gender roles - It has surpised me that we have what look like very traditional roles. I have a degree in Women's Studies! My husband is the breadwinner and I stay home and raise babies and do all of the housework. I don't feel traditional though....I feel kind of.....rebellious, prioritizing home and family and time spent DIMyself over working for a paycheque. and I find it hugely satisfying. It is the work I love. I will probably work in the future, when I have no little people to keep me busy, although the areas I am interested in (advocacy in the areas of gender and poverty, sex work, etc) will never be about a big paycheque, ha!
However, despite our traditional roles, I actually do a lot of the "manly" things- all of the fix-its and repairs around the home. I love tools. My husband? not so much! I also do all of the yardwork and digging and building that has to happen. And it is a priority to me that our kids know they can be and do anything and that the things Daddy and I do aren't determined by our gender but rather our talents. And we have a very diverse set of friends and family who truly represent every variation of relationship and the possibilities for both men and women. We have many, many female friends who are academics, scientists, marathon runners. And we have male friends who are artists, musicians, actors, daddies. I'm proud when I think of the people we have surrounded ourselves with, actually - kind, passionate, talented people!
Trinket, I really liked this:
lifeguard: I am amazed by you and your strength - I can't believe you compete, that is SO cool!
baby wool: we love the smart wool socks, too. DD has a pair of their knee socks and they are awesome, so warm and well made and they have fit her for over a year!
picking: ohh, I am a picker too...DD1 had a very mild case of cradle cap and it drove me crazy! I had to sit on my hands!!! I try so hard not to pick at them!!
livacreature: I am so glad to hear your brother's surgery isn't as serious as you thought - let us know how he's doing! Also, it's so great you can take baby along with your to work sometimes!
Also, sending flowers "from" your baby? Ohh, that would BUG ME big time!! That's just weird. If anyone is going to send things "from" your baby it should be YOU!!! It kind of reminds me of DD1's first christmas when my SIL took pictures from my FB of the baby and made everyone in the family giant photo calendars for xmas gifts......It was like, really? NOT YOUR BABY.
afm: Claire has a dr's appt today, can't wait to see what she weighs. It's also my 6wk PP visit, can't wait to get my birth control prescription. We've been pretty active the past month and it's a nagging worry in the back of my head that we haven't been careful enough.
Took the kids to a birthday party yesterday and holy hell, I'm still paying for it today. MAJOR sugar overload and crazy noisy chaotic sensory blitz (huge piles of loud toys to play with and a loud movie in the background and soooo many kids). Holy. Cow. Sometimes I go to these things and it is so terribly obvious how differently we do things. We always bring a "strange" gift - ours was the wooden toy and play silk in the huge pile of battery toys. And my kid was the one who refused to eat the hot dogs, ate all the broccolli off the veg tray and then was SO confused by the cheesies she was served - she thought they were carrots, haha!!! (eta: I am not anal about these things, treats are fine at things like this, I just thought it was funny that she obviously had a very different set of food ideas than the other kids) I had the baby in the ring sling, totally happy and asleep the whole time and the hosts and their family kept asking if I wanted to put her in the other room, where there was a crib.....like they were so confused why I would just carry her, ha! Anyway, last night was one giant sugar fueled meltdown and DD1 is still all out of sorts today. Ugh.
Ok, I need to confess something because it's been making me sick every time I think about it. I got the girls ready to go to the party and we drove there, about 1/2 hr drive, mostly on the highway. When we got there, I went to take the baby out of her carseat.....and realized I had never buckled her in. I had just tucked her blanket over her. Oh my god, it makes me want to throw up when I think about it. TELL ME I'M NOT THE WORST MOTHER IN THE WORLD, PLEASE!