Is anyone here trying to time when your baby is born (e.g., certain month or time of year)?
I am currently in the middle of the 2WW--this is our second cycle TTC. Been charting using FAM for about a year (sorry, no FF account). Never been pregnant. The reason we are trying to time for the summer is this: I have a 10yo stepdaughter who lives primarily with her mom 3 hrs away during the school year--she's only here about one weekend a month, sometimes a little more, but no longer than a few days at a time. During the summer she is with us for a few weeks at a time.
My SD has 2 younger maternal siblings who were born at home, so naturally she got to be there for their births. She has told us that if we were to have a baby, she'd like to be here for the birth, and we'd like to have her here, too. So the summer seems like our best option. But now I find myself totally fixated on it, like summer or bust. We already missed out on July, so after this cycle, the summer window has closed and we'll have to "settle" for the fall. So the stress/anxiety of TTC really comes down to that for me--otherwise, I am 29 and my partner is 30 and we wouldn't be in an enormous hurry.
I'd really appreciate hearing from other folks who've tried to play the super-micromanaging odds. Is this just a completely futile endeavor? If you didn't get to have your baby at the time of year you wanted, was it really that big of a deal in the end? I just feel like no one else has to deal with this particular stress--the probability of your older child simply not living in your home or even the same state when your baby is born