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post #1 of 6
11/29/11 at 8:45am
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Hello

 

Currently going through a nasty divorce (which I hope will finally be done in January) and thought I may as well join you all here if you will have me.redface.gif  I had posted about the ordeal back in May when I finally got the $ to hire a lawyer but then I didn't have access to a computer to ever get back on here.

 

Backstory:  stbx posted photos of himself (nude) on Craigslist looking for someone to "meet up" with him over his lunch break while I was at home with the kids.  He had been on dating sites so many times over the years, but I had always forgiven him for the sake of our kids but the craigslist thing was just too much for me to handle.  He posted that last November so here we are a year later and I feel that I have healed a lot from the heartache.  A lot has changed over the last year- had to go from being a sahm to working 40+ hours a week, found the kids and I a really nice apartment, got a new car and changed the kids school districts.  I must say I am pretty darn pleased with myself lol.  The major downside is that the stbx is still not paying CS.  The FOC was having his employer withhold income, but that only amounted up to a measly $500 so far since July and he is currently over $2k behind.  He and his employer (they are good friends) are doing everything they can to weasel out of him paying.  The kids are taking the divorce very well and my girls have both said out of the blue that they are much happier now in their new home.  I think a lot of it has to do with the fact that I am much happier too and it rubs off on them.  No more cranky momma to deal with ;)  I'm very much at ease and we have a good routine going at our place now...set dinner time, bed time, rules, chores.  All in all everyone is much happier (in my home at least.)

 

Started dating again over the summer and that didn't work out too well, but then I got back in touch with my old HS sweetheart who is absolutely wonderful to me.  He is also a single dad of 3 boys.

 

So here is my official wave.gif  and hope that you will allow me to be part of your forum from here on out!

 

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post #2 of 6
11/29/11 at 10:23am

I'm glad you're doing so well, and I hope he gets stuck with those arrears. Have you been able to talk to a lawyer about it, or report him for not paying? Depending on where you live, he could start facing sanctions.

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post #3 of 6
11/29/11 at 1:13pm
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I have a lawyer - got one before I ever filed.  The Friend of the Court is already demanding the money be taken out of his paycheck...problem is his employer is just not sending it in.  That is a big NO NO and they too will get in trouble with the law when all is said and done for ignoring a direct court order.  He has to pay the arrears no matter what.  They will be intercepting his tax return and I just got a letter that they have reported him to all 3 credit bureaus for non payment of a debt.  His credit score is one thing that he always kept on top of lol.  So now while I'm paying off all my debt that I've incurred due to the divorce with my tax refund alone, and rebuilding my credit so I can have a new house built this fall - He is going to be watching his score go down the toilet.  Karma is ironic....winky.gif

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post #4 of 6
11/29/11 at 1:42pm
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Originally Posted by mi.birthdoula View Post

I have a lawyer - got one before I ever filed.  The Friend of the Court is already demanding the money be taken out of his paycheck...problem is his employer is just not sending it in.  That is a big NO NO and they too will get in trouble with the law when all is said and done for ignoring a direct court order.  He has to pay the arrears no matter what.  They will be intercepting his tax return and I just got a letter that they have reported him to all 3 credit bureaus for non payment of a debt.  His credit score is one thing that he always kept on top of lol.  So now while I'm paying off all my debt that I've incurred due to the divorce with my tax refund alone, and rebuilding my credit so I can have a new house built this fall - He is going to be watching his score go down the toilet.  Karma is ironic....winky.gif



Give it a few more weeks, he will be pulled into court to explain why he isn't paying. I go through the same thing every few months with my ex. Usually you get the notice for it being reported to the credit reporting agencies and then after that a notice for him to appear in court to explain himself. If I'm not being too nosey may I ask what county you are dealing with? Our case goes through Oakland.

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post #5 of 6
11/29/11 at 1:55pm
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Yeah we have court scheduled for our divorce trial on Jan 26 already.  My lawyer is planning on bringing it up then for sure.  We are in Genesee County.  So not too far at all from you (if you are in Oakland County MI that is!)

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post #6 of 6
11/29/11 at 2:12pm
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Originally Posted by mi.birthdoula View Post

Yeah we have court scheduled for our divorce trial on Jan 26 already.  My lawyer is planning on bringing it up then for sure.  We are in Genesee County.  So not too far at all from you (if you are in Oakland County MI that is!)

 

We are in Wayne, but ex lived in Oakland when our divorce was filed, and they don't play when it comes to child support. They are on him every about 6 months at most. I'm glad to not deal with Wayne though cause they are SLOW!
 

 

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