Someone while we were out commented on one of the hats I crocheted for DD, and wants to buy 2! That is so nifty!
ME hope he talks to somebody. Maybe he needs to process done stuff first. Hope he does and fast!
Typing on the phone, ugh.
MW - that stink about your DH. I hope he figures it out soon. I can't imagine how hard it would be to be missing him and know it is annoying and stressful when he's home!!
I have the kids b-day party tomorrow. Since K's bday is the 13th of dec and J's is the 27th of dec and M's is the 29th of Nov we just have one big party for all of them. It's crazy around here for the holidays! (this doesn't even count my DH and Dad on the 28th of nov SIL on the 16th of dec. and a nephew on the 10th of dec.)
I got out of work about a half hour ago and I think I am going to try to clean up for about an hour or two before going to bed.
Kat - that is awesome about the hats! They are super cute forsure :)
I bet I am missing a lot of posts, but I am going to start cleaning!
Good luck with the parties, Annie!
Ugh, MW, your DH is just maddening. I so want you guys to work things out. But at the same time, if he won't put forth the effort, how can you? Sending you some peace vibes about the situation. When does he come back again? Maybe some solo counseling on your part could help? Maybe there are more things that you can do? Not saying I know what they are, but who knows?
Kat - those hats are adorable!! I'm not surprised! Didn't you say you made hats for Finn and Dylan?
AFM - I have to find some way to encourage DD to accept DH's help at night. MW and other mama's doing this alone, I don't know how you do it. She wakes up and tantrums b/c she only wants me. I lost my shit again last night and had a very dramatic exhausted fit, and fell asleep on her bed crying b/c I was so damn tired. Ugh. I feel like I'm at my wits end.
Hugs MW. It is really frustrating when you know they need help and need to talk through stuff with someone and they won't do it.
Good luck w/the big party Annie! Our house is too small to host parties comfortably. I always look for a destination party if we are having one.
Baby_Cakes, I don't know what I would do if I had a toddler/preschooler that was also waking up at night with the baby. DD has been waking up every 1-3 hrs the past two nights and I'm EXHAUSTED! I can't imagine night-time parenting another child right now! At least I can sleep some in the morning when she does a long nap.
AFM, I think DD is teething and that is why she isn't sleeping well. I got some of the Hyland's teething tablets at Whole Foods today so I'll try that tonight. She could just be going through a growth spurt but I was so disappointed today when I did her daily weigh-in. I would have thought with all the extra eating she has done the past two nights that she would have had a great weight gain. But she lost an ounce. How is that possible?!? She has been eating SO much!
Did she get any longer, Annie? That is so disenheartening. I'm so sorry.
And - I'm seriously losing my mind. I'm not handling it well. I feel like a zombie and I'm not being the sunshine and rainbows person I always --well usually -- am. I think I need to work on acceptance. Usually I advise people to just accept things and not try to fight your kids with sleep issues, that they'll work themselves out. But part of me feels like then I'm just giving in and not standing firm. How will she learn not to manipulate if I let her get me every night? I always say if it isn't working, change it. This is something that isn't working. I need to change it - or at least change how I see it.
I feel embarrassed though b/c I totally threw a hissy fit. All I did was show her that tantruming is ok. I'm so angry at myself for losing control.
I put DS's amber necklace on today. How old do they need to be for the teething tablets?
Hello ladies, skimming along, but obviously not much time for the computer!
Questions... Tenley latched on right away and has been nursing since birth. Everyone that has looked at her latch, said it was good. We can hear her swallowing, and she started yesterday (so four days old) getting the absolutely soaking wet diapers we've been waiting for, as well as her bm are now way more greenish and a bit seedy, rather than looking like a big meconium mess.
Ok so, starting yesterday (the day before? I lost track...), she's been spitting up a lot every time she comes off the breast. Sometimes it's more like drooly, but sometimes it looks like she's bringing up everything she ate. She doesn't seem to care, just smacks her lips a couple times, and then wants to nurse again, since she's got an empty belly again... but it's starting to worry me, it just seems like so much to be throwing up... and all that hard work down the drain.
Secondly, even though everyone seems to say that my latch is good, and she's obviously getting milk, my nipples are both cracked, bleeding, and scabbing. The health nurse had a couple suggestions (push between her shoulders to get her to go a bit deeper, and switch sides more often- ie every 10 minutes instead of every 20 or so), but said in general she wouldn't change too much, since it's working. But the bleeding doesn't seem to be getting better, and it really does hurt quite a bit-- mostly when she first latches- I have to using labor techniques to stay relaxed for the first 10 seconds or so, but it's tender throughout the feed as well, off and on.
I don't know what to do... Everything with her latch looks fine- but if it were fine, I would expect the nipples to be healing themselves and it getting better. It's only day 5 though- maybe I'm being impatient?
Also- starting yesterday when my milk fully came in (and owwww did it ever!), she's only been wanting to spend minimal time on the breast. Tons of comfort nursing (or moreso just wanting to be 'there', she doesn't even seem to care if she's latched), but she stops actively sucking after sometimes only 5 minutes. I'm trying to remind myself that the wet diapers mean she's still getting enough, but it's unnerving. When the health nurse mentioned switching her to short feedings on each side, it seemed like a good idea, but it was like almost immediately, we started having to almost force her to stay on for even the five minutes.
Ugh. *sigh* I'm kind of a wreck. We're not getting much sleep as baby girl seems to have trouble sleeping on her own-- she has to be in someone's arms. Also DH is stressed to the max, and so I feel like I'm kind of tiptoeing around him, trying to make things easier. Annnnd, I tore, and have stitches and hemmhroids, so moving anywhere is still painful. gah.
I'm a ball of sunshine!
Baby_Cakes, I agree w/MW. I'd try to figure out why she's waking up so much at night and then go from there. I am not opposed to bringing a kid/baby in the bed with me if it means I get some sleep. DD has started only sleeping well when she's tucked in to the crook of my arm. I'm not going to fight it at this point. I need to sleep!
There is not an age minimum on the teething tablets that I can see. It does say that if you are concerned about them dissolving in the mouth, you can dissolve in a bit of liquid and give it to the baby that way. Maybe I should look in to getting an amber necklace as well.
Hugs JJ! My DH was a big ball of pain in the butt after DD was born but I thought it was because of all the stress associated with her heart. Maybe some daddies just don't do well with a new baby? I know that after we came home, he was still edgy. I don't think he handles newborns well but he wouldn't come out and say that. He's much better now that DD is older and she interacts with him. I just ignored him when he was acting like that.
No advice on the nursing. I know my nips are all torn up from the pump but I've just gotten used to it. They only bled once though so I'm not much help there at all.
I've never checked her length at home, they always check it when we go to clinic for her cardiac appts. It's possible she's growing in length because I've had to put away all the 3 month and 3/6 month sleepers this week because they are too short in the crotch for her. She is also making tons of developmental gains lately. She found her feet the other day and she has started "singing" when she hears music. It's the cutest thing ever. A few weeks ago whenever the organ would start in church she would start crying but yesterday evening, whenever the organ would start, she would start "singing". I love it!
I don't think I told you guys about our last cardiac appt and her eating habits. She's supposed to gain at least 5 oz per week. Well lately, she is just so aware of her surroundings that the only way she eats really well is if it's just me and her at home and the TV is off and I'm not talking to anyone or doing anything on my phone and there are no distractions. Then she will eat 5-6 ozs per feed. But if there's anything else going on, forget about it. So I was trying to explain that to her cardiac nurse and I don't think she believed me that it wasn't a heart issue but just a "DD is super nosy" issue. So I had to leave the appt early to get to work and she asked if she could feed DD instead of DH. I said sure and then left. She emailed me the next day and said "I see what you mean! She's so inquisitive and wants to talk to everyone in the room!". She said that it doesn't seem like it's a heart issue and I just need to do my best to try to get her to eat. She said that she is meeting developmental milestones and she's chunky even though she's only in the 25% percentile. I had asked her regular pedi how many ozs she should be taking per 24 hr period and he said something like 40-50 oz. There's no way she could do anything close to that, she gets like maybe 25 oz per 24 hr period. Her cardiologist said as long as she keeps gaining something and she has wet and poopy dipes, he's not concerned with the actual volume qty. So that's good.
I've heard of bottle-fed babies that keep eating as long as the milk is there but Ava is NOT one of those babies! She can get that nipple out of her mouth so fast you don't even realize what's happening! And then she sets those little lips and she's not letting anything past them if she's not hungry. It's pretty funny actually!
I think the hang-up w/how much they are drinking is so they have something to measure. I wonder if peds usually ask how long nursing babies drink per nursing session? One good thing about DD's cardiologists is that one used to be a pediatrician so he has lots of general peds experience. I don't know where her pedi got that figure of 40-50 oz but the cardiologist was just like Oh no way should she be drinking that much!
JJ; I had the same issue with pain, etc. I found shorter more frequent sessions to help alot. It also helped with engorgement and DD keeps milk down better. I don't time it really, but it is kind of like encouraging cluster feeding.
On our way to dinner and typing on the phone do will write more tomorrow. Which, by the way, DH is working a half day, so my first day back working - from home at least - and I have to try to work and manage both kids. Oy.
Well if they get frustrated with you MW for not knowing how long D nurses, you can imagine their chagrin when I have to give them a guesstimate on how much DD actually drinks per day! I tried to keep track once and couldn't do it. All I can tell them is she drinks everything I pump and usually a couple oz out of the freezer. They always just look at me in puzzlement! I feed her on demand so I can't even tell them how long it takes her to finish X-number of oz.
I never keep track of anything! how many diapers does she wet/poop? It's hard to say b/c I don't change her everytime she pees. I think this is more an indication of how often you are changing her diaper than how often she's pooping or peeing.
I can barely remember which side she ate off of last!
It should be an interesting day, anyway! I think I can do it, I just don't wanna!
Oh gosh, Annie - 40-50 OUNCES!? Damn, that's a LOT! Even when I was pumping at work for Nora (so granted, not around the clock) I knew she got roughly 12 oz in the bottles *total*. 3 4 ounce bottles. She was ava's age! So, what, I would have had to nurse her and get an additional 40 oz in her?! No way. I'm with MW that the regular ped must be using some formula calculation in his advice. Plus, the distraction is so so normal for her age. There is so much going on, so much to do, see, hear, watch, learn! It's a frustrating age for nursing OR bottle feeding.
Kat - whoa boy! Sending you luck, patience, cooperative kid vibes!!
AFM - No peep from DD last night. Finn was up every two hours to nurse!! I even double boobed him going down and again when he woke (for the millionth time at 5 am) thinking I might get a better stretch but nope. 2 hours. To the minute. This better be that 4 month growth spurt or something!! Im beat!!
JJ - I also wanted to add that at around 5 days, I was like, "Come ON already," with the nipple pain and soreness. But in truth it took at least another week to stop being so painful. I'm with MW. It HURTS they just don't tell you that. And it does get better, and is so worth pushing through. With this 2nd baby, I was much less worried about the nip soreness b/c I knew there was end in sight. Everything this time around is just different knowing the end of it is out there somewhere. Even this sleep deprivation. I feel like it'll be fine, it'll change and we'll be good -- then it'll change again.
ETA - JJ, do you have a breast pump? It can help so much in those early days especially if Tenley won't stay on long enough to give you relief and soften the breast. Just a thought.
ETA (Again) - Often DD asks for a cup of breast milk and I always let her have some. Usually it's only if I'm pumping and she sees it. She never wants to nurse or try it from the breast (which is fine with me). So, lets say she gets like an ounce or two every so often in a cup. Is there any health benefit to this? It's such a small amount. Just wondering if she'll reap any immunity boosting from it? WDYT?