I wanted to make sure to thank everyone for your warm and encouraging support of us continuing to try! Sorry I neglected to do that last night. :)
CaNanny, it has to suck so much to be fighting over TTC. I know that I hate it when DW and I are strained about anything, much less something consistently that we disagree on. I know that I tend to look forward in time a lot, and think about "what if", and it sounds like you're doing that too, in asking your partner if she would reconsider trying again herself. Maybe for a short span of time, you could just focus on getting *yourself* pregnant and not worry about what will happen if you don't get pregnant. Like Krista so sagely pointed out a week or two ago, "Don't be where you aren't." Situations change, and I think that with the help of this new RE you have a real chance at getting to carry a pregnancy. Try to stay positive! I'm rooting for you. P.S. Where in AZ are you going to be?! It figures, the one week someone comes to visit our state and we're on vacation. WTF.
Seraf, thanks for continuing to poke your head in here! I always appreciate your stories and advice, and of course your support. Thank you!
Wehrli - good eye! Haha. I follow you ladies over on Q&P, so of course Mami doesn't belong in the "Waiting" category!
Nosreves! That's fantastic news about the clinic in Belgium! FINGERS CROSSED for you guys!
Happy Birthday, Carmen!!! Our families come to us in lots of different ways... I hope being 41 and pregnant isn't too difficult to reckon into your plan. This will be our fifth try too... lucky number five, right?
Amt, I'm so glad your DP is doing better!! Although I am sorry your cycle didn't work out, maybe it is for the best... ? I'll go ahead and put you in "Waiting to be ready" and you can be moved out of there in February or March! Keep popping in and saying hi, will you?
Oh Lise, I'm so sorry. I was really hoping this would be it for you. Do you know, recently I've heard that some people believe that fertility is seasonal, and that can run in families. Like women who consistently get pregnant only in the winter months having daughters who only get pregnant in the winter months. I'm hoping this next cycle will bring you that healthy pregnancy you've been waiting for.
rs11, that sucks! I'm sorry. :( Is there any way you could maybe decrease your costs by asking your RE if you could do ICI insems at home while still being seen by the doctor? Some REs are okay with that. I think all of us here understand the money concern; it's really sucky it costs so much for us to conceive, but c'est la vie.
Afu, we're headed into another weekend. Weekends here are bittersweet now; I'm learning to live without kids again. But the whole time I wonder what they're doing at their mom's house, if they're okay, if they're feeling all right. Yesterday, our little girl had an MRI to check for anatomic abnormalities in her brain, and her birthmom had to be there to sign off for the anesthesia. My wife took her to the appointment. While DW and birthmom were waiting, the birthmom was telling my wife about how her sister's daughter (6 months younger than our 'A') is getting aggressive and mean and hitting the other kids. They asked the pediatrician (same pediatrician birthmom takes all her kids to) for advice, and the pediatrician supposedly said that the girl (Sophia) needs to learn that hitting doesn't feel good and so whenever she hits someone, that person (child) should hit Sophia in return. So when A comes crying out of the bedroom, upset that Sophia hit her, her mother sends her back in there with the instructions to hit Sophia back. - I'm so incredibly floored by this. I was speechless when DW told me the story. She said she was so shocked when she heard the story, she didn't even say anything to the birthmom. Last night we emailed all the workers and the attorney to let them know what was going on... but experience has taught me that nobody will do anything.
Of course, after our kids started going on weekend visits, A kept getting in trouble at daycare for hitting other kids AS WELL AS her teachers, and screaming at them. She has never behaved like this before. How confusing must it be for her, to be taught to strike back when angry or hurt over the weekend and then spend the rest of the week being told that "hitting hurts, we don't hit". I feel like teaching kids to strike back physically is such a slippery slope! To be taught that it's acceptable to hit people when you're angry is very very wrong and backwards to me. Plus, what's to stop the preschoolers from hitting the little guy? He's almost 16 months old, and he gets into a lot of trouble. Not surprising. He also is into a biting phase; what are they going to do next, bite him back? I'm still so outraged.
Sorry for the novel. I'm still kind of reeling from learning this and knowing that I'm about to send them back into the lion's den tomorrow.
Is it so much to ask that all kids get a fair shot at life? Our 'A' is already so shackled, and she is only 4 years old. I'm so sad for her tonight.