Annie ~ But that's when the connection between breastfeeding baby and mom kicks in. Although I am sleeping enough so that I'm not completely aware of us waking to nurse every time, I am also acutely aware that D is next to me. I don't think it's something you can understand just from someone else trying to describe it. You have to experience it. I would not trust my dh to sleep next to our babies by himself. He would not have that same awareness that I do.
That's how I hold her now when we sleep together but sometimes, she turns her face in to my boob and I seriously don't know how she can breathe. I turn her head when she does that so she can breathe better. But when she was brandnew, she would not have fit in that position. Maybe it's because of my ginormous boobs but there's just no way.
JJ, if the bottle works to help cut down on the spitting, you may want to look at getting an electric pump so you can pump more milk in one session.