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post #81 of 123

My hospital has the hospital bed and a chair that folds out; there's nowhere for her to sleep.  Plus there's no way I could relax and sleep because I'd be nervous about her running around and getting into things.  I think she'd be more comfortable at home.

 

I know they can't make me stay, but if I've labored for 50 hours like I did with her and end up giving birth late at night I doubt I'd want to get everything together and drive right home, you know?  And if you don't get a doctor to discharge you (which wouldn't surprise me if it's the middle of the night or something) then you have to leave AMA, which just doesn't seem like something that's that important to me.

post #82 of 123

The hospital can't force you to stay, sure, but in my case, it is really in my best interest and in the baby's best interest that we stay for more than just a bit. Being a diabetic mother, there is a risk that my children could have diabetes as well, so getting tested is important. As well, last time I had such a hard time with my blood pressure that I had to stay at least 24 hours for monitoring to make sure it was coming back down after I delivered.

post #83 of 123
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Originally Posted by Cecilia's Mama View Post

Oh! Double post, but I wanted to share some good news-- nursing isn't hurting as badly anymore! It still hurts some during, but not for the 15-20 minutes afterward that it was before. It makes me feel like we will be able to tandem nurse!



I have to say that I'm incredibly jealous. My boobs are still sooooooo sore and nursing still hurts. For moms who have nursed during pregnancy before, does the pain go away or will it stick around the whole time? I'd like to know what I'm in for. :)

post #84 of 123

It still hurts for me too, but I was sort of used to the pain because we were dry nursing since about 10-11 months old. What was making nursing so hard for me since getting pregnant was a combination of the pain plus a sort of "creepy-crawly" feeling when she was nursing, and then the fact that the pain was lingering long past the end of the nursing session. We're back to the just pain during nursing part, and I can handle that! ROTFLMAO.gif

post #85 of 123

DH just got DS (23 months) to bed without nursing! My nipples are really sore today so we decided to give it a try.  Didn't seem to be that bad - of course he might make up for it later.

post #86 of 123

I'm cutting back on letting dd2 nurse right now since my nipples are killing me! So far she's down to only nursing once or twice a day now and nothing through the night which is helping A LOT. I had that creepy crawly feeling with dd1 when I was preggo with dd2 and I hoped I wouldn't get it this time but alas I am as well, so I'd rather start cutting it off now than later when I'm pulling my hair, inflicting pain on myself just to keep me from thinking about it so dd can nurse to sleep or for comfort etc. Instead I'm petting her tummy, dd1 loved me petting her hair but dd2 loves her tummy and chest to be stroked, so far she's not happy about not getting milk but is becoming more satisfied with having her tummy stroked for soothing to bed. We share a family bed so if she wakes I have to stroke her tummy till she's back to sleep but it's waaay better that the bfing aversion I suffer from!

post #87 of 123
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I think my milk has dried up and I'm so distraught about it. I know that my son has nursed longer than most other kids (32 months), but I feel awful. I wanted him to make the decision about weaning and now I feel like such a jerk. Nursing has been so painful the past week or so- as in, I want to cry and scream, but I've been willing to put up with it. Today I asked him if there was any milk coming out anymore and he said "no." My heart broke. I guess I'm also upset because I'm such an over producer. I had so much milk when he was a baby that I had to pump to get rid of the excess. Ugh. I just needed to get this out because I don't have any friends who have nursed as long as me. I know what kind of responses I would get from them if I said anything, which also breaks my heart. Damn these hormones. 

 

Any other veterans out there who have been through this? 

post #88 of 123

Oh, Sallyrae, I'm so sorry you are going through this!  I'm know I'm going to be really sad if my milk dries up too, and like you I had a huge oversupply so even worrying about this issue seems so strange.  The thing I'm trying to keep in mind is that weaning through milk drying up in pregnancy is actually a very natural, fairly gentle method of weaning that humans have been experiencing for thousands of years, and we just need to trust in our bodies about this.  Still, easier to deal with on a intellectual level than an emotional one.  I'm sure your son will be fine with the transition, though.  And from what I understand, your milk will probably come back in a few months--tasting different, but still--so maybe he'll still be interested then.  The other thing I've been trying to keep in mind is that despite all the difficult transitions that a new baby is going to create for my daughter now, giving her a close in age sibling is a huge blessing that she will hopefully have her whole life, so overall, I do think we are doing was is best for our children.

 

I still have milk (at 8 weeks), but I think it is definitely on the decline, and my daughter is starting to notice. She's been asking for daddy to finish putting her to bed for the first time this week, and in a truly hillarious move, was up at four-thirty a few days ago screaming at the top of her lungs, not for mama's milk, but for "goat cheese." We are just taking it one day at a time for now. 

post #89 of 123

Sallyrae, I wanted to link you to a blog post a friend of mine wrote, about her 5 year old finally weaning. Here is a quote from it:

 

 

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"When I got pregnant my milk supply dropped. Rosie was two years old. She kept right on nursing, despite the fact that my nipples felt like they’d been rubbed against a cheese grater. Despite the lack of milk. It didn’t matter to her.

 

When my baby died at 12 weeks, Rosie kept right on nursing.  My milk came back and that made her happy.  It was nice to have her warm toddler body snuggled against my sad heart.

 

I got pregnant again right after Rosie’s third birthday."

 

[break]

 

"I dedicated myself to child led weaning–nursing until Rosie and I both were finished. At points during my pregnancy with Ada I was finished nursing Rosie. It felt horrible. I felt like I could crawl out of my skin, or fling Rosie out of the window. It was just awful. My milk was almost completely dried up by the second trimester. There were no longer unicorns, and rainbows, and warm fuzzy feelings when it came to breastfeeding Rosie during this stage in our relationship.

 

Yet Rosie still wanted to nurse. She loved the closeness it provided. She’d fallen asleep nursing in my arms every single night of her life for three years. I knew how important it was to her. At this age she only nursed a few times a day–once upon waking in the morning and then again at night before bed. It was a routine of love between us, the perfect way for us to reconnect at the end of the day. The best way to start out our mornings. I pushed past my feelings because I remembered how wonderful it used to be, and I had already come so far–why stop now? How would I tell my sweet girl that she could no longer have her favorite thing in the world just because I didn’t want to do it anymore? How would that affect her relationship with her new sibling if I forced Rosie to wean only to replace her at the breast with a new little one? It couldn’t be good. So I gritted my teeth and kept going, while kissing the top of Rosie’s head and whispering in her ears how much I love her.

 

Ada was born, and then I was nursing two little ones. Tandem nursing. It felt so strange at first. I had visions of myself as a mama mammal, maybe a pig or a cat, nursing a litter."

 

 

There's more, a lot more. But I wanted to quote for you the part about Rosie nursing in spite of no more milk, and how my friend pushed past it. My advice is-- if you want to keep going, do it anyway. In a few months your milk will be back for him. If you do want to press on, maybe my friend's blog can be an inspiration for you.

 

But, and here is a huge "but," if you don't want to keep nursing, then I agree 100% with Rebecca that this is a sweet and natural way to wean, that has been done for thousands of years. And whichever route you choose, know that we'll offer you support if you need it. smile.gif

post #90 of 123

Yeah, I was picking up on what seemed to be your worry that your son wouldn't want to nurse anymore if there was no milk, which has happened to a number of people I know.  But if he doesn't mind dry nursing, and you don't either, I completely agree there is no reason to stop.    Which is another reason that  whatever ends up happening will be largely child-led just as you wanted, even if it does get a little push from the changing hormones.

post #91 of 123
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Aimee - Thanks so much for the link to your friend's post. It made me cry, but really helped. I just nursed my son for a few minutes and he gulped maybe 3 times, so I'm not *completely* dry yet. I'm getting there, though. 

 

I guess I'm not ready to let go of the connection we have through nursing..and my son obviously isn't either since he wants milk all the time. The biggest thing I hate is when people say something like "well, you'll get to nurse you next child as well!" It's just not the same! It's a completely different person and different relationship. So..thank you for not saying that!

 

Rebecca - I agree that we can only do what we feel is best for our kids. I'm sorry that you are also starting to feel a drop in your supply, but I seriously laughed out loud when I read about the goat cheese. That's awesome. ;)

post #92 of 123

If you're not ready to let go, then, uh, to put it bluntly, "f the naysayers." It's your relationship with him! And you're right, even with the new baby nursing, it won't be the same nursing relationship. I hope that your relationship continues as long as both of you want it to. hug2.gif

post #93 of 123

Just wanted to chime in that things are evening out in this house. DD now nurses about 4-5 times per day and only 1-2 times in the night. She has been willing to unlatch at night and the pain has mostly subsided.  It is very important to me that I don't wean her until she is ready and I am very hopeful that we will be able to tandem nurse.  Most of the milk is gone, but not all.  Even when it is, I know DD won't care - she's a determined little thing, and she LOVES to nurse. LOVES LOVES LOVES.  I really appreciate this thread and that blog excerpt was really moving Aimee. 

post #94 of 123

She was in our last DDC! smile.gif

post #95 of 123
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Originally Posted by Cecilia's Mama View Post

If you're not ready to let go, then, uh, to put it bluntly, "f the naysayers." It's your relationship with him! And you're right, even with the new baby nursing, it won't be the same nursing relationship. I hope that your relationship continues as long as both of you want it to. hug2.gif



I completely agree with you! Thanks for the support! :)

post #96 of 123

We're still nursing along 4x per day - before nap and bed, and upon waking each time. The pain went away for a couple of weeks, but then came back again in the last few days (I'm at 11 weeks) though not as bad.

 

I'm curious - is anyone else finding that their morning sickness is less than when they were pregnant and NOT nursing? With DD it was pretty bad, and she weaned before I got pregnant with DS, so I wasn't nursing then either, and it was pretty bad. This time around, though, I have still felt pretty crappy, but it has been way more manageable, and seems to be easing earlier. I'd read that nursing could help mitigate morning sickness symptoms, and wondering what other people's experience has been in this department? 

post #97 of 123

Makes sense to me - last pregnancy (with twins) and nursing was really mild. This one has been really rough though, so maybe not!

post #98 of 123

Alas, I haven't experienced a decrease in morning sickness, as I am having a much harder time in that regard than with my first. Although I suppose this pregnancy could have been even worse if I wasn't nursing--no way to know. 

 

But I had a huge appreciation for the benefits of nursing while pregnant on Friday.  I was home all day with my daughter and got hit with a wave of that utter down-to-the-bones exhaustion that I've really only experienced in pregnancy.  Even with a little nipple pain, it felt so good to be able to just sit on the couch while she nursed, knowing that my daughter was as content as can be. 

post #99 of 123

Just thought I'd bump this up and check-in.  How's it going for people? Is the pain getting any better? Are folks cutting back on how much they nurse?

 

I was surprised to find that nursing is actually getting more painful since around 11 weeks, but still we are hanging in there and it is definitely bearable.   I had plans of cutting back on nursing my daughter to sleep, but so far that hasn't really happened, so I'm pretty much nursing the same amount as I always was. 

post #100 of 123

Cecilia still nurses to sleep most nights, but since she doesn't nap anymore, that's the only one. It's about the same level of pain for me. Actually, I realized something interesting the other day-- I've never warmed the milk that goes in her SNS, and she's been fine with cold milk since birth. Well, I'm thinking that the coldness of the milk in the little tube and then in her mouth actually helps me by doing some slight numbing, making the last year of dry nursing bearable.

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