Oldmama44, your story is so inspiring and your son is adorable!
I'd like to join this thread, if I may. My spouse and I had our daughter when I was 40 and he was 46. I'm glad I was able to find a midwife practice that didn't automatically risk me out for AMA.
I think the best thing about being an older parent is that we've already "sown our wild oats" - I had plenty of years of being a DINK with an urban lifestyle, going to bars, clubs, restaurants, traveling, what have you. Now I'm able to enjoy the quiet nights home with my daughter, just listening to music or reading, with no regrets or resentments.
I am sorry my daughter won't have more grandparent time, though - only one of her grandparents is still alive, and that's my mom, who has pretty severe rheumatoid arthritis. We probably won't have any more children, partly because I want to make sure I have the time and energy to devote to my mom's care. Are there other "sandwich generation" moms in here?
Looking forward to hearing more from all of you.