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[onetwoten]

Originally Posted by aeterna 

I had an incredibly weird (and intense) sensation yesterday while I was doing dishes - I felt something snap or pop, very sharp and sudden, deep in the uterus/cervix area. I've had cramping and I've had some mild contractions and this was nothing like either - it was fast and blindingly painful, made me catch my breath and my knees buckle before I caught myself. I wondered if maybe my water had broken (?!) but I had no fluid (or at least no more than usual lately -.- ) and it didn't happen again. And, from what I can tell, nothing else has changed - it's not like the Cx have picked up or anything. So I have no bloody idea what that was all about... maybe the kiddo tried to shove a hand through my cervix?!

I had that off and on for my last week. I'm pretty sure it was DD pressing on a nerve or something. I kept trying to describe it to DH, and couldn't quite find the words, but you're right... it's like all of a sudden you want to fall to the floor. Not fun!

[babymamaround1]

Originally Posted by aeterna 

I had an incredibly weird (and intense) sensation yesterday while I was doing dishes - I felt something snap or pop, very sharp and sudden, deep in the uterus/cervix area. I've had cramping and I've had some mild contractions and this was nothing like either - it was fast and blindingly painful, made me catch my breath and my knees buckle before I caught myself. I wondered if maybe my water had broken (?!) but I had no fluid (or at least no more than usual lately -.- ) and it didn't happen again. And, from what I can tell, nothing else has changed - it's not like the Cx have picked up or anything. So I have no bloody idea what that was all about... maybe the kiddo tried to shove a hand through my cervix?!

Yeah I have the same thing almost all the time. Midwife told me that it was the baby cracking its bones while doing a sort of screwdriver motion into your pelvis. I keep hoping that it will go a bit too far down and plop out of me. 

 

[SierraBella]

Originally Posted by Azadehhast 

My mother's story of her water breaking before my birth has been repeated so often in my family, I'm sure it's the root of my fear! I was born at exactly 38 weeks, just hours after my parents' first wedding anniversary. My mother was sewing last minute Christmas gifts, wearing knee-high, fur-lined boots. She stood up, and BAMM! water gushes out of her. While she calls the hospital, my dad pours the fluid out of her boots--they were full!

Maybe I'll just stay home for the next few weeks. :D

LOL, That's awesome! 

My grandmother used to tell me that when she was pregnant with my dad, her water broke while standing in line at the grocery store! 

[Mizelenius]

Originally Posted by Azadehhast 

My mother's story of her water breaking before my birth has been repeated so often in my family, I'm sure it's the root of my fear! I was born at exactly 38 weeks, just hours after my parents' first wedding anniversary. My mother was sewing last minute Christmas gifts, wearing knee-high, fur-lined boots. She stood up, and BAMM! water gushes out of her. While she calls the hospital, my dad pours the fluid out of her boots--they were full!

Maybe I'll just stay home for the next few weeks. :D

That is too funny!  Did she save the boots???

I think my biggest fear is being alone with the kids and going into labor quickly.  I am not having a HB so this makes things complicated.  I don't think I can drive with cx, but then what would I do with the kids?  And then, IF (big if) I find someone to watch them, I will have to figure out how to get to the hospital.  Cab?  I better have cash handy in case, which I never do. 

I am thinking, though, that I will either go into labor at night or early in the a.m. I HOPE. Then DH would be home.  He could just drop me off at the hospital and I'd be fine with that.

[SierraBella]

Originally Posted by Mizelenius 

That is too funny!  Did she save the boots???

I think my biggest fear is being alone with the kids and going into labor quickly.  I am not having a HB so this makes things complicated.  I don't think I can drive with cx, but then what would I do with the kids?  And then, IF (big if) I find someone to watch them, I will have to figure out how to get to the hospital.  Cab?  I better have cash handy in case, which I never do. 

I am thinking, though, that I will either go into labor at night or early in the a.m. I HOPE. Then DH would be home.  He could just drop me off at the hospital and I'd be fine with that.

Do you have a neighbor that would help? I have 2 neighbor ladies that said I could call them if I needed childcare when I go to the hospital. DF only works 5 mins from our house and can leave as soon as he needs to. But, do you know anyone who would come pick you up and take you if your DH isn't there? 

[EuroMama]

My fear is something happening when DS (9) is at school. I actually wished he was home for winter break already lol!

My BIL could pick DS up from school while hubby take me to the hosp. but I think I worry too much about it. MIL could also pick DS up.

My BP is even raised because of me stressing, and now they want to do 2 U/S's a week to check on the baby.

[Mizelenius]

Originally Posted by SierraBella 

Do you have a neighbor that would help? I have 2 neighbor ladies that said I could call them if I needed childcare when I go to the hospital. DF only works 5 mins from our house and can leave as soon as he needs to. But, do you know anyone who would come pick you up and take you if your DH isn't there? 

I have a nice neighbor and a good friend nearby, but they are gone a lot.  My DH used to work 20 min. away so it was not a problem, but now he's downtown . . .not only does the train take awhile, but they don't come that frequently.  My mom lives an hour away-- last time she did not make it.  (Lucky my friend was home.)

EuroMama, I'd be OK if it happened if my kids were at school, I think, because there are parents I know would be there who could watch them for an hour after school.  But maybe I'd forget about them!  (The kids, I mean!)  That would be bad!

[EuroMama]

That's true too. I guess I just worry too much hahahaha!

Hubby works like 10 minutes from our house, BIL is like 5 minutes, I have two neighbor ladies but they work an hour here and then there outside the house, my MIL works 30 minutes from here. My Mom, sister, grandma, Dad etc lives in Holland where I am from, so it'll take them even longer to get here hahhaa!

EuroMama, I'd be OK if it happened if my kids were at school, I think, because there are parents I know would be there who could watch them for an hour after school.  But maybe I'd forget about them!  (The kids, I mean!)  That would be bad!

[SierraBella]

Originally Posted by Mizelenius 

I have a nice neighbor and a good friend nearby, but they are gone a lot.  My DH used to work 20 min. away so it was not a problem, but now he's downtown . . .not only does the train take awhile, but they don't come that frequently.  My mom lives an hour away-- last time she did not make it.  (Lucky my friend was home.)

EuroMama, I'd be OK if it happened if my kids were at school, I think, because there are parents I know would be there who could watch them for an hour after school.  But maybe I'd forget about them!  (The kids, I mean!)  That would be bad!

You could make sure your DH is in charge of calling the school if they are there when you have to go. 

How far is the hospital from your house? 

Are you involved in any church or organization (like LLL)? Is there someone there who lives nearby that is a SAHM you could call? 

[Mizelenius]

Ha, ha about DH remembering to call the school . . .I don't think he would!  He does not have a good memory for that kind of thing.  This last time I said, your ONLY job is to get me to the hospital (it's kind of tricky and at least 20 min from here, and DD was born 20 min after I got there).  Guess what?  He didn't research it and got lost.  We had to pull over for him to figure out how to find it on the GPS.  Same hospital this time, and I told him I really did not want to get lost again . . .but I am sure he still doesn't know where it is and will not be ready. 

I do know SAHMs but they are all really busy.  I don't know of any who actually stay home!  I have possibilities, but no one I am sure would be home.  Will be luck.  But, like I said, I do think I'll go into labor at night or in the a.m.  so then DH would be home.  :)  I HOPE! 

I better have the directions programmed into the GPS, I just realized.  Maybe it will be a long and drawn-out labor, too . . .you never know.

Originally Posted by SierraBella 

You could make sure your DH is in charge of calling the school if they are there when you have to go. 

How far is the hospital from your house? 

Are you involved in any church or organization (like LLL)? Is there someone there who lives nearby that is a SAHM you could call? 

[Mizelenius]

Nice-- between your BIL and DH I think you will be OK, as long as they can leave quickly.

Originally Posted by EuroMama 

That's true too. I guess I just worry too much hahahaha!

Hubby works like 10 minutes from our house, BIL is like 5 minutes, I have two neighbor ladies but they work an hour here and then there outside the house, my MIL works 30 minutes from here. My Mom, sister, grandma, Dad etc lives in Holland where I am from, so it'll take them even longer to get here hahhaa!

[SierraBella]

Here is who I have (which is great because I really feel like I hardly have any friends here since I moved):

2 neighbors: 1 is a SAHM and usually always home. The other is an older woman who does have a small part time job, and also helps another old woman out every day from 11-12. 

BIL and his girlfriend: BIL works full time, and his girlfriend has two jobs, so it's unlikely that they would actually be free to come over. But they MIGHT be able to leave for an emergency if they have to. BIL's job is more flexible than his GF's 2 jobs. 

My older 2 spend half the week with their father, my ex. So, it is possible that they wouldn't even be here with me when the baby comes. But then I have to try to figure out who could pick them up, as my ex is kinda a control freak and I'm not sure if he would be civil enough for someone other than me to pick them up if I just had a baby. There is NO way he would be civil to DF picking them up, so that is not a possibility. I sort of have a plan with my sister picking them up, but she doesn't have carseats, so we would have to figure out how to get the carseats to her to pick them up. I wish my ex was easier to work with, but he's not. He is my biggest headache about the whole thing. 

I would rather my kiddos be here already when I have the baby so they can meet him right away, and I wouldn't have to worry about who is going to pick up my kids, or if my ex is going to be civil or be crazy. 

[Azadehhast]

Originally Posted by SierraBella 

LOL, That's awesome! 

My grandmother used to tell me that when she was pregnant with my dad, her water broke while standing in line at the grocery store! 

See, that's what I'm afraid of!!! But I don't think it happens all that often.
 

Originally Posted by Mizelenius 

That is too funny!  Did she save the boots???

I asked recently, but no one seems to remember. They must have been thrown out, or they'd have been held up and enshrined each time the story was told. 

[BennyPai]

Originally Posted by Azadehhast 

 They must have been thrown out, or they'd have been held up and enshrined each time the story was told. 

 

[LilMomma83]

A friend of mine who recently had a baby set up a whole network of mom's...I think there was a total of 8 of us, and she had our schedules and made an order of contact based on the time of day and who her child was most familiar with etc. maybe wasn't the most ideal situation, but, at least she had 100% confidence that someone would be able to watch her child during labor. Just another suggestion.

[Mizelenius]

Originally Posted by Azadehhast 

I asked recently, but no one seems to remember. They must have been thrown out, or they'd have been held up and enshrined each time the story was told. 

HAHAHA!!

[Mizelenius]

What an organized person!

People didn't even answer when I called today (my mom didn't answer call waiting and DH said he didn't know I left a message).  Good thing I was not in labor!   Wish I could get a big cab and just take us all to the hospital myself.  I truly do not like being dependent on anyone.

Originally Posted by LilMomma83 

A friend of mine who recently had a baby set up a whole network of mom's...I think there was a total of 8 of us, and she had our schedules and made an order of contact based on the time of day and who her child was most familiar with etc. maybe wasn't the most ideal situation, but, at least she had 100% confidence that someone would be able to watch her child during labor. Just another suggestion.

[BennyPai]

Mizelenius:  I am not very organized at all, but I've been working on lining up back-ups for my doula. (She can't be officially on-call, so I need to be prepared!)  I approached an acquaintance in the hallway at my kiddos' school yesterday.  She was pretty surprised, but said to give her a call so she could come and familiarize herself with our home this week.  I'm calling two more friends this afternoon.  So far, I have two confirmed back-ups ... 

I'm not making an availability calendar or anything:  I plan to post a list of phone numbers for the doula and back-ups in the order of our preference, so when I go into labor, DP can just start calling.  I hope to have at least 5 ... Wish me luck.

I'll have two awesome midwives and my DP at my disposal, so I'm covered in the support department!  I've hired the doula not so much for me, but for helping to keep my MIL and step-SIL calm and balancing the energy in our home so my children won't be anxious during the birth, especially in the event that I would need to transfer (something that has never happened before, so could frighten my daughters).  My criteria for a back-up is just someone who has experienced or been around a home birth and is good with kiddos.   *MIL is anxious in general and step-SIL is wonderful, but she's never been around a birth before and she confessed that she is "a little scared."