Originally Posted by Mommel
I agree. I would definitely have two cars for us if I could afford it, but fortunately I don't have to make it a priority over other things we need because of our location. If we had a different situation I might choose to live in a studio or work full time instead of finishing my degree so that we could have two cars. As it is, I feel like I'm just lucky that my mom moved in with me and chooses to share her car with me, otherwise I would be relying on public transit 100% and relying on the ambulance all the time in the event of an emergency.
Every situation is different. Just because most families would benefit from having two cars doesn't mean every family makes it a priority. Same goes for a LOT of things. Being safe to avoid being sorry is a luxury that some people just can't afford. I like that about minimalism in particular. Each individual gets to make their own decisions about what is necessary and what is not and no one else gets to decide that for any of us, right?
Oh look, I agree mama, hence why I put my 'I don't want to offend anyone' bit. Everyone's circumstances are different, finances are different, which is why I emphasized 'most families' and did not say 'all'. Of course, there will be families in situations where a car is not necessary and we were once one of them believe it or not! Once we became a family of five and moved out even further, somehow the camel's back broke.
I know I came on a little strong, but that's because:
a) I've been burnt by public transport many times - drivers that don't stop, drivers that don't come on time (which will make me miss the next bus/train swap)
b) been in emergency situations where a car was vital AND I did not have a car - I do not ever want to be in that situation again
c) am constantly annoyed by the general assumption in minimalist circles that having a car, let alone two, puts you out of the game
I completely understand about not being able to afford every luxury and having to prioritize some things over others. We saved and went without to buy our cars (both used) and dh maintains them. We have very basic insurance. We aren't rich by any means. Having a car at home for me, is not a luxury, it's a necessity. I'd be happy to elaborate and share some ridiculous stories and scenarios that I've unfortunately had to bear, as a result of having no private transport (like how it takes me 6 bus-train swaps and four and a half hours of travel to pick up my child from school every day, when in reality it's only a 40 minute round trip by car or how a train conductors utter impatience left my four year old child stranded on a platform while her mummy/siblings were still in the train).
I'm happy that having your mom move in has made the car sharing easier. It wasn't my intention to make anyone feel bad or any less if they didn't make it a priority to have a car with them at all times, so apologies if it came across that way.. It was more so put there to stimulate internal discussion and offer a different perspective on why some people wouldn't choose to go out without a second car, even if they were aspiring minimalists. I was very pro-public transport and one-car-at-most for a long, long time but that's because I had the priviledge of being in a suburb where hospitals were close, public transport was reliable and frequent, family were close by and I had two children to cart along with me. Now that I've been on the other side, I'm able to see that being a one or no car family is not always feasible, no matter how eco-friendly or minimal you want to be.