Originally Posted by neonalee
Otherwise I like this place. When discussing with dp we did say at some point we have to let go on the food control because of school /daycare. Is that time now? How important do you think this is?
My dd is almost 8 y.o. and she has been going to the same gigantic day care center ever since she was 6 months old. Dd still goes to this day care for after school care, and I STILL haven't left go of the control. I've been packing my dd's food ever since I sent frozen cubes of home made baby food when dd started solids. (Well, before that, really, because I would send in breastmilk.) To make things simple for the daycare, I have always packed everything and instructed that all food consumed by dd must come from her lunchbox: all meals and all snacks. That way, the teachers don't have to play a guessing game about which of their foods are acceptable.
One of the reasons that I am so faithful to this day care is because they always did exactly as I asked, no matter how unusual the request. (And the food request was an unusual one for them.) Their attitude was that, if the parent wants it that way, well the parent knows what is best for the child and the daycare will do their best to support the parent. How could I not like that?
I do constantly tell the daycare that I do not want to cause the teachers additional work, and try to brainstorm with the daycare ways that I can make their life easier. I took great pains to acknowledge that the daycare has to take care of many children at once, and I kept asking daycare for feed back about whether certain scenarios were too complicated for them to deal with, and which they felt they could do without any additional work. Refrigeration or gel pack? Heat food on site with microwave, or pack hot food in a thermos?
I found that the other children in dd's class never cared about my dd's food, even when it was different from theirs. If anything, I actually had the reverse problem. For a year, when my dd was a toddler, I had to try to pack food that was similar to the center's food. If the children were scheduled to eat canned peaches, i'd have to send sliced frozen or sliced fresh peaches, low sodium canned corn instead of regular canned corn, and whole wheat instead of white, for example. That's because my toddler age dd was picking up the children's canned corn and canned peaches from off the floor and eating it. (Yuk!) The problem was only temporary, about one year at most. By the time my dd was 3 years old, dd told me that I no longer had to make her food similar to the daycare's food. (Thank goodness, because that simplified matters considerably.)
I think the daycare's issue with the other toddlers wanting the bottle might be reasonable, but I have to admit that I don't actually know for sure because I don't have any direct experience with bottles. My dd never learned to drink breast milk out of a bottle or a sippy cup. She has always drunk her breast milk at day care from a regular cup. I think that after a few months, the daycare didn't even bother to warm the milk, because she was fine with it cold.
I can tell you that I sent breastmilk to the day care until dd weaned at age 3 y.o., with instructions that she should drink only breastmilk and water, and nothing else. The daycare complied cheerfully. Now, dd just drinks water and no other beverage.
I think if you found a center that is willing to do cloth diapers, it should be easy to figure out a way for them to work out the feeding. In my experience, the cloth diapers is the harder thing to convince the daycare. (And yes, my dd's daycare had never done cloth diapers before my dd, but they cheerfully did cloth diapers for my dd, after a expressing a few initial reservations, which we resolved through brainstorming together.)
Edited by emilysmama - 12/1/11 at 11:32am