!!!!!  I think doing what you need to do to get sleep is VITAL in these early days/years.  No such thing as cheating!!!!

post #107 of 133
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Carrie, you are definitely NOT cheating! Finn has 2 parents afterall, and if he's not going to fuss about which parent helps him sleep like Nora is right now, then I'd say you should enjoy it!

 

Nald, sorry about the hectic night!

 

AFM, I feel lucky that River is staying in bed until 6am which is when I wake up for work anyway. And he hasn't needed to get out of bed at night this week either, just nursing. This is definitely helping me get back in the groove of going to work.


what's your trick?

 

post #108 of 133
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what's your trick?

 



Crossing my fingers!

 

Seriously, this is a new thing he's doing, and I hope I didn't jinx myself by posting about it here.

 

 

post #109 of 133

Thanks guys!!  I know you're right!!  It just feels wrong to feel rested!  (well, relatively, b/c i hardly think 3 hours constitutes feeling rested to anyone but a mama!)
 

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Crossing my fingers!

 

Seriously, this is a new thing he's doing, and I hope I didn't jinx myself by posting about it here.

 

 


I'll knock wood and throw salt over my shoulder!  I didn't read this!  No jinx allowed!!

 

post #110 of 133
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Crossing my fingers!

 

Seriously, this is a new thing he's doing, and I hope I didn't jinx myself by posting about it here.

 

 



I know- back when this thread about sleep started i didnt share because DS was sleeping anywhere from 6-11 hours straight- it was a dream!! BUT I knew from experience it wouldnt last- I remember thinking i had it made with DD and every new stage would bring a new sleep pattern......I just worry Im setting up a "bad habit' by nursing all night long....
 

post #111 of 133
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I just worry Im setting up a "bad habit' by nursing all night long....

 



If you're seriously worried about this, please don't be.  Babies this young still need to eat thru the night.  Remember that "thru the night"  really means about 5 hours.  Some babies do that, and some don't.  I don't think I can make babies that sleep in stretches like that!

But no, in all seriousness, this isn't something to worry about.  I plan to nightwean this LO just like I did my last -- after a year.  If he decides to give up nursing at night on his own before then, so be it, but I won't refuse to feed him during the night before he's one.

post #112 of 133
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If you're seriously worried about this, please don't be.  Babies this young still need to eat thru the night.  Remember that "thru the night"  really means about 5 hours.  Some babies do that, and some don't.  I don't think I can make babies that sleep in stretches like that!

But no, in all seriousness, this isn't something to worry about.  I plan to nightwean this LO just like I did my last -- after a year.  If he decides to give up nursing at night on his own before then, so be it, but I won't refuse to feed him during the night before he's one.



I could never "refuse' a feeding either- i just think I might offer the boob more often than necessary to get him to stop moving or kicking, when he may not even be AWAKE!  He was sleeping 5-11 hr stretches for a long time and suddenly seems to need more at night- maybe it's just that 4 month thing going on....

post #113 of 133

I would love to get a five hour stretch of sleep. I feel like a zombie. :-(

post #114 of 133

5 hours of sleep sounds like a myth, or an urban legend.  Hell, I'd love 3 at this point.  (yawn)

post #115 of 133

Dude, mine takes his 4 hour stretch from like 9-1.  That really does NOT help me at all.  I guess its better than nothing??  But then he's up every hour or two after that.

post #116 of 133

Well. I was so excited that dd seemed to sleep so easily at night. We cosleep... nurse or cuddle to sleep. She had been sleeping from 9:30-2, then up at 5, then I usually get up around 5:45-6 for work, and she would be up for an hour or so and then snooze for a couple more hours.

 

Now she is waking up at 11:30, and half the times, she is SCREAMING. She never cries, hardly at all, but is totally freaking out. I can walk around with her for a minute and get her settled, nurse again, and back to sleep. Then every hour or so, she is awake... just wiggling and kicking and making little "eh eh" grunting sounds. Her eyes are closed, and she is grabbing at her eyes and nose. Sometimes she seems stuffy, so I've been keeping the saline drops and snot-sucker by the bed, and seeing if that helps. I had thought maybe just gas, so tried giving her mylicon, and no huge help. She's not really awake, and only rarely interested in nursing - when she is, only for a couple seconds and it's back to wiggling and kicking.

 

So... other than clearing up her poor little nose, is there anything I could or should be doing? I'm wondering if other than that, if I'm hindering her getting back to sleep, and I'm just feeling like I need to do *something* because I'm awake and noticing this?

post #117 of 133
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Well. I was so excited that dd seemed to sleep so easily at night. We cosleep... nurse or cuddle to sleep. She had been sleeping from 9:30-2, then up at 5, then I usually get up around 5:45-6 for work, and she would be up for an hour or so and then snooze for a couple more hours.

 

Now she is waking up at 11:30, and half the times, she is SCREAMING. She never cries, hardly at all, but is totally freaking out. I can walk around with her for a minute and get her settled, nurse again, and back to sleep. Then every hour or so, she is awake... just wiggling and kicking and making little "eh eh" grunting sounds. Her eyes are closed, and she is grabbing at her eyes and nose. Sometimes she seems stuffy, so I've been keeping the saline drops and snot-sucker by the bed, and seeing if that helps. I had thought maybe just gas, so tried giving her mylicon, and no huge help. She's not really awake, and only rarely interested in nursing - when she is, only for a couple seconds and it's back to wiggling and kicking.

 

So... other than clearing up her poor little nose, is there anything I could or should be doing? I'm wondering if other than that, if I'm hindering her getting back to sleep, and I'm just feeling like I need to do *something* because I'm awake and noticing this?


Im wondering the same about the poor little noses- my LO is SOOOO stuffed up right now- it's hard for him to nurse and it woke him up last night and he was so frustrated he couldnt sleep- which is frustrating to BOTH of us!  He had been doing better a few nights in a row- 5 r stretches- one 6hr stretch- I actually feel HUMAN.  But this nose didnt give us the best night and it doesnt seem btter today.

 

post #118 of 133
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Dude, mine takes his 4 hour stretch from like 9-1.  That really does NOT help me at all.  I guess its better than nothing??  But then he's up every hour or two after that.



Our long stretch is 9-1 ish as well- then i pray for the best- last night he kicked and thrashed ALL NIGHT LONG after 1:30 - UGH.  Those are the nights i think about the crib transition.  He doesnt need me at those kicking sessions and isnt upset- I just lie there and hope he gets still soon so i can get some sleep before the next feeding.  BUT I sure dont want to have him in another room and have to wory about him all night- and actually get up to feed him.  I couldnt figure out nursing lying down with DD and I am grateful for at least having that while we can - oh yeah, he's also started getting chatty after his feedings- WHAT????

post #119 of 133

i have not swaddles 3 nights in a row now- and so far i notice zero difference- if anything, he's sleeping longer stretches.  Strange.  i was feeling like he was trying to kick out of it - maybe a fluke thing!!!!

 

The one thing i know i eventually need to change is LO's bedtime- Im too tired to do much about it now- and i selfishly love our night snuggle time.  Our current routine seems a little nutty- im curious how it compares to others?  DH takes DD up for bed at 7- i change DS and nurse if he's hungry.  DH takes him and gives a bottle and snuggles while i eat dinner and BREATHE after a long day :) - DS is usually very sleepy/asleep when i get him but stirs and we sit and nurse/snuggle for about 45 minutes while I zone on the tv REALLY low volume (Ive gotten good at lip reading!!!).  Then I put him down in his co-sleeper and get myself ready for bed.  From what Ive read about sleep, I am extending this pm holding/feeding ritual longer than I should.  I tell myself it's the same as a dream feed, just earlier!  I honestly love the snuggling - and he is nursing- I worry he'd wake up to nurse earlier if I tried putting him down after DH as him settled .  Id start earlier but our lives are pretty hectic with DH getting home around 6:30/45, shoving his own dinner down, putting DD to bed - I dont see another way right now...


Edited by nald1 - 1/24/12 at 10:15am
post #120 of 133

I tend to watch shows with him on me at night and he nurses to sleep. We keep it vaguely quiet, but he's a good sleeper. So he'll have a "nap" from about 8 or 9 to whenever I'm ready to go to bed - or if he wakes up and is really cranky - around 11 or 12 or 1. And then he usually wakes up and is happy and I change his diaper and crawl in bed with him and he is cute and happy for awhile and then snugs over to nurse back to sleep and we sleep.

 

I think that's pretty darn similar to what you do. And since it's what I do, too, we're obviously both doing it PERFECTLY.

 

If it's late and we don't eat at the table, I often give Dusty Charlie while I cook then put his plate near him, leave him with the baby and eat my food before taking him back. Totally reasonable.

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