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[Lynann]

I really feel for everyone not getting enough sleep.

I've been blessed with another mythical good sleeper. Seth sleeps from about 7pm until 5am. He will still cluster feed in the evening before he goes down, then again first thing in the morning. He is also beginning to get himself into a 3 nap schedule, and always feeds as soon as he wakens and then feeds again to go to sleep. If he is up for 2 hours or more he'll usually have a feed in the middle of his awake time too. At night he only wakes for a feed about once a week and that's usually somewhere between midnight and 2am. I'm definitely getting enough sleep at night as Aiden also goes down by about 7pm and he sleeps until about 7or 8am. Aide is now on just one nap during the day from about noon until 2 or 3pm. I can here him now as he has just woken up, so I'm going to have to go and get him up before he wakes Seth up too.

I have no idea why both my boys are such good sleepers at night, but I sure am glad about it.

[nald1]

Originally Posted by cat13 

I'm having this problem too! Woke up at about 4am, nursed River, then he wouldn't stop squirming. I got up to go to the bathroom, and when I got back he was perfectly still. I made DH scootch over and sleep next to River while I slept the next almost 2 hours in peace with no baby next to me!

and the problem with the cosleeper is that it still shakes the whole bed when he squirms!!!  Sometimes I think DD has come in and is shaking the bed trying to wake me - but no, it's my little 11 lb peanut going to town :)

[Tear78]

Carrie, I hope you're able to find a bedtime solution with DH so you can get more sleep!

DD used to sleep 8-12 hrs straight every night--then I went back to work and she's so distraught that she has a hard time going to bed and often wakes up to nurse and just be with me. I think she misses her boobie time and also needs reassurance that I'm there at night. Stupid backwards healthcare system where moms have to go back to work while exclusively breastfeeding! hmph... teaching 5th graders on 3 hours of broken sleep is almost impossible...

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by Tear78 

Carrie, I hope you're able to find a bedtime solution with DH so you can get more sleep!
DD used to sleep 8-12 hrs straight every night--then I went back to work and she's so distraught that she has a hard time going to bed and often wakes up to nurse and just be with me. I think she misses her boobie time and also needs reassurance that I'm there at night. Stupid backwards healthcare system where moms have to go back to work while exclusively breastfeeding! hmph... teaching 5th graders on 3 hours of broken sleep is almost impossible...

Thanks, Tear.  We are trying.  Last night was an epic failure - DH tried for an hour to get DD to go to sleep (w/no phone, lol!) and she just wouldn't stop tantruming.  She was screaming a the top of her lungs, crying, "I MISS MOMMY!!"  Finally....I had enough.  I lost my shit I admit it, but I was firm and angry and, unfortunately, gave in and layed with her.  She was asleep within 5 min.  Idk what we are doing wrong.  Finn went to sleep at 830 and my head didn't hit the pillow until 11:30!!  

The cosleeper is working out wonderfully though (knock wood) and for the past 3 nights, though the hours suck, I've been sleeping in my bed!!   I inclined it pretty steep, lol, but now he sleeps in it!  So far no puke!  So, there you have it.  He wakes to nurse 3-4 times (which is hard, I admit) but it's better than the couch for me, and I think better than the swing for him.  It's hard to lift his huge 18 lb meatball body up out of that little cosleeper when you're half paralyzed from sleep.  I'm still sitting up to nurse him.

And, Tear, mama, I feel for you.  The system is so messed up here.  I know you'll both get this figured out as time goes on, but until then just know in your heart you are doing the best you can for your family (including her).  

[copper.kettle]

one handed typing.

carrie i'm so sorry it didn't work w/dd.  i would have given in at that point too.  hang in there.  this is temporary.

[Carlyle]

Originally Posted by Tear78 

Carrie, I hope you're able to find a bedtime solution with DH so you can get more sleep!
DD used to sleep 8-12 hrs straight every night--then I went back to work and she's so distraught that she has a hard time going to bed and often wakes up to nurse and just be with me. I think she misses her boobie time and also needs reassurance that I'm there at night. Stupid backwards healthcare system where moms have to go back to work while exclusively breastfeeding! hmph... teaching 5th graders on 3 hours of broken sleep is almost impossible...

Hugs honey...I've been thinking about you tons.

[nald1]

thinking of you too Carrie- glad the co-sleeper is helping.  I get so tired just lifting my 11 lb peanut if he gets up a couple of times.  Lately he's having trouble staying asleep when he first goes down- last night I had to put him down three-four times before it "took" - is anyone else experiencing this?  i see myself going down the same path as with DD and soothing him again and again with the boob and holding - but isnt that what babies NEED????

[Beckily]

We do bedtime differently, I'm betting, but Charlie often nurses, sleeps a bit and wants to nurse again.

I just go to bed when he does and we stay tightly snuggled, so it's not too big of a fuss.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by nald1  i see myself going down the same path as with DD and soothing him again and again with the boob and holding - but isnt that what babies NEED????

I hear you on this.  I struggle with it too, b/c I know it's what they need, and there's no "trick", they do what they do b/c that's just how they are.  I'm trying to apply this with my dealings with my 3yo too, b/c I really can't stand the bedtime struggles.  But, if she needs me, she needs me.  Right?  Sigh.
 

Originally Posted by Beckily 

We do bedtime differently, I'm betting, but Charlie often nurses, sleeps a bit and wants to nurse again.

I just go to bed when he does and we stay tightly snuggled, so it's not too big of a fuss.

He is *such* a trick baby.  You guys are so lucky.  Srsly. 
 

[Beckily]

Originally Posted by Baby_Cakes 

I hear you on this.  I struggle with it too, b/c I know it's what they need, and there's no "trick", they do what they do b/c that's just how they are.  I'm trying to apply this with my dealings with my 3yo too, b/c I really can't stand the bedtime struggles.  But, if she needs me, she needs me.  Right?  Sigh.
 

He is *such* a trick baby.  You guys are so lucky.  Srsly. 
 

We put tons of effort into listening and letting him chose things. Like if he's crying, I lay him on my chest and open my arms, so I'm not restricting him and ask what he wants. If he wants rocked, bounced or walked, he jumps with his legs. If he wants to nurse, he crawls down to a boob, if he wants to cuddle, he does so. Sometimes he changes his cry from a crying to a singing-ish thing - the tone changes, it's hard to say - so I try singing and he immediately calms down. If he wants rocked, he'll squawk a bit to tell me he also wants his back patted.

So, sure, once we learned what he wants it can be easy, but a lot goes into it :)

Have you talked to your daughter about bedtimes and why she gets so upset?

[sajgos]

Maya and Ella on their 4th nap of the day (usually they only take three naps) and it's approaching 5:30... They have been asleep since 3:15 or so...  I hope they don't think it's night time! Usually they go to bed at 7pm. It's so crazy how I'm so excited and happy that they are taking such a long nap, and yet at the same time, so worried about it. Geez.

Here is a picture of them napping for all to enjoy!

[cat13]

Those are real babies, right? Because it seriously looks like two dolls laying down! They are so adorable!

[Beckily]

Originally Posted by cat13 

Those are real babies, right? Because it seriously looks like two dolls laying down! They are so adorable!

That was my first though, too! So sweet! :D

I love that mixed "Yay! Break! ... ... Okay, wake up, I don't know what to do without you!" ;)

[sajgos]

Well, Ella ended up waking up about 15 minutes after I posted. :) I decided to wake up Maya after I'd nursed Ella because she was still sound asleep. She was not happy about being woken, I'm pretty sure she was asleep for the night. Now both girls have had a bath, played for a while, nursed again and are in bed for the night (hopefully). We'll see how it goes tonight! I am hoping for at least a 5 hour stretch. I am so tired.

[Baby_Cakes]

Jenny don't take this the wrong way (b/c i'm completely kidding) but how is a mama of twins getting more sleep than me!?   They are so cute laying there together.  It must be so tough juggling two babies!!!

[Beckily]

Man. I want sleep. I'm so tired these days. I mis those good sleeping days. When will they come back? I tried to join him for a nap, but he would start nursing every time I started to fall asleep. So I'd wake up. Sigh.

[Baby_Cakes]

Missing the 830 - whenever sleep stretch yay that Finn does is killer!!

I even started dream feeding him, when I bring him to bed and put him in the cosleeper, I feed him. Nothing. Still up exactly 2 hours later. So so annoying.

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[Peony]

This morning was the first time in over 2 weeks that I didn't have to get up around 3-4am for 1-2 hours!  He sleeps ok the first part of the night and by ok I mean waking every hourish. And then sometimes after 2pm, it is just constant, like every 5-10 minutes, he gets to a point where I can not settle him down at all and we have to get up. He eventually falls back asleep and if it is before 5:30 I head back to bed for an hour. 6:30 is the absolute latest I can wake up and get the kids out the door on time. It is gas because when we are out in the living room, he farts a lot. It is like he stores it up all night and then his belly just can't take it anymore and he has to fully wake up to release it all. Thank goodness my body considers 5 hours of sleep all night to be a good night after several kids!

After 4months or so, sleeping is all over the place. Or least it always has been for my kids, they start working on teeth and developmental milestones, and they don't sleep. Eventually someday, well years away for my kids, they do.

[nald1]

Originally Posted by Peony 

This morning was the first time in over 2 weeks that I didn't have to get up around 3-4am for 1-2 hours!  He sleeps ok the first part of the night and by ok I mean waking every hourish. And then sometimes after 2pm, it is just constant, like every 5-10 minutes, he gets to a point where I can not settle him down at all and we have to get up. He eventually falls back asleep and if it is before 5:30 I head back to bed for an hour. 6:30 is the absolute latest I can wake up and get the kids out the door on time. It is gas because when we are out in the living room, he farts a lot. It is like he stores it up all night and then his belly just can't take it anymore and he has to fully wake up to release it all. Thank goodness my body considers 5 hours of sleep all night to be a good night after several kids!

After 4months or so, sleeping is all over the place. Or least it always has been for my kids, they start working on teeth and developmental milestones, and they don't sleep. Eventually someday, well years away for my kids, they do.

I often wonder if handling sleep deprivation is easier when you're younger (as you appear to be on facebook :)!!) - I need SO much sleep it's pathetic - these early days kick my ass hard
 

[Lynann]

My DS2 sleeps great, but lately I'm not getting enough sleep. I keep waking up to feed him and he will be sound. Like his brother he is next to impossible to wake up from a deep sleep. So I lay in bed and just kind of half doze waiting for him to stir enough for me to wake him for a feed. Before I know it another night has gone by with only a couple of hours of actual proper sleep. I actually sleep better on the nights when he wakes me up for feeding.