Long story short, my son is almost 7. Last year in grade 1 from pressue by the school, we got him tested with the Conners 3. From that test, and without even meeting my son, the school physcologyst met me and DH and told us it was pretty clear that DS was exhibiting signs of ADHD and we should consider medication.
We did not medicate.
This year in grade 2 he is doing better in some areas and allot less disruptance but more defiant now. I've had several discussions with him about it and he says he just doesn't like school. Well one nite I purchased a bunch of things and told him he could have them if he tried completing the work assigned. Well let me tell you, he completed, with no errors, math work in record time. He BREEZED through it. Another thing that he keeps doing is he decides what is ok and not ok regardless of the rules. He gets in trouble at school for this and when we question him it's because he has his OWN reasoning for why it's okay. For example; we had an issue with the dog getting out where my son was playing, and she did not stay with him and took off. I finally caught her and tied her up outside and told him "she can not be loose, she'll run away and might get hit by a car'. He suggested we leave her inside and I told him if he plays outside in the back with her, then it's fine for her to be out. 5 minutes go by, I look out, and he let her off the dog run!! I go barreling out running around the property like a mad woman, trying to get the dog again and finally get her. I go to the back and question him "what were you doing, why did you let her off??" and he tells me because he thought she would stay in the yard with him. I just looked at him confused, and reiterated "I told you she can't be loose, you heard me right??" "Yes" he says "but I thought she would stay with me".
What is going on here? He does this all the time at school and at home where he is told to do something or not do something and then rationalizes it in his head about doing it the other way, it woud seem? I'm at my witt's end. It doesn't seem like any amount of punishment (i.e. we take away tv time or something else he enjoys). We are trying to get him in for some other testing at a clinic that will spend an entire day with him in a class room setting, but they are so backed up we might not see getting an appointment till February.
Do any of you have any insight into this? Sorry for the long winded post, I hope someone can chime in.
Thanks in advance.