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post #21 of 109

crotch rot!  Ah, gotta love that term!

post #22 of 109

I live somewhere where winter is long, and cold, and dry. I don't know a single pre-pubescent child whose parents have them wash more than 3 times a week, with twice being more the norm. I do not hang out with a very crunchy crowd. Most parents I know start out with more frequent bathing and them move to less frequently as they discover how drying a bath or shower can be to their kids skin.

 

The kids are washed whenever they get stinky, or sweaty or have been in the pool (nothing dries out the skin and hair faster than chlorine left to sit in the hair and on the body). So they do take more frequent baths during the summer, however, then it is more likely to be every other day.

post #23 of 109

My kids have eczema, so we avoid soap in favor of shower oil, but I just can't see not using anything at all, or foregoing bathing for more than a few days at a time. They're five and three, they don't have BO yet, but they play outside, they get food on their faces, DD comes home from kindergarten with playground dirt embedded in her knees and marker all over her hands. There are a million things that they do in the course of their normal, everyday kid lives that I feel necessitate bathing on a regular basis. DD still has trouble getting herself clean after she uses the bathroom, she has to have a bath at least every couple days or she ends up with an itchy bum. DD also has minor sensory issues, so I can understand why the rules would need to be relaxed for a kid with SPD or the like, but letting a "normal" (totally for lack of a better word) kid go without bathing just because they aren't feeling it? Nope, sorry, this is one instance where my kids don't get to choose their own path. 

post #24 of 109

See, we live in a very dry climate, and if I soap DD up every day, her skin gets irritated. We do end up using soap more often in the summer because she sweats more and thus actually needs to be washed with soap, but it's still not necessary every day. That's why I said there isn't a minimum that is appropriate for every child. I still don't see what's wrong with just cleaning your child when he/she is dirty enough to need it. That may be every day for some children, but that doesn't mean it has to be every day for all children, you know?

post #25 of 109

My boys bathe daily.  We usually skip a bath on Friday night and Saturday is bubble bath night, but otherwise they get washed and soaped every day.  We all shower after swimming in chlorine.

 

I really can't imagine only washing my kids in the swimming pool.  My kids have very sensitive skin as well, but a daily bath has never bothered them.

post #26 of 109

In the summer my children, now age 7, have a bath/hairwash daily.  They are just dirty/sandy from playing outside.

In the winter, they normally bath/hairwash every other day unless they need one - sweaty after tennis or playing in the snow, etc.  My children sweat a lot...I don't think they are stinky at this age, but just getting the sweat off makes them more comfortable.  They could probably have their hair washed less often - growing up, my mom washed our hair once a week. 

post #27 of 109

so all your kids use soap in the crotch area? no one complains?

 

dd cannot. it hurts and burns her. she is 9 and had never had soap anywhere near her crotch area. she freaks out if soap goes anywhere near there. water has worked for us fine. 

 

truly the only place dd needs soap is her underarms for BO. but even then its when she's had a sweaty day. its BO on her clothes that is noticable. 

 

for us summer is very different. dd is in the pool every day and thus needs a shower everyday because of the chlorine. 

post #28 of 109
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so all your kids use soap in the crotch area? no one complains?

 

dd cannot. it hurts and burns her. she is 9 and had never had soap anywhere near her crotch area. she freaks out if soap goes anywhere near there. water has worked for us fine. 

 

truly the only place dd needs soap is her underarms for BO. but even then its when she's had a sweaty day. its BO on her clothes that is noticable. 

 

for us summer is very different. dd is in the pool every day and thus needs a shower everyday because of the chlorine. 


Dd uses soap on her underarms, feet and other places as needed.  I think soaking in a tub of water for 30 minutes to an hour is enough for the crotch area to get clean without putting soap there.

 

post #29 of 109

Bathing about twice weekly here. We don't use shampoo on the kiddo's hair at all, just water, that's all that's necessary at this age imo.

post #30 of 109

Older kids shower every other day, though older dd washes her hair 2 times a week only.

 

8 year old dd showers or bathes 2 times a week in general, more if she is sweaty/dirty/etc. We wash hair every time.

 

Youngest dd showers or bathes 2-4 times a week, hair washing 2 times a week.

 

More often hair washing makes their hair dry. None of my girls can take a bubble baths or use soap in the genital area or they get irritated. None of them have "crotch rot".

 

 

post #31 of 109

My son (a little over 2) gets a bad case of stinky scalp after a few days, and has only recently really gotten over having cradle cap (which smelled horrid).  We've found that washing his hair 2 or 3 times a week is sufficient to keep him fresh.  He sometimes gets bonus hair washes if he does things like play in the sandbox and dump sand in his hair.

post #32 of 109
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so all your kids use soap in the crotch area? no one complains?

 

dd cannot. it hurts and burns her. she is 9 and had never had soap anywhere near her crotch area. she freaks out if soap goes anywhere near there. water has worked for us fine. 

 

truly the only place dd needs soap is her underarms for BO. but even then its when she's had a sweaty day. its BO on her clothes that is noticable. 

 

for us summer is very different. dd is in the pool every day and thus needs a shower everyday because of the chlorine. 


When I was little I hated using soap on my crotch because it stung. At some point someone realized that I wasn't wiping after only peeing and my vulva was raw most of the time. As soon as I started wiping properly every single time, I have had no crotch sting since. 

 

post #33 of 109



so...  if you're sensitive you're sensitive. 

 

 

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When I was little I hated using soap on my crotch because it stung. At some point someone realized that I wasn't wiping after only peeing and my vulva was raw most of the time. As soon as I started wiping properly every single time, I have had no crotch sting since. 

 



 

post #34 of 109

My kids (ages 4, 6, and 8) bathe and wash hair twice a week during the cold months, and as needed (probably averaging every other day) in hot weather.  I agree that daily clothing and underwear changes go a long way toward preventing stinkiness.

post #35 of 109

I washed my hair once a week or even less often when I was a kid. I had very dry skin and dry scalp. Now I have oily skin and I have wash my hair every three days at the longest. If I can't do that (sick, etc) I use "dry shampoo".

post #36 of 109
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Originally Posted by meemee View Post

so all your kids use soap in the crotch area? no one complains?

 

dd cannot. it hurts and burns her. she is 9 and had never had soap anywhere near her crotch area. she freaks out if soap goes anywhere near there. water has worked for us fine. 

 

truly the only place dd needs soap is her underarms for BO. but even then its when she's had a sweaty day. its BO on her clothes that is noticable. 

 

for us summer is very different. dd is in the pool every day and thus needs a shower everyday because of the chlorine. 

My GP told me, after I had a string of gnarly infections, that soap, even the mildest kind, isn't good for girl parts, and that all the feminine products that are supposed to be "specially formulated" for that particular area are even worse. I make sure that the kids wash themselves thoroughly with clean water, front and back, and I do the same, but no, we don't use soap in or around the crotch area. And I do need to clarify something else; bodhitree had a point about different climates. I live in the deep South; we have hot, humid, sticky summers, and my kids end up smelling like wet dogs if they don't get bathed every day. I bathe them less often in the winter because the central heat dries their skin out and aggravates their eczema. It would be totally different if I lived someplace like Arizona where it is consistently warm and dry and they didn't get icky and smelly every time they set foot out the front door.  

post #37 of 109

3-4 times a day for my 2 yr old who keeps dumping food in his hair. If they are otherwise clean, a couple times a week is fine. But, apparently, my 2 yr old loves rubbing food in to his hair so...he is never "otherwise clean."

post #38 of 109

I've read that Namibian natives "bathe" with smoke - climate is too dry to de-grease the skin (and water is probably too scarce.)

post #39 of 109

i think dd is just sensitive in the crotch area. hmmm however i cant imagine how she would not be wiping properly esp her vulva area.

 

we wash her crotch area with water every two days or so or she uses a bidet so no itchy bum or red crotch.

 

what i find interesting with her (and it may be her thing) is her vulva area is red from wearing underwear the whole day long (mind you comfortable pure cotton underwear - not too tight, maybe a little loose). dd prefers being naked at home, she doesnt like pjs. she prefers just the top (what is that called - a night shirt?). when she is home just in a dress with no uw there is no redness.

 

also what's funny she is less stinky underarms when she is not wearing clothes.

post #40 of 109

DD bathes every other day due to VERY sensitive skin. We use special soap for eczema when she is bathed. We wash her hair every other day, but I'm thinking about cutting back on that too. I have thick, curly, dry, frizzy hair, and my hair behaves best when washed 2-3 times a week; her hair is the exact same type. I shower my body every day, though. DH showers and washes his hair daily, but he has unholy man stink if he doesn't. Last night I told him he smelled like cumin and to not come near me until he had bathed (I am pregnant so I'm sure that makes it worse)! I start to stink after about 36 hours with no bath, so I can handle bathing every other day if needed. When DD was an infant we bathed her maybe once a week, but she didn't do anything to get dirty back then! She is now 28 months.

 

Totally not liking the thought of only bathing older kids/ adults once a week. I went to school with some kids from northern Europe (we were living in the middle east at the time, so infrequent bathing was totally inappropriate for the climate) and I guess their culture bathes less often (I forget which specific country). They were really stinky kids.

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