December 2011 Whatever Ladies Having Babies ~ We are down to one! - Page 11

[AnnieA]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 
Annie ~ But that's when the connection between breastfeeding baby and mom kicks in. Although I am sleeping enough so that I'm not completely aware of us waking to nurse every time, I am also acutely aware that D is next to me. I don't think it's something you can understand just from someone else trying to describe it. You have to experience it. I would not trust my dh to sleep next to our babies by himself. He would not have that same awareness that I do.
 

That's how I hold her now when we sleep together but sometimes, she turns her face in to my boob and I seriously don't know how she can breathe. I turn her head when she does that so she can breathe better. But when she was brandnew, she would not have fit in that position. Maybe it's because of my ginormous boobs but there's just no way.

JJ, if the bottle works to help cut down on the spitting, you may want to look at getting an electric pump so you can pump more milk in one session.

[AnnieA]

Oh I meant to tell you guys. I know how much we all hate birthing shows but I like to torture myself! I watched last night's episode of One Born Every Minute and one of the births was with a baby that has a CHD. They had a prenatal diagnosis so they were expecting it but the baby still had to get transferred to a different hospital. You can watch episodes online if anyone is interested in a peek inside what happens after a CHD baby is born. I started bawling every time that family came on the screen, especially when they were showing getting the umbilical lines started, bringing the baby in before they transported her and some other things that were big triggers. It was helpful though to see that even with a prenatal diagnosis, there is still a lot of fear and uncertainty.

[MarineWife]

i can't watch those shows. i caught a little bit of one last night. don't know which one. they were all going on about how much pain this woman was in. i just kept thinking, well, yeah, you've got her flat on her back and are checking her cervix during a contraction while telling her not to push. i yell at the tv and ethan thinks i'm crazy.

ya know, i worry about the same type of thing with breathing when D is in my wrap. he always puts his face straight into my chest. i don't see how he can breathe but he does. it must be because babies' noses are flat with their nostrils out to the sides just for that purpose.

[akind1]

OMG what a lot to catch up on.

JJ: We have that rocker thing that was linked for you. It is total awesomeness. DD loves it. I don't know how long we'll be able to use it, but it was totally worth the $50 at Target. Not only does it cradle her, it also helps keep baby elevated a bit which can help with reflux. (not that that is really an issue for us, but it's a thought)

Definitely try an electric pump. I think the Medela Swings aren't too pricy. Not only will you likely get more milk, you will get it faster. I have a Lanisoh manual pump and it works ok, but boy my hand gets tired.

Re: co-sleeping - DD always squishes super near my boob, I'd like more space and keep scooching her further out, but she ends up in the same spot *shrugs* guess that is where she wants to be!

DH is also pretty oblivious to her wakings. When we had DS, people told us to wake him up when she woke up so he could "help" - I was like WTF? why would I interrupt his sleep? and what would he "help" with?

Those shows are addictive, but they drive me bonkers. My favorite is I didn't Know I was Pregnant and all of the women (most of whom have been pregnant before!) are like "I didn't get any prenatal care! will my baby be ok?" and I am like, what about prenatal care will make your baby healthier? that I just don't understand.

The main problem I have with the birth shows is I - being cynical - just see the cascade of interventions, like what played out in DS's birth and go yup, she'll end up with a c-section. They love to have one mom who wants to go natural and one mom that wants an epidural asap. And half the time the mom who wants to go natural ends up asking for an epi, and the one who wanted an epi can't get one or it doesn't take.

I'm so ready for Christmas! bring it on!

[**mom2one**]

Kat - Was it you who has the K'Tan carrier?  I am thinking of getting one - I have a pouch sling now, but with baby boy getting so big it hurts my should after a while and I thought that maybe the K'Tan would be better since it goes over both shoulders and the weight would be more evenly distributed.  What do you think?  Or anyone else - what is your favorite carrier for a heavy baby??  

[Baby_Cakes]

Ooh, Mom2One, we are talking about this exact thing in my DDC.  I have a Boba carrier that I use exclusively now that DS is 18 pounds.  I want to practice back carries in it, b/c at 20 lbs they say you can do a back carry.  The problem is I have no idea how I'm going to get this floppy infant on and off my back -- off especially, in, like, a parking lot.  DD was 18 months old when she was 20 lbs so she was a lot easier and could climb!

Otherwise what about an Ergo?

I wish I could watch that Born Every Minute -- though TLC's baby story used to burn me up so much.  I always thought it was unfair that they documented these births, and yet nobody would offer actual advice!!  These people were making mistakes leading to interventions, c-sections, failed bf'ing relationships and NOBODY is responsible for educating these young people.  It woud just burn me up.  Yet another reason I'm sort of happy we don't have cable.  Less stress in my life!!

Since being sick, Nora's been begging to go to bed early.  I'm going to stick with it.  Bedtime the past few nights has been 8 pm.  Of course she wakes and comes in with me around 12, but I find I don't mind it at all b/c once she's with me she sleeps soundly.

[**mom2one**]

Carrie - Thanks for the info!  I do like the look of the Boba - are they expensive?  

And yay for earlier bed time!  I try to get the girls in bed by 7 - 7:30 although they usually don't fall asleep until 8- 8:30 , but I find I NEED that extra time in the evening to just veg!  Although the last couple of nights Dax has been awake and nursing for most of the evening - but at least I can still just sit on the couch and nurse him.  How is Norah feeling?

[**mom2one**]

sorry - your Nora doesn't have the H

[akind1]

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I like the k'tan for this stage. we have a local baby wearing group and I think I want to learn how to back wrap in a woven wrap. need help choosing a wrap though!

I have the Boba and like it way better than the Ergo. Not really any more expensive either.about 80-100 I think. sometimes find for less on diaperswappers.

yay for early bedtimes!

[Baby_Cakes]

Yeah, I'm hoping I can keep it up.  It works out much better.  Even if I can't get Finn down first, as long as he's content there's no reason I can't lay with her, get her to sleep, and then rejoin him and DH.  We've actually had time to watch TV together this week and it's been great!

MW - I tried both necklaces around his ankle, and they're just too big.  I can't loop it 3 times, but 2 is too loose.  For now, he's back to just hazelwood -- it's amazing.  His breath is sweet again, and much less puke.  It's uncanny.  It has to be the necklace.

[akind1]

great about the necklace! glad it has been such a help - JJ maybe that's an idea.

[onetwoten]

Originally Posted by akind1 

great about the necklace! glad it has been such a help - JJ maybe that's an idea.

Its funny, that what I was justr thinking. She had a bottle feed just now and threw up as much as on the breast. It seemed like she was taking it pretty fast from the bottle though anyways... I guess back at square one. Oh well... try try again

[Baby_Cakes]

The other thing too though is time.  I don't know if you remember how much I was posting about all the puke.  Go back to our Sept thread!!  Time and he's getting older so I'm sure the sphincter is closing up.  They said by the time he's sitting unassisted it should pretty much go away... 

Edited by Baby_Cakes - 12/15/11 at 1:14pm

[MarineWife]

yes to time. newborn throat sphincters aren't always fully formed and working completely. sometimes it's best to not mess with things and just let some time pass, especially if baby is fine otherwise, gaining weight and developing normally and not in pain.

the necklaces are amazing, aren't they?

kat ~ you need a woven wrap like an Ellaroo (that's what I have) for back carries. a stretchy wrap like a Moby should not be used for back carries.

mom2one ~ you can find all kinds of used soft carriers on Diaperswappers. a mei tai may be cheaper and is easier to use than a wrap but not as versatile. I can't decide which one I like better right now. I've been loving my wrap but used my mei tai a few days ago at the grocery store and it seemed even more comfortable. I can't do a back carry in it comfortably, though, and I haven't tried practicing a back carry with my wrap yet.

I think we are making progress with K using the bathroom. The last few days, when he has pooped in his pull-up, I have sent him to the bathroom himself to clean up and he's done really well with that. Then today he ran to the bathroom and went in the toilet even though he had a Pull-Up on. He just now put on regular underwear. I asked him if he was going to be very careful not to poop in them and he said he was. Wish us luck!

[akind1]

MW: great news about K! That is fantastic!

I am stalking some ellaroo's on eBay. Didymos are ridic expensive!

Time is the cure for everything!

[MarineWife]

oh, yeah, didymos is the other big one. they are all so much more expensive than when i bought mine. i got it for $75 brand new but that was in 2004 or 2005.

do you all remember about a month ago when i was going nuts to buy some coveted yarn but i missed it because it sold out in seconds? well, i just found some for sale on ravelry and got it! i am so stoked!

i just checked K. he did pee in his pants but didn't poo. i can deal with pee.

[akind1]

Yay on the yarn score!

I started a blankey for N yesterday. I think it will need two skeins of yarn. I think I might get the same type of yarn in a different color and do stripes. Normally I don't really like changing colors, but it's not so bad in a larger project.

I think I will be lucky if I can score a wrap under $75. I was hoping for undeer $50, but that's not going to happen.

[MarineWife]

I was shocked when my friend here told me how much the used ones were going for. That means I can try to sell mine for a lot more than I thought when I'm done with it.

I started a pair of crochet slippers yesterday for one of Ryan's ex-girlfriends. I've messed it up, though. I'm doing the sole and it goes around rather than back and forth in rows. I keep ending up with 2-3 extra stitches at the end of the round. I'm trying to decide whether to just fudge it (because she'll probably never notice) or rip it out and start over. I'd rip it out and start over in a 2nd if I knew I had all the time in the world to get it done but, obviously, I do not. The only thing that concerns me about fudging it is that it's one of a pair. The 2nd one may come out much different. I don't have much, if any, extra yarn to play with.

[AnnieA]

My dad sent me a target gift card for DD so I bought two more BG 4.0s (noodle and twilight) and I also got two toys for her. I bought an electronic toy...I don't usually like those things but this one is a teddy bear that you can listen to his heartbeat, check his temp and put bandaids on him. I thought it might be helpful for her later on to role play with. Like she can be the dr/nurse and do things to the teddy that they do to her. I don't, we'll see how loud it is when it gets here.

[Baby_Cakes]

Originally Posted by MarineWife 

oh, yeah, didymos is the other big one. they are all so much more expensive than when i bought mine. i got it for $75 brand new but that was in 2004 or 2005.
do you all remember about a month ago when i was going nuts to buy some coveted yarn but i missed it because it sold out in seconds? well, i just found some for sale on ravelry and got it! i am so stoked!
i just checked K. he did pee in his pants but didn't poo. i can deal with pee.

Pee is doable!  Thats awesome that he's taking initiative.  I think that's even bigger than accident or no accident.  It's the trying that counts.

Originally Posted by AnnieA 

My dad sent me a target gift card for DD so I bought two more BG 4.0s (noodle and twilight) and I also got two toys for her. I bought an electronic toy...I don't usually like those things but this one is a teddy bear that you can listen to his heartbeat, check his temp and put bandaids on him. I thought it might be helpful for her later on to role play with. Like she can be the dr/nurse and do things to the teddy that they do to her. I don't, we'll see how loud it is when it gets here.

I think that is a wonderful idea.  Gave me some happy tears.  (((hugs)))

JJ - I hope I don't come across like a stalker but I just poked into the Dec DDC and saw pics of your GORGEOUS little girl!  My goodness, what a beauty!  She is amazing and you are an amazing mama.  Hope you are all doing well today.

AFUs - we are just really sick, and DD is being a barnacle.  Not much computer time.  Finn is either on the boob or screaming, so it's been a rough couple days.  I hope he starts feeling better soon -- I can deal with me being sick, but I really hate when babies are sick.  They are just misery personified and you can't do anything to help them but nurse, really.  Send us some healthy vibes!  We need them!!