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post #21 of 56

Oh jeez.. the end IS near and that fact is suddenly hitting me.  It occurred to me out of the blue on Friday that I might not go to 42 weeks with this LO and that even if I do... that's 7 weeks away.  And I am so not ready, emotionally or stuffwise!

 

My 2 year old son did successfully transition to his own bed though!  That is my big exciting news.  He has always literally slept in the crook of my arm and is a cuddle fiend, so we weren't sure how it was going to go.  But amazingly, he moved into his new bed with no drama and has been sleeping the whole night in there most nights since before Thanksgiving.  (Sometimes he gets up around 3 or 4 a.m. and moves into bed with us, but on my husband's side.) 

 

Things I've loved about being pregnant:

- how totally hilarious I look riding my bike

- having an excuse to wear sneakers at work every day

- just feeling this little guy moving and growing (though as others have said, movement isn't always a joy... like the other day when he turned sort of on a diagonal and spent the entire day simultaneously ramming my left hip bone and my right ribcage)

- NOT having HG and feeling like I got a second chance at having the mostly healthy, mostly active pregnancy I wanted the first time around

- my breasts look GREAT, maybe the best they ever have.  They haven't actually grown (for which I am *so* thankful) but they look *good*.  You gotta take my word on this.

 

Things I've hated about being pregnant:

- just the heartburn!  which didn't even start until a few weeks ago

- gaining all the weight again/facing the idea of losing all the weight again

 

I was talking with my husband about stuff we REALLY need to get done in the next few weeks and was like "we really need to figure out what we are going to do with Grey (older son) while I'm in labor" and he was like "oh well my parents will be here by then."  Uh what?  No they won't.  We need them here the first week in February (husband & older son are going to Disney for a wedding, and I am not staying home alone with a newborn).  Much as I love them, I am NOT having them here that long.  The last thing I need when I am feeling "done" with the pregnancy & wanting my body to go into labor is having the stress of other people around and hovering.

post #22 of 56

What's on my mind: that I'm one week away from my baby being considered full term! and that there's no way of knowing when she will decide to arrive between mid december and mid January.  I'm also thinking a lot about how my life will change and how I'm gonna be a MOM! and how great and scary that is.  

The biggest thing on my mind now though is that my husband is stuck working overnights until March so I will be alone with baby all night and he's going to have to try to sleep during the day when baby is crying.  

Also, Money! I've been doing contract work for the last year that was supposed to turn permanent but hasn't yet.  So, I'm stressing about not working for the next few months when the little bit of work I was doing before wasn't even enough to make ends meet.  I'm trying to focus on my most important job right now (growing and delivering a healthy baby of course wink1.gif) But it's tough not to worry.

 

What I've loved most about being pregnant- strangely enough, my body!  I've always been self conscious of my tummy but once it started rounding out I've just loved it!

 

What I've hated about pregnancy- being unable to do things I used to do and having to ask for help.

 

 

post #23 of 56

What's on my mind:  Enjoying the final few weeks left of my DD as an only child and paying attention to her as much as I can.  Eventually, I need to get baby clothes organized and washed.  I keep looking at "the closet of doom" and hoping it will somehow organize on its own.  Alas...  Other than that, I'm having to take work day by day and keep my stress levels as low as possible, which is taking up a lot of my thinking during the day.  My goal is to just get through Christmas without going into labor.  Obviously, with me due towards the end of January, having a Christmas baby is unlikely, but it's still a goal to keep her in until after (hey, if you aim low...)

 

What I've loved most about being pregnant: Feeling her movements.  How great I've felt this pregnancy, compared to my last one.  Keeping my weight and blood pressure under control this time around.  Coming to terms with the fact that I'm never going to be a "cute" pregnant lady, but I'm OK with that and don't feel like such a freak, like last time.

 

What I've hated about this pregnancy:  The mood swings - going from happy, normal me to raging homicidal maniac in .2 seconds.  Not being able to play with my DD on the floor because it hurts too much.  The acid reflux.

post #24 of 56

So good to hear what everyone is thinking and feeling in these last weeks. Pretty much on the same page here in terms of trying to get organized (or actually, since I'm pretty much useless at this point physically, trying to let go of the idea of being organized), enjoying my dd as a single child like Chonchobhar wrote, and being aware of what pregnancy feels like since this is probably it for us.

 

What I have enjoyed: my growing body, my big round belly, feeling my whole torso filled with little movements and off-timed hiccups x3, my wild pregnancy libido (nice to read that I'm not the only one -- Indigoscot's dp also seems to be gifted in that regard)... though it's been frustrating to be creative in the bedroom when I'm: 1. ENORMOUS and enormously uncomfortable and 2. on strict orders not to get anything anywhere near my cervix as risk for preterm labor is so high. I've enjoyed all the good food I've eaten in huge quantities. I've been thankful to live in a country where I can take paid leave to take care of myself physically, and where our unplanned four children will not cost much more than the planned-for two (daycare, health care, dental care, university, etc.are either free or inexpensive).

 

On the not-so-fun list, first and foremost, goes my heartbreak at not being able to birth naturally. I had an absolutely blissful and amazing birth with my first child, and am in utter mourning that it's not going to be that way this time. I've read the peer-reviewed studies and I know it would be safe to birth triplets naturally under the conditions that I have (past 33 weeks gestation, baby A in vertex, clean bill of health for mom and babies, etc.), but I can't find an experienced team to accompany me. I reach 36 weeks just before Christmas, and there's a big risk for serious complications if triplets are allowed ot gestate past 37 weeks or so (I didn't believe that when the doctors said it, but the literature supports it). No one has birthed triplets naturally (except by accident -- ie came in with labor that was proceeding to quickly for an emergency section) here for 30 years, and I'm not going to find a team of specialists who are willing to stand by through a long labor and be on guard in case a c-section becomes imminent, especially during like, Christmas Éve. So a planned section it will be two weeks from now.

The other thing that has me down is the PSD -- or PDS -- whatever it's called. The pelvic pain. Holy cow, if it weren't for the dagger twisting in my pelvic bone everytime I move, I'd be able to tap dance my way through these last weeks.

 

Hang in there everyone!

 

post #25 of 56

The other thing that has me down is the PSD -- or PDS -- whatever it's called. The pelvic pain. Holy cow, if it weren't for the dagger twisting in my pelvic bone everytime I move, I'd be able to tap dance my way through these last weeks.

 

Hang in there everyone!

 



It's SPD, and I feel ya. Mine's not a sharp, stabbing pain, but more of a "someone kicked me and now I have a terrible bruise" sensation. NOT FUN. I've also contracted a nasty cold, whine...

post #26 of 56
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The other thing that has me down is the PSD -- or PDS -- whatever it's called. The pelvic pain. Holy cow, if it weren't for the dagger twisting in my pelvic bone everytime I move, I'd be able to tap dance my way through these last weeks.



At my midwife appointment yesterday, she suspected my fluid might be low, so she told me to drink a lot more water before next week, at which point, we'll decide if I need to head into the OB for a fluid check.  Anyway, all the extra water is making the dagger-like pain SO much worse.  I'm walking around like a little old lady with osteoporosis, bent over and shuffling.  And it is still KILLING me.  I feel horrible for my kids, because I am SO checked out right now, just trying to make it through each day.

post #27 of 56
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It's SPD, and I feel ya. Mine's not a sharp, stabbing pain, but more of a "someone kicked me and now I have a terrible bruise" sensation. NOT FUN.



Is that what it is!?  I had no idea it was an actual "thing" but I have been having the same issues.  It seems like everything in my pelvic region is sore and popping out of place.  glad to know i'm not alone (but sorry you all are dealing with this too).

post #28 of 56

What I've Loved:

* Knowing this baby was a surprise and certainly our last I've loved that I got to be pregnant again.  It's really such an honor to get to carry a pregnancy.

* Watching my kids just come up and kiss my belly and talk about "our baby."

* The ability to stay fit and active while my body nourishes another.

 

What I Haven't Loved:

* Knowing my milk dried and hearing my son cry for more milk.

* This is the first time that I have complained about anything pregnancy related before my due date.  I've just felt more "done" sooner than the other times.

* I'm really, really exhausted and over the heartburn at night (it only hits when I'm laying in bed trying to sleep).

 

Things here are going pretty well.  I had an ultrasound this morning to check on general growth and fluid levels and was both shocked and excited to learn that while I'm 33w0d my kid's head is measuring 34w5d and is estimating to be around 5 pounds 12 ounces.  As I tend to birth bigger babies (everybody comes out at 100%+) I'm not surprised, but I did feel my cervix clench at the news!  And the kid is head down (this is the earliest this has ever happened with any of my kids) and in OFP.  Woot!

 

post #29 of 56

Angela, I'm so happy for you!!!  Sounds like everything is coming along swimmingly!

post #30 of 56

I know this doesn't really mean anything... but a little bit of what looks like mucous plug came out today! (About as much as I'd wipe from my nose... really nothing to write home about...)

 

Probably I loosened it when I did my GBS swab (I love that my mw let me do it myself, but I think I poked my cervix just a touch by accident as I didn't expect it to be so low from the pressure of baby's head...) so again, really, not a shocker. But I'm 35+1 today, measuring 36 weeks, spent the morning washing diapers... it's all coming around pretty quickly! I really hope baby stays in until 39 weeks at least (mostly because 39 weeks may actually be 40 for me based on when I think I ovulated) which will be... about January 3rd.

post #31 of 56

I haven't seen any mucus plug yet but I started feeling sharp pains in my cervix last night and they haven't' let up this morning. The baby's head is burrowing down, getting ready! 35wks 1d here too :D I feel emotionally ready to go anytime now. 

post #32 of 56

Cedar woman - I was in full blown labor with my first a mere three hours after losing my plug.  Your time is coming! :)

post #33 of 56

cedarwoman - How exciting!!!!  I can't wait for everyone to start popping!!

 

OK, contraction question... Yesterday for about 3 hours I had pretty uncomfortable tightening of the top of my uterus (right under my breasts).  It wasn't really coming and going, more like staying there for a good long while and very uncomfortable.  What in the world was that?  Was it BH?  Also, I could feel the baby moving down and thumping her head on my cervix, but this morning baby is right back where it was before all this started.  Any thoughts?  I'm at 35 weeks tomorrow.

post #34 of 56

Sounds like BH to me.

post #35 of 56

I agree.  I've never had BH, but a true contraction is the entire uterus tightening and not just one part.  They're pretty undeniable.

post #36 of 56

Cool, thanks.  I wasn't worried, but I couldn't tell if it was BH or some weird form of indigestion. ;)

post #37 of 56

I have not loved being pregnant, I have loved the fact that I get to be a mom (finally)!

 

But what I haven't totally diliked was: being babied by my H, expectant mother parking at target, not counting every calorie

 

What I cannot wait to be over with is:

The fears of birth - I'm increasingly anxious about this aspect.  I woke up with a start the other night because it really hit me; I only have one way out of this. Yikes! And why does every women that you know with a birthing horror story feel the need to tell you in minute detail about the tearing, or emergency c-section that almost killed them, or how the baby was so big the dr. was afraid pushing would squeeze the baby to death?????  Can we not have that happen anymore? Please?

 

Strangers touching the belly.

 

The aches, pains, stretch marks and other various ailments that go along with pregnancy (and the swelling, oh! The swelling!)

 

post #38 of 56
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What I cannot wait to be over with is:

And why does every women that you know with a birthing horror story feel the need to tell you in minute detail about the tearing, or emergency c-section that almost killed them, or how the baby was so big the dr. was afraid pushing would squeeze the baby to death?????  Can we not have that happen anymore? Please?

 



We're having lunch on Saturday with a friend who had an elective c-section and on Sunday with a friend who's the epidural queen (due with her second in March and already planning her epidural)... I'm not looking forward to having to defend our decision to birth at home.

post #39 of 56
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We're having lunch on Saturday with a friend who had an elective c-section and on Sunday with a friend who's the epidural queen (due with her second in March and already planning her epidural)... I'm not looking forward to having to defend our decision to birth at home.



We too, have an epidural queen...She's due with baby four and would get all plugged in now if she could! To each their own...

 

In other news, I slept with a vaporizer on last night for my cold and it masked the stench of raw sewage that came up through the drains of our building in the night. There's a man in a plastic suit with a beastly looking machine in my cellar as I type...

post #40 of 56
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On the not-so-fun list, first and foremost, goes my heartbreak at not being able to birth naturally. I had an absolutely blissful and amazing birth with my first child, and am in utter mourning that it's not going to be that way this time. I've read the peer-reviewed studies and I know it would be safe to birth triplets naturally under the conditions that I have (past 33 weeks gestation, baby A in vertex, clean bill of health for mom and babies, etc.), but I can't find an experienced team to accompany me. I reach 36 weeks just before Christmas, and there's a big risk for serious complications if triplets are allowed ot gestate past 37 weeks or so (I didn't believe that when the doctors said it, but the literature supports it). No one has birthed triplets naturally (except by accident -- ie came in with labor that was proceeding to quickly for an emergency section) here for 30 years, and I'm not going to find a team of specialists who are willing to stand by through a long labor and be on guard in case a c-section becomes imminent, especially during like, Christmas Éve. So a planned section it will be two weeks from now.


I'm so sorry :(  There's only one doctor in my entire state who will do vaginal triplets so I know how hard it must be to find one who will do it.  That really sucks though :(  

 

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