Zuzu, that's about where I am. I don't want to lose these women, but I'm officially really pissed at Mothering.
Rosie, thank you for that compliment, and don't worry. I swear I'm not easily offended. MDC in general was a safe space for the attachment parenting types of all persuasions, and had a large and diverse following. Part of what made MDC so great is that one could come here to ask about sleep issues without being told to read Babywise or just let your baby CIO, or ask about discipline without it devolving into a discussion on how one should beat their kids. Similarly, discussions in favor of circumcision were banned outright because of what we've seen in the thread in question.
With many issues there are a variety of viewpoints that are equally valid and much room for discussion. This isn't true of circumcision. It boils down to medical science (there being no medical benefit to circumcision) vs. tradition (looking like daddy, locker room mockery). For someone without a religious reason to circumcise there simply is no rational reason to circumcise. I'm not touching the religious argument with a 10 foot pole, as a non-Jew I can't possibly speak intelligently or relevantly about circumcising in that context. By banning any pro-circumcision discussion across this entire forum it creates space for discussion all the other issues with penis care, including how to deal with criticism for not circumcising.
Frankly, if someone wants to feel better about their choice to chop off part of their newborn's body, they can go to every single other parenting forum on the internet. Why should this one, which is explicitly supposed to have a narrower focus and cater to people who are interested in attachment or "natural" (I tend to hate the natural designation) parenting be open to that? If we do, why should MDC exist at all, when we can all move over to Babycenter, or Parenting.com, or livejournals's Parenting101, or FitMama, or etc. etc. etc.
Moreover, MDC banned discussions in favor of circumcision, but not parents who choose to circumcise. I was once on a forum that was heavily Catholic and explicitly pro-life. Despite the fact that I'm a pro-choice pagan feminist, I was given a very enthusiastic invitation and welcome to join that forum, but I knew on going in there that I was not to discuss abortion politics, and I didn't unless someone said something terribly stupid about pro-choicers, and even then I didn't get into why I was pro-choice or any of the arguments for reproductive freedom. Their space, their rules, and I accepted that. I can't speak to anyone else here, but when I get into a discussion about circumcision anywhere, including chiro's thread, I try to keep any argument factual and general without making it personal. I've never said "you are wrong for circumcising your kid" but I have said, and will continue to say "there is no medical benefit to circumcision and non-trivial risks."
I'm here because I want a space where I won't be flamed for choosing to homebirth, where I won't be told I need to hit my child, where I won't be encouraged to let my infant scream herself to sleep every night, and where I won't have people telling me I need to give my child cosmetic surgery, but where I'm exposed to a variety of different lifestyles and viewpoints different than my own in a largely friendly atmosphere. MDC used to be like that. It's not anymore. Believe me, even within it's narrower focus, there is plenty of room for opposition and fighting within MDC. I've seen some pretty interesting discussions over the years, though they weren't turned into flame wars because it was heavily moderated. This is true no longer. MDC is looking more like babycenter every day and I'm really unhappy about that.