Saoirse: That picture is amazing. You are a superwoman!!!
Vacc: Ugh, I'm dreading this too. I just hate how miserable and fussy they are after getting them :(
Diapers: " expect 10 diapers a day"?? Oh my goodness! DD is a little peeing machine or something, because she soaks a diaper often twice an hour during the day! And holy hannah, FORGET about letting her sit in it for more than 3.5 seconds! No sir, she will scream herself silly over a wet diaper. Sigh. Lots of laundry here! She soaks the infant size prefolds and the larger prefolds are just way too huge for her (she can barely move in one) so I'm thinking of getting some hemp doublers. Not that I think it will make her any happier to wait for a diaper change but it might make the whole thing less drippy! I'm using the flip snap covers and we haven't had a leak yet though!
I know breastfed babies have less poop after awhile - do they also have less pee? I'm thinking they need to eat less volume to meet their needs so they have less pee output? She is a big baby so she's eating SO MUCH, too! Between the constant bottles and diapers she is keeping me hopping.
not_telling: ugh, ugh, ugh to bad playdate behaviour! so awkward!!!!!! DD1 is going through a bit of normal 2yo stuff (ocasionally not wanting to share a toy, or taking a toy from someone else, very mild stuff that I can gently talk to her and she'll usually stop) and it STILL mortifies me- I can't imagine being the mom of the kid who is saying he hates people, etc.
One of my oldest childhood friends has a little boy who is 3 and he is......um....overindulged and then threatened and punished with crazy timeouts and "good boy/bad boy" talk and forced sharing and apologies and confusing wierdness like that. And when we play together (which isn't often, because I avoid it), he runs around talking about cutting people's eyes out (!!!!!) and pretending to shoot and fight, etc. So, the last time they were over he was doing all this crazy stuff (i.e. taking a play knife from our play kitchen and telling me he was going to stab me.. "I cut you! I stab you!" ) and his mother doesn't even BLINK. I go to the bathroom for a couple of minutes and while I was gone, DD knocked over a block tower her son had built (this is how we always play with her blocks - I build the tower and she knocks it down) and he was upset. My friend had this serious look on her face when I walked back in and she says "Beth, Lila just knocked over C's tower and I thought you needed to know about it." (like, "what was I going to do about this serious infraction?") Ummmm. Ok..... I just told Lila that C wanted to keep his towers and please don't knock them down, Mommy would build her one to knock down if she wanted. And she agreed. And that was that. And I could tell my friend was miffed because I hadn't punished DD....... Yikes.
messy houses: ok, I fall on the opposite end of things. If you were coming to visit you would find my house spotless and everything in it's place, even toys. The kids would be adorably dressed (often in something I knit or sewed) and clean. And there would probably be fresh baked goods waiting for you. Here's a secret - all of that is just my social anxiety manifesting itself!! I probably stayed up late and/or got up early to make it happen. and it certainly doesn't look like that every moment of the day!!!! I have a toddler, a newborn and a husband who doesn't know HOW to clean- it DEFINITELY doesn't always look like that. I get really edgy when the house is a mess and can't bear to have anyone see things be less than perfect. It's not healthy. So just assume that all those with "perfect" houses are probably just a bit crazy, haha
Rosemary - awesome preschool news!!!, also....
Santa and good vs bad - yikes! so hard to avoid!!! It's all so contrary to the way we parent. I try so hard not to say good or bad, we've had absolutely no need for "punishments"or time outs (natural consequences like leaving somewhere during a tantrum, yes) and toys are never rewards; This whole "he's WATCHING and if you're BAD, no toys for you!" is so harsh for little people! no thank you! Yuck. Our Santa isn't about all that, i hope I can keep other people from planting those ideas in their heads
cross-eyes = neither of my girls ever had much beyond the first week or so, but most of the babies we know have had them happening easily for 5-6 weeks, definitely
afm -Dh has been away 2 days and won't be home until late tonight. I am so ready for a tiny break tomorrow
I just looked at the baby and she had a glob of glitter glue on her face. ummmm.....new rule - "we don't glue the baby's face". Actually, make that "no glue on the baby, period" - it will work better for the very literal minded toddler