I'm not sure where to post this.
My best friend was told at 19 that there was too much scar tissue on her fallopian tubes (from an STD that was treated too late) to get pregnant, and that if she ever did, it would likely be ectopic.
She's lived with her boyfriend for more than a year, before that, she'd had a few long term relationships and she was married at one time. She rarely used birth control. She has wanted a baby since she was 17, she's 31 now.
Her periods were also really abnormal since they started. She'd go months without them, or get one every couple weeks. She never tracked them because she wasn't ever going to get pregnant. But for most of the time she's been with this guy, her periods followed a normal course. Then a few months ago (I don't know how many! at least 3, probably longer), they stopped. No big deal, that's how they were with her. Then she started gaining weight, but she gains weight around her midsection.
Last night she took a pregnancy test, faint positive. Then this morning, she took 2 more, they were very clear positives.
She has had no pain, no period, and no morning sickness, though a generally decreased appetite. She has also gained weight.
She looks pregnant. But like I said, that's where she gains weight anyway (every time she gains a little weight, she gets asked if she's pregnant).
I think if it were an ectopic pregnancy, she'd be in some sort pain before now, right? She hasn't made a doctors appointment yet because she's been so freaked out today. Knowing possibly that her dream might be dashed if she finds out it is ectopic.
She doesn't expect it to turn out well, but even thought she knows it might not, she's still going to be crushed. I'd like to give her some measure of hope, but I don't know if that would be good or bad. Expect the worst, hope for the best?
So anyway, have you ever heard of ectopic pregnancies that went on for months (maybe?) and didn't cause any sort of pain or bleeding?