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post #81 of 109

Uh, yeah, "dirty" is a relative term.  As has been explained.

 

We would literally not be able to afford groceries if we were all showering twice daily.  We live in one of the highest water-cost areas of the region.  Holy cow, just thinking about what the bill would be like gives me the shivers.scared.gif lol 

post #82 of 109
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Originally Posted by coldandsleepy View Post

My son (a little over 2) gets a bad case of stinky scalp after a few days, and has only recently really gotten over having cradle cap (which smelled horrid).  We've found that washing his hair 2 or 3 times a week is sufficient to keep him fresh.  He sometimes gets bonus hair washes if he does things like play in the sandbox and dump sand in his hair.



The cure for cradle cap is tea tree shampoo, and conditioner too, if the shampoo dries his skin. Cradle cap is fungal and the tea tree kills it.

post #83 of 109

My son is almost 3 and rarely has a shower or bath.  Maybe once or twice a month?  And even then I don't shampoo his hair.  He doesn't smell, he isn't dirty, his hair is never oily (he doesn't have much of it yet).  His hands and face get washed daily.  He did have more baths in the summer but even then it was probably only once a week.

 

I shower every day in the summer and every other day the rest of the year.

post #84 of 109
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Originally Posted by silversparrow View Post



The cure for cradle cap is tea tree shampoo, and conditioner too, if the shampoo dries his skin. Cradle cap is fungal and the tea tree kills it.



Tea tree shampoo/conditioner had absolutely no effect on his scalp despite months of regular use.  Nor did oiling his scalp & combing out the gunk, which is another thing people often suggest.  The combing would get rid of it temporarily, but in a matter of days it'd be back.  Believe me, we tried everything for him.  We eventually settled on just combing it out gently after we'd bathe him and after many many months of doing this, it stopped regenerating.

 

He *still* has a stinky head if we don't wash him every few days, though, even though the cradle cap is gone.  I think he has the same tendency towards oily scalp that my husband has.  (Which is probably better than getting my scalp, which is bone dry no matter what.)

post #85 of 109

My kids (2,4) get baths most days and hair washes every three days. Their hair looks less than clean by the time we wash it. DH would wash it more if I would let him. To me, a week seems like the maximum but I know some cultures and perhaps people of different ethnicities need different hair care.

 

Also the 2 year old still has cradle cap and tee tree has had no effect. The only thing that makes a difference is scraping her scalp which, surprise, she hates. Olive oil makes it come off easier but she still hates it. Which would be the reason she still hates it.

 

As for the adults, we bathe at least once a day. Every adult I've ever know who claimed they weren't stinky, didn't use soap, didn't use deodorant of some type etc. etc. fill in the blank "natural" claims reeked to high heaven BO or crotch rot or some even worse "unknown" smell.

 

FInally, I am not Korean but I do go to an amazing Korean spa ever few months for a top to bottom. Takes every piece of dead skin off me and feels wonderful. There is something really life affirming and wonderful standing around naked with a bunch of Korean and Russians from age 2 to 92.


Edited by JudiAU - 12/9/11 at 11:45am
post #86 of 109

Have you guys tried doing the tea tree alone without doing olive oil? Because I've heard with fungus (including yeast infections on nipples) that moisturizing gives it a place to grow (just like sweaty shoe for athletes foot). I never used the olive oil, and I know quite a few people that the tea tree has worked for. But maybe you have particularly bad cases, and you might want to try an anti-fungal cream and drying with a hair dryer after bathing...
 

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Originally Posted by coldandsleepy View Post

Tea tree shampoo/conditioner had absolutely no effect on his scalp despite months of regular use.  Nor did oiling his scalp & combing out the gunk, which is another thing people often suggest.

 

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Originally Posted by JudiAU View Post

Also the 2 year old still has cradle cap and tee tree has had no effect. The only thing that makes a difference is scraping her scalp which, surprise, she hates. Olive oil makes it come off easier but she still hates it.


Edit: I don't mean to sound pushy, I've battled alot of skin problems in my family and I know how hard it is for everyone


Edited by silversparrow - 12/10/11 at 5:30pm
post #87 of 109
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Originally Posted by Imakcerka View Post

I wonder about if I'm allowing mine to bathe too often?  Though the days they go a weekend without bathing there are complaints about irritation in the girl parts. I'm that way too though.  I can go a day or too but then I don't feels so fresh... I've tried just having them take a Whore bath, but they prefer a shower.  Though their skin does get pretty dry too. 

 

Lovely term. Thanks.
 

 

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I'm pretty amazed as well. In our family of two adults and two teen, everyone showers in the morning, and before bed. I can't imagine going to bed dirty.
 

 


I can't imagine having the shower run that much on a regular basis.

 

 

My kids take a bath about once a week. DD might jump in the shower with me an extra time or two. The kids don't generally soap up in the tub, but the shampoo runoff does a great job, as does sitting in the nice warm water.

 

OP, when my kids have swimming lessons or are at our swim club, they generally shower there before we come home. Gets that chlorine off right away and saves a step at home.

 

post #88 of 109

My big 2 (3 and 5) get baths every other day.  My baby.. not enough IMO.  About once a week.  I think twice a week would be better for her.

 

I know some kids IRL who do the whole 'infrequent' bathing thing and it IS noticeable, IMO.

post #89 of 109

DH takes a shower in the morning and a shower-bath combo in the evening to wind down. he was the stinky kid growing up so now he has a complex...

 

I take a full head to toe shower with soap every 2-3 days. Everyday if I can manage it- i tend to get stinky fast. I feel so renewed when if showered.

 

DD is bathed every night, though sometimes we skip if we're being lazy or we are out of our normal routine anyway.

 

DH and I always use soap, we skip out on it a lot with DD except when she has stink going on. Her hair is super short still so it gets washed 1x a weekish

 

Kids I can understand going long long stretches (unless diapers or other daily irritant is involved). Adolescents and adults really need to stay on top of it though. How often varies from person to person, but IMO if your hair is stuck together with body grease and you smell like butt, you need to be bathing more than you are! SIL only requires our 15 year old nephew to shower every two days--- every time we see him his hair is greasy and he stinks. My MIL has always had serious stink, like a mix of dirt and crotch rot, yet she'll stay for a 3-day weekend and not shower once. Sitting near her feet, using the bathroom after her, and sitting with her in the car are majorly offensive to my nose.

post #90 of 109

Do we need a full shower to get rid of the smells?

 

either everyday or every alternate we do our bits. so localized cleaning. one doesnt need to take a shower to be less stinky. however that's a personal choice. 

 

i was used to taking two showers a day. i grew up where u needed to - due to not only climate, but also pollution.

 

once i changed residences it changed to once a day, then fewer. now that i do localized cleaning some times i can go a week without bathing. usually though that means taking a quick shampoo in the sink. if necessary. 

post #91 of 109
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Originally Posted by JudiAU View Post

 

As for the adults, we bathe at least once a day. Every adult I've ever know who claimed they weren't stinky, didn't use soap, didn't use deodorant of some type etc. etc. fill in the blank "natural" claims reeked to high heaven BO or crotch rot or some even worse "unknown" smell.


Gosh, I'm gonna try not to get a complex about this.  I am very, very sensitive to commercial deodorants and deodorant stones.  Like the rash I get is un-f'ing-bearable.  So I use coconut oil mixed with baking soda and corn starch.

post #92 of 109
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Originally Posted by rubidoux View Post

 So I use coconut oil mixed with baking soda and corn starch.

tribes who lived in the dessert area usually take a dry mud bath - no water. so i experimented and tried things like dirt, flour (of different things that i could find like beans) and for me it was just like using soap. my skin felt fabulous. baking soda i still find too harsh on my skin directly. never thought about doing coconut together. 

 

however i have used soap berries too. that some use to do laundry actually. and it does a GREAT job with my hair and skin. its too expensive for me. but it blows my mind that there's a fruit that's dried and it is soapy - hardly any foam. 

 

interesting story. i was about dd's age and travelling. i can still remember being told that we were in an urban where a tribe comes through to sell grains they grew. they never smell. i dont know their bathing habits, but i remember running across them in the afternoon when they were going home, and they absolutely had NO BO. the no BO which for that season and time of day was just amazing still had an impact on me. 
 

 

post #93 of 109
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Originally Posted by rubidoux View Post




Gosh, I'm gonna try not to get a complex about this.  I am very, very sensitive to commercial deodorants and deodorant stones.  Like the rash I get is un-f'ing-bearable.  So I use coconut oil mixed with baking soda and corn starch.



Ha. Tell me about it. After many years of use I started to have weird reactions to antiperspirant which gave me just weird and horrible smells so I switched to Tom's of Maine deodorant which gave me rashes. Finally switched to a handmade deodorant from easy (Soapwalla). All natural and no stink.

 

post #94 of 109

My daughters are 5 and 9, they have a shower everyday. (sure we skip the ODD day here and there if we are reallly busy) That includes soap all over, and conditioner in their hair. They shampoo AND condition their hair probaly twice a week. My husband and I shower at least once daily. It is socially/culturally unacceptable to not shower daily where we live, and I start to feel dirty if I dont. I think a daily shower with soap etc. is good hygiene and we dont wait until someone stinks before we wash.

post #95 of 109

I shower twice a day.  Yes, I am that woman.  I have really dry, sensitive skin and I've found that breaking up my grooming into two parts has actually helped.  I won't bore you with the details, but different tasks are done at different times except shampooing which may wait up to a week if I'm just not in the mood to deal with it.  I do work out in the early part of the day, and I'd prefer not to face the world with my yoga-funk.  I hate climbing in bed dirty, and if I crawled around on the floor cleaning up crumbs or cat hair, or walked to the store, or generally just went about my day, I feel dirty. 

Daughter, who is 3.5 mos. is bathed daily, at night, as part of her nighty-night routine.  I use soap and shampoo on her 3-4 times a week, or more if needed.  If she poops all the way up her back, it's needed.  Her skin is gorgeous.  She DEMANDS her bath, too.  After last feeding you have about 5 minutes to get her into nice warm water, or she pitches a fit.  (She also will let you know if her diaper is dirty in no uncertain terms.)

I'm aware that I probably don't need to bathe quite as much as I do, but I want to be frank here:  I skeeve people I suspect have not showered in over 48 hours.  I'm not sure I can always tell - probably can't, to be fair - but if you or your child has a thin film of crud, yes, yes I am backing away slowly.  And no, no you cannot hold my daughter.  Sorry.  I look at this along the same lines as my extreme aversion to eating food that came from a kitchen I know or suspect is not cleaned daily.  If I look in your car and see garbage on the floor board, I'm not eating whatever you brought to the potluck.  I still like you, but I ain't eatin' it.

 

I want to end with a smile.  :-)

 

post #96 of 109

I could have written 95% of your post, MrsGregory.

 

I'm known in my family for being a "clean freak", "neurotic", etc. I admit that I am to some extent. I'm just happier when I'm clean and when everything around me is clean and ordered. When I'm happier, my dd is happier, my husband is happier, etc.

post #97 of 109

To answer the OP: I think part of it depends on the kid's age. From your siggy, looks like your kids are roughly 1 and 2 years older than my daughter. My dd is in the bathtub every day or sometimes every other day. We either make it part of her nighttime routine, or do it earlier in the day if she's been out and about and playing at the park, etc. She doesn't have a whole lot of hair and her skin is really sensitive, so I only actually use soap maybe 1-2 times a week. Otherwise, it's just a good rinse and a scrub on her scalp with very warm water.

 

One a week, to me, is the BARE minimum and less than that is yucky to me. And the pool is so, SO not eqivalent to bathing! Quite the opposite, in fact.

post #98 of 109
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My husband smells like cumin and spices, too! He doesn't get stinky (not for a few days), he smells awesome!



 

 

You know....it's weird, but my husband (who has a short, trimmed beard) sometimes has an odd smell in his beard before he showers. It's kind of a smoky smell; I told him that it reminded me of pepper-roasting season in New Mexico. And it never has anything to do with what he's eaten.

 

Now that yall are mentioning it here, I can finally place the smell-- it smells like cumin. A spice which I never use, btw. What a weird mystery, huh?

post #99 of 109
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Originally Posted by coffeegirl View Post

I could have written 95% of your post, MrsGregory.

 

I'm known in my family for being a "clean freak", "neurotic", etc. I admit that I am to some extent. I'm just happier when I'm clean and when everything around me is clean and ordered. When I'm happier, my dd is happier, my husband is happier, etc.



Yeppers.  My clean-freakiness comes from my family though - so I get very little guff about it from them.  I get guff from the gal pals, sometimes.  That sucks.  I respect your choice to not wash your dishes every day.  Please understand that when I ask you to wait 10 minutes so I can wash mine, I want the same silent courtesy. 

I also really, really hate it when un-tidy people assume I am judging the heck out of them and about to vomit in my mouth just being in their messy and perhaps downright dirty home.  Am I a bit uncomfortable sitting on a year's worth of cat hair?  Will I drink the coffee you offer me from a suspicious mug?  Yes, and no.  But I am no more uncomfortable in your home than you are in mine.  I see you glaring at my cream carpet.  I know what you're wondering.  Yes, yes I do have shares of Resolve Carpet Cleaner's parent company.  Yes, I will cry if you drop your tea.

Seriously.  Just because I am the way I am doesn't mean I begrudge you the way you are.  Relax.  Stop apologizing for the mess.  Offer me a lint-roller when I stand up.  :-D

 

 

post #100 of 109

I bath twice a day. Hair every other day. My kids bath every day too. Anything less than this is just gross to me.

People do not notice their own or their kids smell.  Everyone else does.

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