Ashley - Thanks for the thread!
About the birth pool - I've heard from a couple people that the fishy pool is awesome. Then a few others say it is not as structurally sound or tall as birth pools, so you can't lean on the side as hard, or be as well submerged. I'm curious if you ladies have more input about this?
About positioning - I'm going to talk to my doula about positioning and how much she knows. She's in training (though by Odin's birth will be finished with her cert and required # of births). How many of you will actively try to optimize positioning in the coming months? I know Odin was in the vertex position last week, but due to some big thumps I felt seemingly going through to my cervix, I'm starting to think my painting exercise over the weekend could have turned him.
Wendy - What a RELIEF that you can still work with your MW. I've only known mine for a short time and it's incredible how comfortable and good they make me feel. How many of your births has your MW attended?
Long story telling time - I had a rough time of ir Friday morning in regards to OB/MWs remeniscent of Ashley's trials for getting an ultrasound. I've had one OBGYN my whole life, but a few years while I was living away from my usual city I went to others. There were such awefully stark differences between my wonderful OBGYN and the others that I never really want to find another OB to work with. She was understanding and somewhat supportive (as much as losing business can be supported) when I told her I wanted a homebirth once I got pregnant. Anyway, long story short, I made an appointment with her for my anatomy scan instead of going to the place the MWs usually send their clients. I explained what was going on when making my appointment (why I had no chart for pregnancy at the OB's practice, etc.), and all seemed okay after some explaination. They called me Friday morning, the morning of the appointment, and told me I couldn't come to get my scan if I wasn't there for all my prenatal and delivery care. I could transfer, or I could not come. I wouldn't let them hang up on me, and kept getting put on hold, being told I could come in but couldnt' get a scan, etc., then pleading for them to let me come in. FINALLY someone actually talked to my doc, who said I could come in and get my scan as long as I brought my records.
MWs were in a birth and it was touch-and-go as to wether they would be able to get my records in time. They did, minutes before we needed to make a go or no-go decision. I went in, got a wonderful sono, and had an incredible visit with my doc. She's never had this happen before, and doesn't know much about how MWs practice. She's not worried for my safety in the least, which was awesome. She was worried for my pain, saying "you've got a lot of courage!" At one point she said "Of course your are doing it this way. you never do anything the normal way." Which is a fun thing to hear (we have had many conversations about my piercings, inclduing genital and surface, and other "non normal" aspects of my life). She said she would like to be my transfer back-up care as I had asked, but she would have to ask her partners (because she might not be on call). That was fair, and I was thrilled she would even consider it. One of my MWs thought there wasn't a chance in hell a mainstream OB with no current MW relationships would consider being transfer care.
That was a long story. CNs or TD;DR are that I was almost rejected for my sono by nurses at the OB's office, but my OB came through and was awesome as always.
Ok, on a better topic: I'm SO EXCITED about my birth plans. Whenever labor and delivery come up or I am asked about it, I feel calm and happy. I don't have a lot of fear, and I don't think that's purely because I've never done it before. I feel like I'm not going in blind. I've read hundreds of birth stories, good and bad, and am not stopping. I'm really looking forward to our birth class. Woot!