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post #41 of 62

We had our home visit tonight!  It went well.  Still don't have everything ready, though...  I hope we still have 4-5 weeks, left!

post #42 of 62

My home visit 3 weeks ago was totally anticlimactic too...maybe if I hadn't dragged them around to see everything they would have eventually asked but they seemed really nonchalant and perhaps just understood that I'm prepared.  I hope that means I actually *am* prepared but since this is my first home birth, how would I really know?!  Last week at my 37 wk appointment, they commented that now I could 'officially' have my home birth and I was like, wait, what?!  They had previously mentioned that the cutoff was 36 weeks, and while I didn't anticipate going that early, I did do a nice sigh of relief to have hit 36 weeks back then.  Oh well, moot point, since I'll be 38 tomorrow, yay!  

 

By the way, what do some of you mean about fudging dates?  I've been calculating my 'weeks' by my LMP but my midwives are using some wheely thing and keep coming up with dates that are a bit different.  I haven't argued with them because at this point, it could only work out in my favor (they think I'm a couple days less far along than I do...so if I go 'late' by my calculations, there will be some give by their calculations...) but I was worried a little till I got comfortably out of the 'preterm' window.

 

I watched a few natural home birth videos with DD at her request which was good to go over some of her questions and thoughts again (she's almost 7).  But it was really good for me too, to remind me what kind of environment I actually prefer during labor/delivery.  I was reminded about things I had forgotten from DD's birth and able to communicate those things to DH as reminders (like if you 'pet' me, I will scream at you) and also useful to tell DH and the midwives that I hate verbal cheerleading or too much verbal focus on me.  If there's relevant info to share, I'm cool with that, but I really don't want people around who experience my birth through their verbalizations...ew (though I know some who love that!)

 

We got DD a small gift from us and something specifically from the baby too.  We also have lots of activities squirreled away for her that should give her things to focus on.  My mom is going to make a 'birthday' cake with her for this baby (an awesome idea I read here somewhere) so I got that stuff ready since we have so many food intolerances.  Who doesn't like cake?!

 

Right now I'm just trying to impress upon DH that we need to keep up with the basics, so I don't go into labor with a counter full of dirty dishes, a giant pile of laundry, and clothes spread all over the bedroom.  I think I have WAY more of the organizational sensibilities than DH or DD and I realize that to have things like I like, I'm just going to have to keep up with that stuff.  As I look around my room where I hope to give birth, I notice we have a lot of toys, electronics cords, misc. paperwork, etc. that have migrated in here only over the last couple days (!!) and I should probably go redirect some of that stuff now ;-)

post #43 of 62
Thread Starter 

Am I the only one who has all her appts. at home? Illinois midwives seem, across the board, to not have offices (that whole legal thing) so literally every single one of my appts. have been on my couch.

post #44 of 62
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Originally Posted by Rasa View Post

By the way, what do some of you mean about fudging dates?  I've been calculating my 'weeks' by my LMP but my midwives are using some wheely thing and keep coming up with dates that are a bit different.  I haven't argued with them because at this point, it could only work out in my favor (they think I'm a couple days less far along than I do...so if I go 'late' by my calculations, there will be some give by their calculations...) but I was worried a little till I got comfortably out of the 'preterm' window.


I'm "fudging" a little because I know I didn't ovulate on day 15 of my cycle (which is what they assume when calculating from LMP). I actually ovulated more like day 18 or 19, so I bumped my LMP up a few days when I went in for an early ultrasound. Of course, I told my midwife I ovulated around day 18 and she's calculated my due date based on that, not on LMP. That way I'm not considered "overdue" before I actually am.  =]

 



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Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam View Post

Am I the only one who has all her appts. at home? Illinois midwives seem, across the board, to not have offices (that whole legal thing) so literally every single one of my appts. have been on my couch.


You are so lucky!! I have always had to take all my kids and drive to my appointments. This time I have been able to have almost all my appointments at my house because our midwife this time was in the middle of moving and setting up her new location (which is in her house, not an office). It was amazing to have my appointments at home!! I've had to drive an hour round-trip with 3 small kids to my last 2 appointments, and although it's WORTH IT, I'm glad I haven't had to do that all along. I'll most likely only have 2-3 more visits anyway, so no complaints here.  =] 

 

post #45 of 62
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Originally Posted by sunflwrmoonbeam View Post

Am I the only one who has all her appts. at home? Illinois midwives seem, across the board, to not have offices (that whole legal thing) so literally every single one of my appts. have been on my couch.

I'm in Ontario, and its not only legal here, its funded under my provincial health care. The midwives in my city have an office in a medical building next to the hospital. Its anything but a traditional medical building inside though. I like going there. I am glad I didn't have to always have them here. It was fun to go there every time. But then again, this is my first so I didn't have little ones in tow.

 

post #46 of 62
Mine are at home except for a few "community care" visits where all the April moms come in together to one of our MWs' living room. The next community care visit is next week, and it's birth story week. All the January parents and their babies come and tell use how things went! And of course we get belly and BP checks and such before or after the group part.

My 36 week visit was a special home visit where both MWs, their student, and my doula all came to go through the kit, make sure everything is available and they know where it is, and also all three checked baby's position and size (ish) independently to kind of "clear" me for home birth. All clear! Yay.
post #47 of 62

My visits are all at my house too.  My midwife lives around the corner and comes in our store daily so I see her all the time anyway.  I love it since it means I don't have to get a sitter or have the appointments on preschool days.

post #48 of 62

Rasa- I am also trying to get the kids and Hubs to keep up with things in the house so there isn't a ton to do when I go into labor...plus it's just really nice to have things put away and neat and things are NEVER like that in our house. I was telling Hubs today that I wished we had a house that stayed neat and he just told me it probably wasn't ever going to happen.

 

We only have the one home visit, I guess it's the law that you have to have at least one. of course my midwife caught Juna here and has been over to visit other times as well. We didn't look at anything just hung out and talked a bit.

 

 

post #49 of 62

My visits are all at home, too.  Partly because my midwife lives 4 blocks away and "likes to get out for a walk."  I think mostly she is being nice to me, not making me bring both boys to her house.  On second thought, she's seen my boys, so maybe she's being nice to herself and her space.  ;)

 

 

QUESTION:  Do you pack a hospital transfer bag? If so, what's in it??  We live about 10 minutes from the hospital, so DH could come back easily and get what I need after the birth... but is there anything you know you would want to take in the case of a transfer?

post #50 of 62

I've thought about packing a transfer bag, but don't really want to. Mostly cause I need to use everything I would be packing and also it makes me paranoid that I'm jinxing something. HA! If I do end up transferring, it'll be an emergency situation...so anything I'd want to take is not going to really matter right away, right? We don't live far from the hospital -- someone could always bring stuff to me.

post #51 of 62

Having transferred... twice, I don't think it hurts at least to know what you will bring to a hospital.  The first time I didn't bring a camera, and I frantically had to call my dad, who had to leave patients and run his office camera to me in the middle of a day.  I missed pictures of DSs birth because he didn't get there before I was taken into the OR.  Besides that, if you are transferring it's probably not to go have a peaceful, natural birth.  It's probably because you need some kind of intervention, so your needs may be different than a normal situation.  Think about what you might need to comfort you in that case.  I think this is probably different for each of us, but it may be music, a certain set of clothes, something wonderful to eat after (I HATE hospital food, so for me getting something good is essential).  Of course you will need to think about an outfit for the baby to wear and a car seat.  That being said, I don't like to plan for the worst, so I won't pack a bag.  I will just be aware of what I need to grab, and maybe have my sister pack and bring to me if we need it.

 

AFM, I have my home visit tomorrow morning.  Nothing like a homevisit to kick my nesting instinct into gear. I am so sore tonight from cleaning all afternoon, but my house looks wonderful. If only it would stay this way until the baby comes...

post #52 of 62

We had our home visit yesterday and it was great.  I met the other midwife who assists mine, and I felt very comfortable with her.  Step MIL came to the appointment since she will be in charge of the kids while I'm in labor, and she was awesome, so solid, supportive and made me feel so relaxed and confident.  We talked about a lot of stuff, when to call, how they'll set up, a lot of about postpartum help and the supply list.  We even talked some about how DH and I can continue on a healing path after the baby, since we had a very difficult separated last June-July and have been working hard in marriage therapy to strengthen our relationship.  It felt really good to have all these people on our side and there to support us through this process.  Now I'm just really excited to go into labor!

post #53 of 62

I feel the same as carastar with respect to a transfer bag.

Also since we're planning a UC, the list of situations which would take us to the hospital is very short and basically includes only life or death emergencies, in which case we would call an ambulance and having the right 'stuff' wouldn't be a big concern at that point. I will make sure to have the really important stuff (insurance card, ID, etc) available but other than that I don't think I'll pack anything else. If necessary I could always ask someone to bring stuff to me in hospital later on.

post #54 of 62

Re: packing a bag...

 

I have a To Do list program on my iPhone that gets synced with DH's phone and I have a 'When I Go Into Labor' To Do list on there.  One of the things is a list of items to grab in case we have to go to the hospital, but that's as far as I'm going to go.  We're also very fortunate to be, like, 5 minutes from our transfer hospital and I'm totally not even going there (imagining transferring, I mean) mentally as a possibility.  In my mind, the only thing that would take me there is some kind of medical emergency, and at that point, I'm not going to sweat the small stuff.  But I'm willing to have the list on hand, so if someone needs to bring stuff to us I can txt it to them or DH can always run home later.  Ooo--insurance card--good idea chapluqa--in fact, I'll just add 'wallet' to my list and that would take care of that and more--thanks!

post #55 of 62
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Originally Posted by jennyvangy View Post

Having transferred... twice, I don't think it hurts at least to know what you will bring to a hospital.  The first time I didn't bring a camera, and I frantically had to call my dad, who had to leave patients and run his office camera to me in the middle of a day.  I missed pictures of DSs birth because he didn't get there before I was taken into the OR.  Besides that, if you are transferring it's probably not to go have a peaceful, natural birth.  It's probably because you need some kind of intervention, so your needs may be different than a normal situation.  Think about what you might need to comfort you in that case.  I think this is probably different for each of us, but it may be music, a certain set of clothes, something wonderful to eat after (I HATE hospital food, so for me getting something good is essential).  Of course you will need to think about an outfit for the baby to wear and a car seat.  That being said, I don't like to plan for the worst, so I won't pack a bag.  I will just be aware of what I need to grab, and maybe have my sister pack and bring to me if we need it.

 


This is really helpful.  Thanks.  I think I won't actually pack a bag, but will have a list.

 

 

post #56 of 62

List sounds good. Rasa - which app do you use? I have a grocery sync with DH, but I need a to-do list synced, and haven't gotten around to picking one of the hundreds of apps for that...

 

Fern - The home visit sounded lovely. I got that same warm, happy feeling of support all around. It's a really good one. And it's pretty awesome how holistically supportive midwives are, isn't it? Mine keep asking about school and other aspects of life, yours are supportive of your rough patches with your DH...they look at us and support us as whole families rather than just individual pregnant patients. It's wonderful

post #57 of 62
Rosie, I think the full name of the app is '2Do: Tasks Done In Style'. They've raised the price significantly since I bought it...not sure I'd pay $10 for it now!!! But I tried a bunch of the free ones and they couldn't do all the syncing I needed or mesh with all our various calendars. I think I'm perhaps not using it at its full functionality, but we have loads of different to do lists going simultaneously, some set up as projects, some with reminders, and it's been very helpful for me!
post #58 of 62

Thanks to this thread I am charging the camera battery, that I otherwise would have forgot about. ;)

post #59 of 62
Thread Starter 

I also transferred before, and not only did I not pack a bag before labor but I didn't have a list and I brought WAY too much stuff. Admittedly my transfer wasn't an emergency and we live 10 minutes from the hospital, but it was no big deal. I won't be packing a bag this time either.

post #60 of 62

Hmmm...I think I might pack a small bag, and leave it in the room next to my laundry basket of homebirth supplies, that way the stuff inside the bag (camera, baby clothes, etc) are handy to us at home.

 

I'm almost done gathering the supplies from my mw's homebirth list. They bring pretty much all the neccesities, I just had to get the general things together. Chux pads, towels, waterproof mattress pad, garbage bag, large ziplock bag for placenta, strainer, etc :) I just have a few things left.

 

We have all of our appts at the our mw's office. It's not in a medical building, just a regular office type building. She comes to our house starting at 38 weeks. :)

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