we're mostly relaxed letting DD play outdoors. she can get really crazy indoors sometimes and i send her outside if i need to. she loves climbing, jumping, swinging, and she's three. if we're at the park i don't help her climb, i've always told her if she can't do it herself then she's too little and can try again until she gets it. very rarely will i give her a push up. i feel it builds confidence and motor skills.
we were at the park and she saw kids about her age climbing on rocks. there was a mom standing with her kids while the climbed. she ran over to join them and i can see/hear her and was maybe 40 ft away. the rocks we're tall, the tallest about 2 ft high. i figure, no problem she's always climbing stuff. well, she jumps and does a little tumble, and i can hear her say "i'm okay" and gets right back up and climbs again, jumps, climbs, jumps, climbs, ect. the other mom was looking at me like i was nuts. she's telling her kids not to jump because it's too dangerous. i could tell she thought i was being neglectful just by the looks, and was just glaring at me waiting for me to stop my kid from jumping or as i see it, just having fun. i knew DD wasn't getting hurt and she was doing just fine without me. i like to give her space when she plays and didn't see a reason for me to interfere. i wasn't really worried about her getting hurt, she was jumping into grass. i guess she could have bumped on a rock, but kids get hurt, it happens. i figure if a kid's going to get hurt, it's going to happen eventually no matter how much some one tries to stop it. maybe i have the wrong attitude about play time. if she was about to run into the middle of a road, i'd stop her, if i really felt she was in danger i wouldn't let her continue.
am i giving my three year old too much freedom when it comes to playing? i know every kid's skill level is different, but how much helicoptering is really needed? if i can see and hear her how much worrying do i need to do? i don't want to be restrictive at out door play time but maybe i've been too passive?