My 9 year old is going through a stage that I would prefer she just rush through but this particular phase is lingering. It is the: "This sucks" "Life is unfair" "My Popsicle is too cold...."
I've tried multiple things:
1) Sat her down and explained that she lives in a nice little neighborhood in New England with great schools, roof over head, loving family and three meals a day....I am also a SAHM so little girl gets driven to and from school...comes home to snacks and a very excited little sister to play with.
2) Being compassionate: "I'm sorry you feel uncomfortable in your life...lets list positive things"
3) Listening to the power of positivity cd's in the car.
The negativity is really WAY to much. I could barely hear the Cd's due to the heckling from the back seat. Flash forward to last weekend when after 30 minutes (out of a 40 minute drive) to an activity FOR HER THAT SHE WANTED she kept saying: "I'm bored...this sucks...I hate cars, this music is awful, sister is looking at me...." I pulled the car over. Took her out of the car and I got back in, locked the doors, rolled down the window and said: "Are you bored now honey?"
She got back in and was quiet the last 10 minutes.
I am writing this post as a parent. I fully realize that my actions need to change in order for the situation to change. In my currect parent tool box I am not equipped with a good relationship building way of helping my DD through this so yes, selfishly, I can get my sanity back.