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post #61 of 109
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My kids are in the pool once a week too, and I wash their hair right afterwards.  For me them being in the pool is the main reason *why* I wash their hair!  Chlorine is so hard on hair!  (and skin...)  During breaks from swimming lessons we do often go longer than a week between hair washes.  Dd gets her hair washed more often than ds because the conditioner really makes it easier to get the tangles out (ds has short hair).

Besides that we have weeks with no bath (besides post-pool shower), and weeks with 3-4 baths.  It depends on a variety of factors - dirtiness being one, and also that they sometimes "need" a bath to help mellow out and calm down before bed time.

I would wash hair right after pool and my dd needs it once more mid-week now or you can smell that she needs it washed. She also needs to wash under her arms too now, so this is a recent change. Before, I'd be OK with once a week.
post #62 of 109

While I don't think once a week is exactly overkill (considering how many people I know who do a full head-to-toe soap up every single night), it doesn't have to be weekly.  My boys have short, very wiry hair (from their African daddy).  They do well with a proper hair wash every 2 weeks, and in between it gets rinsed and the dust brushed out of it every now and again. 

post #63 of 109

I try to bathe my kids at least twice a week, which used to be easy because they bathed together.  But a few weeks ago Milo decided it was time to start showering alone.  Sigh...  Now Augie doesn't want to be in the bath anymore and Milo's not really that keen on following through with his showering.  We need to figure out a new rhythm.

 

At any rate, they almost never use soap, but for the last six months or so Augie has been insisting on bubble bath.  No shampoo for Augie but Milo uses it because he swims a lot and the pool does horrendous things to his hair.  The no poo thing has been so great for Augie.  His hair always looks and smells clean.  I just rinse real well when he takes a bath.  

 

The only kid I ever knew who really smelled (I mean *little* kid with clean diaper) smelled because he had his mom's BO all over him.  greensad.gif  It was terrible because she would ask me to hold him and I almost couldn't do it.  

post #64 of 109

We do once a week MAXIMUM, unless they get really dirty, for kids 0-3.  This might be because we have children with incredibly dry, sensitive skin who are miserable when bathed more often.

 

Most of the time, they get a bath every two weeks or so.  They don't get that dirty outside the diaper area, the face, and the hands and feet.  Diaper area gets a mini-wash every change, faces are wiped after just about every meal/snack, and we wash hands and feet at least twice a day.  We have yet to start using soap on our nearly-2yo, although we do wash his hair with cranberry juice and put some soap in the bathwater.

post #65 of 109
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I would wash hair right after pool and my dd needs it once more mid-week now or you can smell that she needs it washed. She also needs to wash under her arms too now, so this is a recent change.

See here's the thing. dd can have a stinky scalp and then stand in the warm shower and her stinkyness is gone. it isnt either sweet smelling either. 

 

yeah dd needs her armpits cleaned every other day. but she doesnt need to have a bath for that. she just rinses it out with a wash cloth. 

 

she also rinses her elimination areas every second day. 

 

that's why bathing is not so regular in our house.

 

however we dont have a regular bathing date. we take one when we feel like one or someone else says we need one (usu, that's me telling dd and she telling me 'i know, i am about to take one - said with a disgusted expression as if she didnt know). so some weeks we may go without bathing for a whole week or more (i think 10 days has been our max - at home, not camping, but it was during summer vacation) and then we may shower every day. however i have only showered twice a day v. v. rarely. 
 

 

post #66 of 109

Wow, I have to admit I'm kind of surprised at some of the answers!  My husband and I have had this disagreement as well -he showers everyday without fail including washing hair, and I tend to go about once a week.  DD has a bath every night more for the sake of ritual than anything else and she gets her hair washed every other night.  This is also due to the fact that she is only 15 months, and gets food and everything else in there.  However, the one thing I have to say is, when I DO shower and wash my hair more often than once a week, I always feel better.  It feels good to be clean, and I think going once a week or once every two weeks for a kiddo is way too long -but that's just me.

post #67 of 109

This thread fascinates me.

 

When DS was a baby and into his toddler years, we bathed him once a week.  He had  dry skin so anything more than once a week caused skin problems.  We would use goat milk soap on his butt and on his hair.

 

Once he became super active, in the summer, we had to bath him every night.  There was absolutely no way we could skip it, he was caked with dirt and mud as well as being super sweaty.  By then, his skin improved so that wasn't too much of an issue.  To this day, we still use goat milk or olive oil soap.  He is six and during the warmer months, daily baths are a must.  Now that winter in settling in, we will skip a day or two once in a while.

 

I am amazed there are adults that bath once a week or less.  My body chemistry requires I bath daily.  I have spent periods without bathing and times with trying to not use soap and it nearly drove me insane.  . 

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I am amazed there are adults that bath once a week or less.  My body chemistry requires I bath daily.  I have spent periods without bathing and times with trying to not use soap and it nearly drove me insane.  . 


I'm pretty amazed as well. In our family of two adults and two teen, everyone showers in the morning, and before bed. I can't imagine going to bed dirty.
 

 

post #69 of 109
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I'm pretty amazed as well. In our family of two adults and two teen, everyone showers in the morning, and before bed. I can't imagine going to bed dirty.
 

 



Up until just the last couple of months I have always showered every day.  I normally can't stand to leave the house un-showered.  Recently I've been skipping days because I can't seem to get a shower in before driving my oldest to school and then after that I just don't get a chance.  I kinda hate it.  I may have to just bite the bullet and actually get out of bed earlier.  But twice a day???  I can see if it's one person's habit and they just like it.  I don't see anything *wrong* with it, just wow!  twice a day for everyone in the family really amazes me.  I think I would feel like I was always getting in or out of the shower.  My grandfather is ocd and he used to literally force everyone in his household to bathe three times a day.  I remember hating to visit him for that very reason.  And when I look at the photos from when I was like 8, 9, 10 from summer trips, I am almost always wrapped in a towel or have one wrapped around my head.  My mother was a non-bather when I was growing up (now she showers every day like a normal person, lol).  But I'm pretty sure it was in reaction to having over-bathed growing up with him.

post #70 of 109

Honestly, I'm surpised people would shower or bathe twice a day as a regular thing, without some specific reason for getting dirty again like working out at the gym or whatever. That seems wasteful to me. I'm all about keeping clean but I'm also all about conserving resources.

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I'm pretty amazed as well. In our family of two adults and two teen, everyone showers in the morning, and before bed. I can't imagine going to bed dirty.

 

What affects being dirty: 1) climate  2) physical exertion / exercise  3) an individual's body chemistry  4) time elapsed since last bath.

 

There are people that don't have a lot of smell and are "hypoallergenic" and "odorless" smile.gif naturally. Up to the point of sweat not smelling (at all, even after vigorous exercise - noted by other people, "you never smell of  anything") and the armpits not having any smell until 3 days after washing.

 

For others, it's the other end of the spectrum - smelly in a few hours after the shower.

 

"Dirty" for me, it's evidence-based: did I dig in the garden all day in hot summer humidity? was I on an episode of "Dirty Jobs"? did I fall into the swamp when I was hiking? did I get two hours of intense exercise? did I spill juice all over myself? am I covered with sawdust?

 

In humid and hot climate, the feeling is not "dirty", but "sticky" - it's annoying and for me it's worth taking a quick shower. But I don't live in Louisiana, so I don't need those everyday showers.

 

A day of sitting around in an air-conditioned office will not get me dirty, I know that.

 

Freshen-up methods are always available - bidet (or any substitute of it), washing up armpits.

 

So, if 1) the climate is cold and dry  2) the level of exercise is low  3) the person tends not to smell, even after exercising anyway, and skin is very dry  - why shower every day or even twice a day?


Edited by DoubleDouble - 12/4/11 at 4:21am
post #72 of 109

For me, dirty is a feeling, rather than a subjective thing. We also find that showering before bed tends to cut down on allergens.

post #73 of 109
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What affects being dirty: 1) climate  2) physical exertion / exercise  3) an individual's body chemistry  4) time elapsed since last bath.

 

There are people that don't have a lot of smell and are "hypoallergenic" and "odorless" smile.gif naturally. Up to the point of sweat not smelling (at all, even after vigorous exercise - noted by other people, "you never smell of  anything") and the armpits not having any smell until 3 days after washing.

 

For others, it's the other end of the spectrum - smelly in a few hours after the shower.

 

"Dirty" for me, it's evidence-based: did I dig in the garden all day in hot summer humidity? was I on an episode of "Dirty Jobs"? did I fall into the swamp when I was hiking? did I get two hours of intense exercise? did I spill juice all over myself? am I covered with sawdust?

 

In humid and hot climate, the feeling is not "dirty", but "sticky" - it's annoying and for me it's worth taking a quick shower. But I don't live in Louisiana, so I don't need those everyday showers.

 

A day of sitting around in an air-conditioned office will not get me dirty, I know that.

 

Freshen-up methods are always available - bidet (or any substitute of it), washing up armpits.

 

So, if 1) the climate is cold and dry  2) the level of exercise is low  3) the person tends not to smell, even after exercising anyway, and skin is very dry  - why shower every day or even twice a day?



I hate feeling sticky.  I shower so much more in the summer b.c I just can't deal with feeling sticky.  If we have a string of 90 degree humid days our water bill spikes, but it's worth it to me.

post #74 of 109
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Honestly, I'm surpised people would shower or bathe twice a day as a regular thing, without some specific reason for getting dirty again like working out at the gym or whatever. That seems wasteful to me. I'm all about keeping clean but I'm also all about conserving resources.



Yeah, I live in a place where water is a precious resource, and I have to keep a close eye on the water bill.  If we go over our allotted usage, our bill starts spiking.  On top of laundry and dishes and the toilet and a kid who loves washing his hands, bathing twice a day would break the bank.  Not to mention the additional laundry from the towels. 

 

When the temperature spikes around here (a handful of days a year), we'll take a quick rinse in the shower before bed, so we can go to bed not feeling sticky, but that's usually the both of us in the same shower for about 2 minutes.  There's no way that 2 full showers a day (every day) would ever work for me though - my skin gets far too dry just from the water exposure.  Even just from doing the dishes. 

post #75 of 109

DD (almost 2) gets a bath virtually every night, and that includes washing her hair (occasionally we will skip if we're out later than usual).

 

She goes to daycare and they do a ton of sensory activities, painting (they strip them down and let them paint on themselves, etc.), outdoor time, etc. so she is FILTHY when she comes home.She is also the world's messiest eater. So, between that and her love of water, it's easiest to just do bath every night. Luckily, we've had no issues with skin drying/sensitivity. 


When she was a baby (pre solids), it was more like once/week.

 

post #76 of 109
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For me, dirty is a feeling, rather than a subjective thing. We also find that showering before bed tends to cut down on allergens.



I'm curious about what kind of allergens you mean.  I'm horribly allergic to dust mites and if it'd help with that I might try it.  It seems though, that since they eat the dead skin in your bed (this horrifies me, btw), over-dry skin would be a bad idea.  I don't think I could require my hubby to do it, though, and if it was only one of us, I don't know that I'd see a difference.  

post #77 of 109

DS is in kindergarten so he showers nightly.

DD is 2 and past the stage where food gets all over her (back then, I'd spray her down after every meal) so she has a shower every other day.

Their hair gets washed everytime they are in the shower and they both get baths once/week.

 

I grew up in a very hot and humid climate and we showered twice daily. I'm not sure if this is the reason for my dependence on a daily shower. Because if I do not get a shower (or skip washing my hair), I get flu-like symptoms and start running a low grade fever.That and my husband says that I'm grumpy until I've had my shower. LOL

post #78 of 109

At that age I probably bathed them about twice a week.  I only did hair about once - we are all prone to dry hair and my oldest in particular hated having his hair done.

 

At this point in time, my girls seem to do their hair about every second day, my son is about twice a week, I am twice a week, and my husband is daily.  All make up there own minds based on when they feel the need.  

 

OP - There are shampoo bars available as well as shampoos that do not foam as much - maybe that will help with the washing hair drama?

post #79 of 109

We always shower after swimming.  I can always feel the chlorine on my body and it trashes your hair. 

 

Ds is 11 and usually smells like dirty dog :)  He plays sports 5 days a week and they play football every day at recess...he's active and smelly.  Thankfully it's not a battle to make him shower.

 

Dd has butt length hair and we wash it once a week.  She doesn't get a stinky head for some reason, no matter how long we go.  It's been two weeks right now because there is a lice thing going on at school and lice like clean hair.  I'm keeping her dirty.  She takes a bath every other day, sometimes more, sometimes less.   It's winter so she's not getting hot and sweaty often, so a few times a week is fine for her.

 

post #80 of 109

IMHO it's a matter of what feels right to you as a person and as a mum.  My two DD's are 9 & 11, they have a shower every other day and wash and condition their hair each time.  They wash faces, hands and other bits in between.  That said, this is winter.  We live in Greece, so it is perfectly normal to have as many as 4 showers a day in summer.... it reaches 45 degrees celcius and they are in and out of the sea and the pool so we factor in removing salt and chlorine.. We use a protective spray on their hair to combat the salt and chlorine but it never completely works. 

 

For us adults in summer its the same, one when you get up, one when you get home, one after siesta, then one when you get in from work.  We run a bar so are doing physical stuff all day long, and the stickiness is just too much to bear!!

 

For me it's all about how I feel. I LOVE a quick shower in summer just for those 10 seconds of coolness when I get out.  In winter I actually prefer a long hot soak in the bath and would do this every day if I could get away with it.

 

Emily x

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