As the headline already states, my 6 y.o. DS is suddenly acting up at school (1st grade) and I have no clue what I can do to make him stop this behavior!?!.. He's been called to the principle's office now the past 2 days in a row, every time claiming that the other child having called him names for which he first hit the one child and the 2nd time even bit the child!. (When I asked him today what happened, he said he fell off a seat and by accident with his face onto the hand of the child who sat on the carpet.. Now I'm unsure if that's actually what happened or not. To me it really doesn't sound like my son suddenly biting another child! [He had that phase when he was 2 y.o., unfortunately...]
Yesterday after the first incident I've talked to him, took all his privileges away, grounded him so he couldn't go out to play with friends and also told him that Santa will not bring him any toys if he keeps on acting up!.. Now after today's incident (which to me still sounds more like an accident than actual biting, but apparently DS' story changed 2x while talking to his teacher and later principle..) I asked him what's going on etc. and he said he feels very angry when the other kids laugh at him etc. I realize I must focus more on DS' feelings and pay more attention to is, helping him re-directing his emotions or better say expressing them differently!..
But aside of that, what else can I do to make sure he's going to be a good boy in school again? I honestly don't know why or where the change in him comes from suddenly!? The only thing that changed is that I've started talking in German to my kids more again (I'm a German National who unfortunately didn't stick to talking to both of my kids from birth on in German...Now I'm picking it up again because DH & I finally made the decision to retire in Germany in 1.5 yrs when DH is retiring from the US Navy, so we're preparing the kids now already. But that's a whole 'nother story..). DS is doing great, remembering words and starting to use full sentences etc.
I'm being quite relaxed with teaching my kids German as I don't want them to feel forced etc., so I don't think that could have anything to do with his behavior.. but maybe I'm wrong???
I've now started reading 'How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk' by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish and have written down a few other books that have been mentioned in other threads here.
I'd just like to get some input from other parents on this subject.. What else could I do to enforce DS' good behavior in school? (He's been more 'fresh' towards me at home too, stating it was all "just fun" but some of his comments or responses are clearly more disrespectful and his teacher mentioned today that he's been more acting up with her in front of his classmates as well..)
Thank you for listening/reading!!! I'm really looking forward to hear some opinions from you!